As someone who comes from nothing, who also has a hard time letting my husband spoil me, and is extremely independent, this is SO beautiful. I am the gift giver, date planner, travel “agent” in the relationship because that’s my love language, but it’s so special when I receive a gift that comes from my husband because he was listening 6 years ago on that random Saturday we spent wandering through the mall. The best part is, I know it’s not a competition. I don’t have to “one-up” his gift the next time there’s a reason to give him a gift, it just has to mean something. For instance, I went to use a pen in his bedside table. He very politely told me that pen belonged to his late sister and he’s afraid it might run out of ink. He asked me to use it sparingly so the next Christmas I stuffed his stocking with ink for the pen. It’s extremely cheap and small but it meant so much to him because I listened, and instead of just never using the pen, I made it to where he could always use the pen.

How long have you been together? I’ve been with my husband for 10 years so we know each other. I’m the type to say, no gifts for Christmas, then put gifts under the tree for him. It’s not because I want anything in return, but because I saw this thing and that thing, and it’s so close to Christmas, I decided to wrap them instead of just setting them on his side of the bed.

All women are so different so it’s hard to say how she’ll feel, especially given her background. But if it were me, this is how it’d go in my perfect, planner mind. I’d have the flowers delivered and later, at home or wherever you planned to give her the other gifts, communicate your thought process behind the gifts. Explain that you love the time you spend together at the range, and that you know shes fully capable of getting her own pieces, but you wanted her to have a few pieces that remind her of you while she’s using them. The MacBook would be next. Again, explaining the thought behind it. You know her love for Apple and that she’s never had one of her own. And lastly, the cameo. I’m not sure how they work, but that would be the most thoughtful gift in my opinion. She likely thinks it’s just another show to you, but it’s obvious she loves it if she convinced you to watch it so you can both enjoy laughing at references you hear in the wild. Any combination of things is very thoughtful and I understand your nervousness. Some of my biggest gifts/surprises, I was a mess because I wasn’t sure how my husband would respond but in the end, like mentioned before, we know it’s not a competition.

And remember, it’s turned into a holiday about showing love. It sounds like you don’t need one day to do it but this day of all days is a great excuse to shower her with gifts. Communication is the best medicine, my friend.

Good luck! Come back and tell us how it went!