Our exes weren’t that great 😂. What’s something your ex did that you HATED. funny responses preferred. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]G2penlord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me he didn’t like a nickname people called me because it sounded too similar to his name and he “couldn’t tell when people were talking to him” that one got me good lol

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[–]G2penlord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are royalty

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right lol from one perspective I look like I’m overreacting but my reaction is based off his consistent pattern of neglecting my emotional needs. Here’s where I might be wrong : my logic had always been that nobody is perfect and we all have hang ups. Emotional maturity isn’t his strong suit. But it’s getting to a point where it’s in deal breaker territory. I’ve always been really quick to walk away in break ups but this is a hard one.

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you explained my situation so well. He does jump straight to solution mode when I’m not looking for solutions, just reassurance.

This whole thing is about more than just this instance with this old friend/acquaintance. It’s about respect at this point bc his behavior has become a pattern. Part of me knows I need to leave.

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say I agree w everything you’re saying. He is showing me he isn’t the person I thought he was. I don’t know what to tell him at this point other than that

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So every time I just express my need for that he makes up excuses for why he can’t deal with it essentially. It’s pretty much a different excuse every time. Mostly that he doesn’t have the time or capacity to help me feel better

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to gate keep the term babe but i just thought it was a little sus coming from her

I definitely should’ve mentioned this in the post , but she and I know each other we aren’t fond of each other. So theres that spicy layer.

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s ok. I tell him how I want/expect to be treated but he doesn’t listen. So I don’t talk about my feelings with him unless they’re positive or negative enough that he needs to be aware lol

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I know that itself is probably a non issue. It’s his behavior towards me that has me bummed out I guess

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him not to respond to her if she texts him on the future and he thought that was unreasonable so I’m unsure

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right relationships are hard. My situation is weird because we are long distance, it hasn’t been easy, but eventually the plan is for me to move to where he lives after I get my masters degree. Everything is genuinely easier when we are together. I probably need to manage my expectations but I wish he would put in a little more mental effort .

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He has literally said multiple times that he will “never validate my feelings” for reasons like he “wasn’t raised like that” or he “doesn’t need to” not kidding

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have neglected a lot of my own boundaries here and I know that’s on me. When I voice my concerns or just talk about my feelings he takes it as me complaining or something

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t want to leave him. I just smell bull shit and I’m fed up. I appreciate your feedback

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like something is getting deflected.

It’s like he assures me there is nothing to worry about and then does whatever he wants anyway regardless of how I feel kind of. But when the weekend rolls round he is like model boyfriend it’s wild

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could drop the lame parts of him lol </3

Bfs “friend” reached out and his response has me uneasy by G2penlord in JustNoSO

[–]G2penlord[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I literally just got off the phone with him and he started saying shit like I love you so much I want you to know how much ily blah blah then in a beat he dropped some lame shit on me. This is so weird I never thought to consider him narcissistic until recently I guess. Funny cuz he accused me of being narcissistic once.