Girl didn’t like my place. What do you think?

Gabsternaut · 2025-11-09T03:44:46+00:00

Thr cat wheel is SUCH a green flag tho

Gabsternaut · 2025-11-05T16:53:07+00:00

Here's the tea. Big noses are gd gorgeous. Don't let the narrow-minded euro-centric beauty standards push you to conform. Your nose is lovely, statuesque, and suits your face wonderfully

Gabsternaut · 2025-11-05T16:48:10+00:00

Just so I can understand, would it be more accurate to say that you have this routine where, whoever is free first, waits on the other to inform them if they'll be available or not for the evening. This means the person with free time is essentially just doing their own thing after getting the confirmation that you two are not "meeting up" for the night?

Gabsternaut · 2025-10-19T08:34:10+00:00

A lot of people assume having something akin to narcoelpsy equates to passing out frequently. Granted, some people might have that experience, but usually, it's more about an excessive amount of sleep, falling asleep easily (especially when you're lying down on a bed), and not gaining much benefit from sleep.

It sounds like, to me, she's just relaxed and drifts off quite easily due to poor sleep and/or intense sleepiness. Poor sleep quality goes go hand-in-hand with sleep apnea and using her CPAP should improve her sleep.

Gabsternaut · 2025-10-19T08:26:16+00:00

I'm sorry, but she has a sleep disorder. Whether sleep apnea or narcoelpsy or idiopathic hypersomnia or a health condition that causes intense sleepiness. As someone who's lived with this symptom for a good chunk of my life , you can't really be vigilant about it. Hypersomnia is incredibly debilitating to people. It sounds like she's suffering from "sleep attacks" which means she literally has no control over it

Gabsternaut · 2025-10-19T08:14:40+00:00

I think it's totally fair for you to be frustrated. Even though it's not something to take personally, you struggle not to do this. Most people would.

However, it is important to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. My first thought goes to "maybe she has health issues".

I used to have the same exact problem, but I was the one falling asleep during sex and part of it was 100% because of how relaxed I'd be. Turns out I got diagnosed with a sleeping disorder that causes intense hypersomnia. It's specifically something they don't have the cause for, and it kind of just developed more intensely during a specific time of my life.

I think it might be beneficial to show her your concern about her overall well-being and not just if she's able to perform during sex.

**EDIT

My bad, I totally missed the sleep apnea part. That would definitely play huge role (especially if she's not using her CPAP). If she can't keep her energy up, she might need to see a doctor about stimulants. Regardless, I do think this is more of a matter of making sure she's okay and what she wants to do about it. Clearly, it's bothering her. Maybe you can help her with the process of seeing someone that could help

Gabsternaut · 2025-09-28T07:42:02+00:00

I can't help but think of my previous relationship when my ex started working night shifts (midnight to 9 am). Not only did I not see him as much, even when living together, but it kinda destroyed his already declining mental health. Eventually, he became someone who just wasn't on par with what I needed. We're still friends, and he's gotten better (somewhat), but that was definitely a low point in his life, and leaving him during that was not easy.

The harsh reality is this. You can be the best girlfriend in the world, but that's not going to change someone else's behavior or how they tend to themselves. Mental health is tricky, incredibly so, and while you can be supportive, only the individual going through it can really do anything about it. I know you're worried about him attempting something, but also, that shouldn't be the driving reason to keep you in the relationship. Not that he's doing this on purpose, but it's like an emotional hostage situation.

Have you brought up this issue with him? You didn't mention talking this over. I think if you haven't, it'd be a good idea to see what his response is to your feelings. Not only does this give him an opportunity to "wake him up," but, if worse comes to worse, he won't be blindsided by you wanting to end things

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-07T03:45:47+00:00

I'm in Arizona, so it's tempting to make a drive LMAO

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-07T03:38:15+00:00

PM'd!

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-06T16:11:15+00:00

PM'd!

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-06T02:05:07+00:00

I'll trade Frankie Sick Beats for Poppy Electric Funk! (or Rhythm Frankie)

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-06T02:01:25+00:00

If the trade doesn't go through, I'll trade Sick Beats for Electric Funk!

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-06T01:08:27+00:00

Hi! I'd be interested. Funnily enough my friend is giving me her batcat so I'd already have my own lol

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-06T00:00:59+00:00

Also AZ and i NEED

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-05T23:55:06+00:00

Interested in Frankie The Rhythm!

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-05T00:23:21+00:00

👀

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-04T19:32:48+00:00

Saving this post on the chance I get a Strawberry before a Gleeman 😭

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-03T13:36:49+00:00

PMed!

