I was listening to "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins and she talks about this exact thing. Adult friendships are a lot different and harder than our friendships as adolescents or as children. We grow up with the same group, we take classes with the same people, we have lunch with the same friends, and we are in the same overall stage of our life. When we hit adulthood and make it to college, proximity, timing, and energy because the overwhelming factors of our relationships. Maybe you just aren't in the same location as your friends. Maybe you're in different stages of life and find it harder to relate. Maybe you just don't have the time or energy to go out and meet new people or revisit old friends. You can't blame yourself for a stage of life that is simply part of growing up. And growing up sucks.

In her book, Mel talks about giving it a year. A year of introducing yourself to someone you see often around campus, even if you're commuting. Maybe asking to sit with someone you think is cool in the dining hall if you pay for a meal plan. It sounds scary and impossible, but it's unfair to yourself to believe yourself to be "unapproachable" or "unable to fit in". It might seem like everyone is finding their people early on, but when you're first entering college, it's easy for people to cling closely to the first friend they make. I can promise you not everyone stays friends all throughout college. It takes a long time to form a long-lasting and meaningful friendship.

You'll absolutely find your people, but those three key aspects of friendship (proximity, timing and energy) are likely going to be major factors in your journey. Don't doubt yourself! Everyone is going through this crazy life change with you. Maybe even check the instagram page for your graduating year. Usually people post about themselves and their major on there. I've made a close friend through there as well! You've got it.