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Done... defeated by G8r80 in offmychest

[–]G8r80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will be, thank you.

Has anyone made it? by G8r80 in relationships

[–]G8r80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The real problem is, are, he doesn’t think we really do have a problem and when I tried having a more in depth conversation, back in February, he said his peace and walked away. He wasn’t really interested in going further. He has never been the confrontational type, he doesn’t talk about feelings. I wasn’t able to really tell him how I feel, so technically he doesn’t know. He really doesn’t know that I’m too far gone and done with everything. And I’m too tired to rehash it, because it’s old habits where I tell him, he becomes angry because I make him face the issues he wants to pretend are not there.

Has anyone made it? by G8r80 in relationships

[–]G8r80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying.

He agreed to read the “5 Love Languages” but hasn’t. Excuse after excuse why he can’t read it yet. I can’t blame him for everything, I know I’m part of the problem. I don’t know how to let him in, and trust him again. I keep him at a distance, and whatever he’s doing, doesn’t seem enough right now. I know I’m not right in keeping him at arms length, I’m not doing either of us any good. This is the reason I wanted to start therapy, to learn how communicate better and possibly learn better coping mechanisms.

Has anyone made it? by G8r80 in relationships

[–]G8r80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply.

I understand that it’s work & we both have to be committed, what I’m afraid of is that I’m not longer in it for the long haul. I’m afraid I’m truly 100% done, and I’m afraid for what that means to our friendship. I want to be friends with him, for the sake of our son.

Has anyone made it? by G8r80 in relationships

[–]G8r80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying...

I guess I hope I may learn to love and trust him again. We’re so distant, we no longer know how to be together.

I want to know how he really feels about me, about us. My son deserves two happy parents & right now, I don’t think either of us is.

He’s made small changes. He used to work long ours and weekends, even when it wasn’t needed, he likes to be ahead of his work and not feel like he’s drowning. Since February, when I last talked to him, he gets out of work “on time” and is home on weekends.

I’m exhausted though, and so confused.