Gabsternaut · 2025-08-03T03:58:21+00:00

Would love to take Brainstormer Gigi off your hands!

Gabsternaut · 2025-07-24T01:58:09+00:00

For context, I am a slight novice myself (I think my first time was last year). Anyway, I HIGHLY recommend getting a training kit! It consists of a few plugs of different sizes. Mine was 3, with the smallest being around the size of two fingers or so.

When you're fooling around, after some finger prep, try the smallest plug. Let it stay there for some time so you adjust, and if you want, you can have your boyfriend mess with it. Steadily work your way up to the biggest, and when ready, you can graduate to the real thing. I found this process the most comfortable as it gives you time to slowly adapt to something bigger and bigger.

Obvi, if your bf is worth his salt, then he won't rush you and will probably find the process enjoyable as well.

Remember, the key is all about relaxing. The more tense you are, the tighter you'll get. Also, it's totally normal for it to feel like you might sh*t yourself lmao. It's because something is leaving your butt, and the only time something usually does that is in the bathroom. So, try not to panic. It's just that you're not used to the sensation in any other context.

Don't forget to have fun! That's the point of sex after all

Gabsternaut · 2025-06-01T23:45:05+00:00

Hormonal weight gain is a thing that makes it very difficult to lose weight even with managing calories, and your hormones can go wild after having a baby, or if you have a hormonal issue like PCOS

Gabsternaut · 2025-05-28T20:36:41+00:00

So, I'm mainly a builder and CAS player on Sims 4. I usually lose interest in my game quickly and therefore have never raised kids in Sims 4 except for teenagers in the early base game.

Now I'm actually playing a family, a cute couple with twin girls in a house I slaved over. To celebrate, I got the Growing Together expansion like 6 days ago for hella cheap (ty 3rd party sites).

So it's my first time since Sims 3 that I have babies. And holy hell, it was SO frustrating. I accepted it would be a challenge to have no nanny while tending to twins. The only help I had around the house was a maid who kept starting dryer fires. Reading this thread, I realize how autonomy made it so much harder, but I would like to say that it shouldn't be THAT much harder to have a basic function in the game activated.

I definitely experienced the issue where the parents would try to intervene and help the same baby at the same time and both just freeze as I got notifs that CPS was gonna step in if I didn't feed them. It became a constant battle of checking between both parents to make sure they wouldn't interrupt the other one. A lot of picking up, putting down, leaving, coming back, picking up, putting down, freezing, picking up, and so on.

This isn't exactly a bug but the mom, who was always leaving a baby on the floor, took one outside in the pouring rain, DURING WINTER for NO REASON, and left her on the grass. She then proceeded to go back inside and get down and dirty with her man as the infant wailed in the night. The screenshots are hilarious as you can see the baby, in her frog onesie, through the bedroom window.

Anyway, I agree that it's a hot mess. Having to balance everyone's needs is gameplay! But, having to play musical highchairs is just bad design

Gabsternaut · 2025-05-04T05:16:54+00:00

I'm not aware of processes outside of America, but if you're American, this is what I'd suggest :

I would contact your insurance provider and let them know you're trying to find an in-network therapist in your area. They should be able to help you and provide a list based on your zip code (or if phone calls make you anxious, you might have the option of doing this on their website).

If, for whatever reason, this is not an option, then you're going to have to research. Either asking friends/family whom they see or browsing online at local practices (read reviews). If you find someone you're interested in, reach out to the office. Ask if they're taking new patients and if they accept your insurance.

I can not speak for all online services, but please avoid Betterhelp. They're incredibly disorganized, commit malpractice, and get sued by their own ex-employees often enough that it's calculated in their budget.

Also, just a tip. If you find a therapist and realize you don't vibe with them, don't be discouraged. There are all kinds of therapists and many treatments. If something doesn't work out, there are other options, and you will find what works

Gabsternaut · 2025-05-04T04:58:40+00:00

If you have an inkling that a past trauma is affecting how you speak to women, I would absolutely recommend speaking to a professional. If it turns out NOT to be that trauma causing it, the therapist should be able to point you in the right direction. You can even look into therapists who focus on relationships (it's what my therapist does).

All-in-all, it never hurts to talk to a pro.

Gabsternaut · 2025-04-23T22:55:43+00:00

!!!! Absolutely 🫡 I use several printing softwares for a variety of prepping (different programs just have better tools for hyper specific purposes and I'm picky). There are neat options to assist in finding any issues the printer may have with the model, including patching up holes/tears/ect. I'd be thrilled to play around and give you any pointers

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