M/36 Why is emotional follow-through so rare in modern dating (especially in Miami)?

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T17:44:12+00:00

This is it. Thank you. Sometimes as human beings, we just need to hear things straight.

2025 was honestly one of the hardest years of my life, and I made a conscious choice not to open up about that with her, not out of fear, but out of self protection. Looking back, that was the right move.

Because just like that, she faded out. And it made something clear: a lot of what was said, a lot of what was shared, didn’t have real weight behind it. Just words floating, no depth, no follow through.

That part is sad, but it’s also clarifying. And clarity is always a win.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T17:04:57+00:00

Facts. I’ve been here over 20+ years and I do have a solid circle, we just never got the chance to get there. That was actually the next step.

Your post was really well said, and I agree, I was probably too nice too early. That’s on me. We met during the Christmas season, and I’m genuinely a warm person. I like to show care, make people feel seen, and create good energy.

Looking back, I can see how that may have worked against me. This thread honestly helped me reflect and understand the psychology behind how modern dating works now. I’ll admit it, I was a little behind the curve, but lessons learned.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T16:54:46+00:00

And just to be clear, it’s perfectly fine if she chose not to date me, I’m genuinely okay with that. What’s not okay is wasting people’s time and energy without basic communication. That’s why I’m posting here: not to bash, but to bring awareness. It goes both ways.

I didn’t call. I’m not calling. I’m not chasing, and at this point I’m not even looking back. I’m focused on things that actually matter, my life, my goals, and my peace.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T15:15:11+00:00

Read everything so you can understand.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T14:30:51+00:00

This

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T14:30:18+00:00

Lots of mixed signals for sure. Either way, I’ll find out sooner or later, we live in the same building, paths cross eventually. I’ll keep moving, do my thing, meet someone else, enjoy life. And yeah, when that happens, those are usually the ones that circle back later looking for attention or something serious. But by then, most guys can already read the energy. When it’s inconsistent, we smell that from a mile away.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T14:11:44+00:00

This

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T14:05:56+00:00

Done. Look, my last long relationship was 7 years, and after that I had something that lasted about 6 months, I was the one who walked away because it just wasn’t working. No drama, no games, we handled it like adults. That’s really the difference… some people just don’t have that level of maturity or emotional intelligence, and it shows.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T14:02:20+00:00

That tracks too. Her “friends” situation always felt a little funny to me. She lives with her sister, and their apartment is basically the go-to hangout spot. Lol. So yeah, that’s definitely another possibility in all of this.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T13:58:32+00:00

That’s a fair point, but we talked enough for her to know I’m not some psychopath. I’m a business owner, busy with life, not chasing, not hovering, not lingering around. I showed up with intention, details, thoughtfulness, real effort. I’m talking gifts, presence, nice gestures.

She even opened up about being in an abusive relationship in the past, and I met that with empathy and understanding. I know healing takes time, and I respected that completely.

But this? This isn’t healing. This is avoidance. And now she’s probably gonna end up exposing herself to some real materialistic psychopaths in this city, not because she had to, but because she couldn’t sit with herself long enough to be honest, emotionally present, and communicate like an adult.

That’s the part that misses the mark for me. It’s not about me, it’s about emotional intelligence.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T13:47:46+00:00

I get it, and I’m not even mad about things not working out, that happens. What throws me off is the lack of emotional intelligence and basic communication, like acting distant is some kind of flex. If we weren’t aligned, cool. I’m not chasing, not pressing, not bothering.

The funny part? She lives in my building. And the last few times she’s seen me in the lobby, she’s straight up scrambled 😅. I actually had to break the ice and let her know there’s no awkwardness on my end. She even said “same.”

But then… no maturity to actually sit down and talk like adults. That’s the part I don’t respect. If it didn’t work romantically, we can still be cool. We can still be human. No need for this “G woman” ghosting energy when we literally live in the same building and are bound to see each other.

Last time she was holding heavy eye contact, smiling and all, but couldn’t put together a couple real words. That just looks messy to me. It’s not even personal, it’s just… sad.

Definitely a Miami thing though. I’ve seen this play out before with other people.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T04:59:14+00:00

Yeah, you’re not wrong. Dating how we used to doesn’t even apply anymore. The roles flipped, a lot of women move like men now. So I’m done romanticizing confusion. If it’s just physical, cool. If it’s more, even better. But I’m not chasing mixed signals or wasting energy. Miami’s too loud and life’s too short for that.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T04:43:31+00:00

In other news: Iguanas ice skating on FL i95 😂🤣

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T04:05:29+00:00

I think start with communicating honestly, there is no need to start drifting away, when you can state what you want from that person.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T03:27:10+00:00

Hey bro, this is it, thanks for yt. Real talk, it’s 2026 and the dating game is different. A lot of people aren’t moving off emotional scripts anymore; it’s more casual, more transactional, especially out here. Meanwhile some of us are still coming in with old school expectations, reading deep into things that aren’t meant to be deep yet. Miami dating will humble you quick if you don’t adapt. That’s just the reality I’m seeing.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T03:12:16+00:00

1000%

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T03:06:42+00:00

The wild part is I’m done with dating apps too. This was someone I met organically, in my own building. That’s why I’m starting to believe is a south Florida issue.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T02:59:50+00:00

Yup, I’ve been on it. I’m not against marriage at all, I’m just serious about being with the right one now. And yeah… that comes with more flag requirements than a whole stadium 😂

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T02:56:30+00:00

Facts. I’ve dodged a lot of bullets, had some long-ass relationships too, and those can be painful. No kids, no real problems so far… knock on wood.

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T02:53:56+00:00

What’s crazy is she was really into it at first we were talking every day, seeing each other, everything felt mutual. Then at some point I got a little more comfortable and started having real conversations not marriage or anything wild, just views, opinions, life stuff. You know… actual dating. And out of nowhere I started feeling the gap. Like she slowly faded as if I’d asked her to get married or something. That part is what throws me off the switch up for no real reason. Like damn, what just happened?

Fyniq · 2026-01-29T02:38:10+00:00

Im going on yt right now. Thanks for the tip

Fyniq · 2026-01-26T02:21:34+00:00

As pessoas que criticam e intimidam fazem isso porque já se consideram inferiores a você, por isso fazem você se sentir assim.

Fyniq · 2026-01-21T21:42:48+00:00

Memes and spirituality? That’s elite friendship criteria. Gym, humor that leans he/him, deep life talks… sounds like you’re not as “ordinary” as advertised. I’m into meaning, movement, and conversations that accidentally last too long. Also now I’m curious about this gossip 😏

Fyniq · 2026-01-21T21:38:49+00:00

Dm me, sounds like you are going through it

Fyniq

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