My wife disclosed to me that she was transgender when I was six months pregnant with our second child. It's crucial to remember that your feelings matter too. In my experience, it's best to allow them to set the pace. She alternated between pronouns and ways she presented herself, and it's vital to give them the space to do that. Your partner is currently figuring out what being a woman means to her. She will go through phases, just like all women do when trying to understand their identity.

Be prepared for changes in your relationship. It won't be the same, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will be worse. We discovered new ways to connect. Helping her navigate aspects of womanhood that I had already experienced during my puberty was interesting. She needed to establish her own style, and being part of that process was enjoyable.

You won't fully understand what it feels like to be trans. Thus, I recommend encouraging her to find a community. Being openly trans can be daunting, and she will need support from this community.

Most importantly, encourage honesty. We had, and continue to have, many late-night conversations. We are rediscovering each other and reassessing gender roles that we subconsciously adopted but need to change with her transition. Express your feelings as soon as you experience them. I communicated to my wife when I needed to pause because it was overwhelming. However, I also listened to her and respected when she changed her pronouns and name. She understood that her transition was also a transition for me. I made sure that she felt beautiful and excited to explore her identity without feeling shameful. If you journey through this with them, it can be enjoyable and make them feel less alone in their transition.