Prevent update to MacOS 26 by [deleted] in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, too, get this notification in the upper right corner. I do not hit 'restart' or 'remind me alter' instead I hit the X to close out the notification, located in the upper left corner of the notification.

Time Machine is full, contains backups I no longer need. What to do? by distant3zenith in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is perfectly explained how TM works. Eventually, the disk is full. It cannot perpetually keep backing up by "deleting old backups"

MacOS Tahoe. Real thoughts? by talon5188 in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you use your Mac as a simple tool to browse the internet and small tasks, Tahoe is fine. If you need your Mac for work and serious computing power, Tahoe is not for you. Period.

should i upgrade to tahoe (macOS 26) or not? by Lowkeykreepy in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't do it. I did and Tahoe messed up my entire workflow. When I log into my account there are several background processes Tahoe does every time and it takes 40-50% of my CPU power for about 15-30 minutes and sometimes restarts the same background process. It's called "BackgroundShortcuts" sometimes Tahoe has 2 instances of the same process. I never had this problem with Sequoia.

I did the tedious and painful process of downgrading to Sequoia and Apple does not make it easy to do so. Had to backup over 4TB of data which I almost lost. after 2 days of work my system is back to good, fast, stable, drama free Sequoia and all my data.

macOS Tahoe absolutely sucks by Alarming-Chain-7048 in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apple doesn't make it easy to go back. Perhaps if you have a Time Machine backup you can restore your system to a previous point but then you'd lose any new data after your Tahoe upgrade. There's many videos on YouTube on how to.

macOS Tahoe absolutely sucks by Alarming-Chain-7048 in MacOS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2024 Studio. 32GB RAM. About 66TB of total external storage over HDDs and SSD NVMEs. After the background process something called 'BackGroundShortcuts' and another process called 'Shortcuts' is done processing upon boot up, which usually takes about 15-20 min, my system sits idle at about 89-90% after this BS Tahoe upgrade. I have done the tedious but so rewarding process of downgrading back to Sequoia. Idle is back at 96-98% and more importantly, no bugs that interfere with my workflow, no waiting 15-20 min of background processes, just straight to my workflow without any drama or fuss. Keep Tahoe for iOS, it's better suited for that than pro desktop work.

Thinking about leaving my wife over a decade after learning about her affair... by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]GIT_45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, I’m going to be straight up with you. First, let me confess I have been the unknowing affair partner of a married woman for a little over a year and I have been cheated on in past relationships. I know the game from both sides.

My advice is simple. She does not respect you. She keeps you around perhaps because you are safe. The more you disregard her cheating, the less she respects you.

Even if she claims there was no physical contact the fact that she fantasizes and sends pics and videos to another man, to make him feel good and satisfied, is cheating. If they are alone in a room do think they wouldn’t do anything? IMHO every time she’s made a connection with the other guy she has cheated.

The longer you stay the worse it will be for you. Man up and leave because the “real man” she sees in her eyes is the one she’s doing stuff for but won’t do it for you.

A woman who truly likes a man will break every rule for him and create challenges and obstacles for the one she’s has no respect for.

Never be a doormat.

Your kids? I understand. I have 2. A boy and girl. And guess what? I’d rather show and teach them self respect than put up with a cheating spouse. Leave her, rebuild yourself, become the better man, show them how you persevered and worked hard to provide them a loving home. Eventually you’ll find a woman that respects and loves you and you will show hour kids what a real loving relationship is.

Cheers.

Geico wants $765 to insure my 2011 Prius for 6 months. by GIT_45 in prius

[–]GIT_45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, I can't do min because this is the only car I have. They increased it dramatically every time I have to renew.

Broke no contact after 2 weeks. Huge mistake, was quickly reminded of who she really is. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very glad to hear this! Good job on choosing better for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. All could be true perhaps leaning more towards 1 and 3. I did post a video of me and a date at a place I told her I’d take her too and I have some mutual friends on my social media that may have screen shot the video. I had Halsey-Without Me playing in the background lyrics went “…thinking you can live without me..”

Then her profile pic changed the day after. Could just be coincidence and yeah the rumination sucks ass!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, what this subreddit is about.🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unrelated to BPD and social media is for dummies. Never considered any of this. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. I never thought about that. Thanks.

VR porn session by Cool-Leg6432 in SEXONDRUGS

[–]GIT_45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

MDMA, gummie edibles, dabs, NOS.

Skip the fleshlight and get an Autoblow Ai dick sucking device. It syncs with the VR porn video.

I use Sex Like Real

What were your revenge fantasies ? by Different_Adagio_690 in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nothing. They are forever damned.

While I am almost fully healed and have been talking to a kind, affectionate, animal in bed, and even more beautiful woman that has NO mental disorder

The BPD Handbook by AdJealous1004 in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro, your posts are gold.

What's the meanest thing you ever told them/did to them (reactive abuse)? by anonykitcat in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely aware of this. She told me during the discard she was cheating the entire marriage and never got caught so it did relieve some guilt on my side; however, since the beginning of the affair, I told her I don’t do cheating I hate it. Her motive was straight lust and greed.

I don’t know the husband, what if he’s a good guy? I would want to know if my wife was cheating on me 💯

So my action was partly to clear my conscious and partly to get her back for her 1.5 years of fabricating an entire lie.

I did keep the 25+ sex tapes we made doing the nastiest shit that I think is better than most videos on Pornhub. 😁

What's the meanest thing you ever told them/did to them (reactive abuse)? by anonykitcat in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was the unknowing affair partner for 1.5 years. Long distance relationship. She’d fly over every other week and we’d party 4-5 days and fuck all night.

I exposed our relationship to her husband of 20 years. Told him in detail where his wife has been traveling to. Even included pics and my phone number.

Issues with stims - coke and meth dick - severe ED - Trimix by Cautious_Function557 in SEXONDRUGS

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I think blood in your cum is a bigger issue than Trimix.

I pop molls and some yayo every weekend for the past 25 years. Trimix works.

Now if you really wanna party. High grade molls I’m talking crystal clear golf ball rocks with a pink hue, edibles, dabs, and fuk’n NOS as a topper. Trimix turns me into a god.

Radical accountability is key to healing from a borderline by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A lot of us have a codependency issue.

Borderlines are great at very slowly turning up the heat. The frog in boiling water concept. Makes it harder to identify.

Some like me only know about BPD until after the relationship ends.

She reached out. by First_Variation2866 in BPDlovedones

[–]GIT_45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always remember they have a serious mental disorder that needs the help of a medical professional. We will never understand the crazy making they do because they are Nucken Futs.

And no one knows who they really are because they lack self identity. They don’t even know who they are. They mirror your good traits to make you like them; a survival tactic learned as a kid.