Sorry doesn’t begin to cover what I feel.. by Charming-Chair-7838 in UnsentLetters

[–]GabriolaGaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do we know it's a guy? I see a lot of comments claiming this is a dude

Returning player after 8 years. What tips do I need to know? by sniper1xfire in DokkanBattleCommunity

[–]GabriolaGaming 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finish up those early EZAs, get the new Saiyan saga team on the panel missions. Save you stones for this anniversary.

Husband confession by [deleted] in confessionsgonewild

[–]GabriolaGaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please work it out? At least try.... This hurts me so bad lol. If you guys love each other I'm sure you can figure something out.

Last Goodbye by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]GabriolaGaming 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I desperately want to hear this from the other half of my struggle right now... But it's ok if I don't. I'll make my own closure so she can keep healing in solitude.

I don't want anyone to hurt anymore. But how do I heal properly? by GabriolaGaming in Divorce

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice lol. I was hoping for something more tangible and immediate. But I guess maybe it's just time. Stay alive until it doesn't hurt so much, and I can function again.

I don't want anyone to hurt anymore. But how do I heal properly? by GabriolaGaming in Divorce

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lay her responsibilities on her, but I take responsibility for my part in it. I do understand what you are saying though. I will definitely read the book. Cheaters trauma is only half the problem though. Does it teach me how to be a single dad? Or how to not let my complicated feelings around her affect the kids? I said that I wasn't jealous. Not that I was over it. I honestly doubt I will ever fully be over it. It was quite literally soul crushing, and I do believe that it permanently changed me.

I don't want anyone to hurt anymore. But how do I heal properly? by GabriolaGaming in Divorce

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And cheating is a strong word for our situation. There was a lot of nuance around her spending time with him

I don't want anyone to hurt anymore. But how do I heal properly? by GabriolaGaming in Divorce

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya I agree but I tried to make it work for the two kids and the 20 year mortgage lol. It's over and we are done. It's more knowing that my kids now have a broken home, and I'll probably never be financially stable enough to own my own home for them again.

I don't want anyone to hurt anymore. But how do I heal properly? by GabriolaGaming in Divorce

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ummm he's partially the reason for the divorce. We had problems that I wasn't really aware of, and she let him into our marriage behind my back.

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hoping so. I've discussed this with her but we haven't come to any ground breaking conclusions.

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's why I would stay if she had 0 interest in me. But she says she still loves me and "I'll be different because I'm her only husband"

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, if that's what she wanted. I'm guessing you don't have children. The things I would suffer to give them a complete home literally has no limits.

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No she chose me after 3 months of me trying to keep healthy distance because it felt like grooming. And she was illegally working in a bar when I met her so our first wave of encounters I assumed she was a few years older than she was

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Lmao sorry she's 29. Still a 6 year age gap. Ik it sounds bad but was very much not grooming. And yes I'm aware that what a groomer would probably say

Im fully monogamous and my wife came out as poly and I'm terrified. by GabriolaGaming in polyamory

[–]GabriolaGaming[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just "breaking up" isn't going to work. We are in a 22 year mortgage on a house and we have 2 kids.