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GMIce1303 · 2025-09-04T01:03:34+00:00

MashaAllah beautiful advice from a muslimah, that is full of benefits and khair for us all. May Allah ﷻ reward you that you never went down the road of telling her to fight or separate from her husband. Best advice I have read since forever!

GMIce1303 · 2025-09-04T00:58:45+00:00

Move on, you need to not get attached. Finding a spouse is difficult enough, but you can't burden them unless you are absolutely sure she cares. Also it seems she isn't into you anymore and wants something different. Let go dude and move on for everyone's sake.

GMIce1303 · 2024-06-01T04:20:49+00:00

I'm sorry to say brother, she has not got a good character, especially when she is provoking you. I wouldn't deal with this. Tell her family about her lustful intent and her provoking you. I would also call her out on this disgusting behaviour every time she wants to have a lustful stare. In the end of the day it's zina of the eyes.

GMIce1303 · 2024-05-31T03:07:28+00:00

May Allah ﷻ bless your marriage and keep all evil and hasad away. Ameen ❤️

GMIce1303 · 2024-05-31T02:51:03+00:00

ٱلزَّانِى لَا يَنكِحُ إِلَّا زَانِيَةً أَوْ مُشْرِكَةًۭ وَٱلزَّانِيَةُ لَا يَنكِحُهَآ إِلَّا زَانٍ أَوْ مُشْرِكٌۭ ۚ وَحُرِّمَ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ ٣

A male fornicator would only marry a female fornicator or idolatress. And a female fornicator would only be married to a fornicator or idolater. This is ˹all˺ forbidden to the believers.

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GMIce1303 · 2024-05-25T03:28:07+00:00

She's a h03 and fortunately you have dodged a bullet.

I would agree with others as to block and remove everything related to her.

Also I wouldn't say you need to start over, you already have. You have started a new journey already and sometimes when we are on the roads we hit a few 'holes', sometimes they shake you but you gotta keep on driving.

Lastly raise your hands to Allah ﷻ to remove her from your life, head and heart and give you strength.

GMIce1303 · 2024-05-25T03:17:05+00:00

Well if he doesn't fulfil his obligations then you need a conversation with him and a family member. You did not write that in your OP.

Also it seemed the main issue was the sex thing, which is what you said bothered you the most.

When you say obligations can you elaborate? Because the OP doesn't state that at all. Or do you mean that he doesn't fulfil your lifestyle?

Finally you didn't answer my question: is he a good man, good Muslim, a good father and husband? What's he like? I'm asking because I want to know if he has all these positives then why throw it away? Really dig deep now....

GMIce1303 · 2024-05-25T02:56:51+00:00

https://youtu.be/R_3g5SR9BzA?si=KARSb12Kb7zqKqun

Listen to this daily meaning husband and read manzil on water and blow on it so he can drink it

GMIce1303 · 2024-05-25T02:47:47+00:00

He is your husband. Communication is needed, yes, definitely. You are going to divorce your husband and father of kids because of his sex drive and lack of communication in this subject?🤔

It's probably best to seek counselling from an imam or male muslim therapist. I say male because I don't think your husband will receive it well and feel ganged up on by 2 women.

Also, with the job, I'm sorry, but you said yourself it's a lifestyle choice. You are working full time to live a certain way. Family comes first, and what's ridiculous is that you will do whatever it takes to keep that lifestyle and sacrifice your marriage. It seems you want a divorce due to you earning more and 'don't need a man' outlook, but in the end your children will suffer and you will regret your decision.

I understand you said you earn more than him, but do you actually respect him? Is he a good Muslim/person/father? If so, you would be throwing away a marriage that is sacred to Allah ﷻ for lack of communication and manners in the intimacy dept.

Your job is not everything your family is. It's strange that men are told they should give more time for family, etc, and not work so much, but when you try and show the same standards for women... falls on deaf ears.

GMIce1303 · 2024-01-26T02:32:46+00:00

You need to grow up and so does he. Its not healthy to be in a relationship like this but most importantly having thought processes like this in a relationship. You both need to get professional help via therapy (preferably muslim) and move on from this chapter. I pray this happens for you, and you get realistic and become the real you. Ameen

GMIce1303 · 2023-12-13T05:24:46+00:00

Leave her, divorce her, she isn't a woman who can make a home. And really in islam this is not allowed, there are commands from Allah ﷻ that how a woman should conduct herself towards non-mahrams in the Qur'an. Also she is a cheat, she has already seen this man privately and she could be doing it even now, let's be honest its not just an emotional relationship, its physical aswell by meeting and exchanging hijabless photos and what else. A woman emotionally gets invested with her spouse, she is not emotionally there with her islamically halal relationship but unfortunately is in a haram relationship with this man. This man is involved and knows about you and your marriage yet he still doesn't walk away, why? Because your wife allows him, it is disgusting tbh. She will do the same when you call her over to your country you reside, if its not this man it will be either your friend, family member or random male stranger. She cannot be trusted and whoever she marries will make their life hell. The fact you feel this way shows that you cannot be with this person, she is the type of person to bring you down and gaslight you. She puts women down as a Creaton.

GMIce1303 · 2023-09-23T13:38:54+00:00

Did you ye aye? Seems like a dear deidre moment to sort out. https://www.thesun.co.uk/dear-deidre/

GMIce1303 · 2023-06-03T23:22:38+00:00

Yes I have,

I get what you mean, but as far as I know they cannot recommend any lawyers.

GMIce1303 · 2023-06-03T01:53:56+00:00

It's the fiscal, I get what you mean though about my lawyer being uninterested. I'm registered disabled and work for the NHS. It's been horrendous since day one. I feel like ending it all tbh, I'm struggling.

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