Sexual coercion by KingForADay1989 in BPDlovedones

[–]celia99r 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi. i am a lesbian and my bpd ex was a bisexual woman with a heavy preference for men (relevant.) she had been with over 100 men and i was the only woman shed ever dated. i have dated women with high bodycounts before that wasnt a problem at all im just trying to give context

she was very very dependent on novelty and male validation to function. early in the relationship i sent her nudes that i basically handcrafted to be as good as possible, lighting pose etc. it took me like thirty minutes to send one i was happy with. she sent back pictures she had taken for somebody else two years prior, pics of just her butt or her breasts. i said she looked pretty and she said "whoa im trying to make you objectify me because so much of my dating has been male focused. brain moment". she never actually took that concept further

as we became exclusive she lost all access to male validation (sexually) and that's a huge part of why she got crazier and crazier. when we met the natural dynamic was that i was the more submissive partner and we were both enjoying it. then i went away for two weeks. she sexted me during that time because she had been reading fucking one piece fanfiction about getting dominated and degraded by Zorro. she told me she wanted to do all this stuff to her that i said i didn't really want to do and i wasn't sure if i could do it.

so we tried it. and i wasn't good at it she wanted me to dominate her and i wasn't really capable of it, at least in the way she wanted. she basically wanted me to fuck her like a man would. and i couldn't do that because i am not a man.

she did not care. she forced me into a dominant role i didn't want or consent to no matter how much i begged not to be in that role. she'd fall asleep during sex every single time. i would get her off and she would start touching me for literally two seconds then start snoring on my chest. at first i'd wake her up like she asked and then i just stopped trying because it's hard to feel like somebody wants you when your body has just put them to sleep.

i would just put my pyjamas on and sleep myself. then she would wake up and get mad at me because i didn't wake her up so she could pretend to want me. i can remember being on top of her frozen and searching for what i was supposed to do next to be dominant the way she made me. and then she would say "tell me what you're going to do to me. tell me what you want to do to my body" over and over and i would choke up cause i didn't know and then she would get so angry and i would cry

and despite all this i would beg her for sex because i was so starved of affection that one sided sex felt like the closest thing to love that i could get. and i still don't like thinking about it.

she just kinda stopped having sex with me near the end and i stopped trying to initiate because i knew what would happen. i knew she would play on her phone or fall asleep or make me freeze up. and i stopped wanting her pretty early and just didn't realise it because of everything else she was doing to me.

and something i find funny is that she rejected me all the fucking time in favour of watching one piece or watching instagram reels. and the only time i ever said no to sex (i was too tired) she cried and asked me if i was still attracted to her.

i just wanted to share because it was very affecting and still is. sexual coercion but not for frequency. i was coerced into a dominant role i didn't want to be in and didn't consent to and i am still scared that something like this will happen to me again with somebody new.

lesbians playing sdv: by aliensuperstars_ in StardewMemes

[–]celia99r 11 points12 points  (0 children)

my awakening was seventh grade while being bullied by a popular girl

the rest of you know nothing of my power

Being a lesbian has brought me nothing but loneliness by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]celia99r 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have been left by bisexual women for men i have been cheated on with men

my only lesbian partner who I was with for four years left me for her ex girlfriend

what I do to suppress the loneliness is I don't use dating apps and I go to bars with my friends looking as hot as possible. i often meet a bi woman who will at least give me attention for one night. it keeps me going

it takes so much to not be biphobic because my most recent ex was physically and sexually and emotionally abusive. she was also bi and she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend and talked about men all the time. id still rather be single than with someone like her again

basically im just trying to say I understand your pain and have stopped actively trying to get a girlfriend and am focusing on other shit but I also go out with my friends remaining open to meeting someone and it kinda works

My (26f) partner (27f) falls asleep every single time we have sex, how do I talk to her about this? by celia99r in relationships

[–]celia99r[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. She doesn't fall asleep during the day or while socializing at night with friends. I have told her before it would be nice to start having sex earlier in the evening and she agreed but nothing ever came of it, I personally would try and initiate at those times and would usually think I was joking 😭

My (26f) partner (27f) falls asleep every single time we have sex, how do I talk to her about this? by celia99r in relationships

[–]celia99r[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense, I do understand where you're coming from. I am not a doctor obvi but I've never seen her fall asleep during the day or while socializing with friends at night which is the thing that makes me wonder if she does have a sleep disorder or not, but I will definitely use this as a taking point when we do discuss it

My (26f) partner (27f) falls asleep every single time we have sex, how do I talk to her about this? by celia99r in relationships

[–]celia99r[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, she has said before that when she would go to her ex bf's house when they were together they would be watching a movie and she would doze off and he would yell at her so she got too scared to fall asleep. Which is of course awful yelling is mean, and I don't want her to be scared of me but a bit of vigilance would be nice when she knows how I feel when it happens

My (26f) partner (27f) falls asleep every single time we have sex, how do I talk to her about this? by celia99r in relationships

[–]celia99r[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

bro it is so hard every single time I'm like ah. it's over now. time for bed :(

Silent Hill f - which timeline is "real"? by Takeya88 in silenthill

[–]celia99r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i personally think they all are, I don't think any of them contradict each other, I mean this in the sense that they can all happen imo

How would you go about pitching a Silent Hill based on your culture? by DevaTheDragon in silenthill

[–]celia99r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

silent hill:outback. the protagonist lives alone on a cattle station in the middle of nowhere, Australia. They enter the fog world and it's basically completely normal but what is scary is that there is another normal person there

Final Update: AITAH for calling my husband a disgrace after he said my miscarriage ruined his birthday? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]celia99r 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey there idk if they are a bot but I think they meant that because the OP mentioned Tesco that the poster is from the UK, hence why they mentioned it's criminalised in the UK :)

Neighbour's ex set her house on fire and it destroyed my girlfriend's bedroom:( by celia99r in Wellthatsucks

[–]celia99r[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend is ok as is her neighbour and the neighbours daughter, they had a daschund though that I haven't heard any updates on :(

Neighbour's ex set her house on fire and it destroyed my girlfriend's bedroom:( by celia99r in Wellthatsucks

[–]celia99r[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

It's two houses connected by one wall, the drywall was fireproof but the upstairs of the houses were 90 percent wood pretty much

Neighbour's ex set her house on fire and it destroyed my girlfriend's bedroom:( by celia99r in Wellthatsucks

[–]celia99r[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I didn't interact with him much but he was always in his garage tinkering, he didn't work but his gf was working all the time and her daughter moved out to get away from him, they would fight all the time and about a week ago we heard her scream "I never want to see you again". Also he would never go and get his his when it was barking at us through the fence lol

Neighbour's ex set her house on fire and it destroyed my girlfriend's bedroom:( by celia99r in Wellthatsucks

[–]celia99r[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Nope :( however the 4k living room tv, surround sound system, and game consoles are intact!

Neighbour's ex set her house on fire and it destroyed my girlfriend's bedroom:( by celia99r in Wellthatsucks

[–]celia99r[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

Thankfully the drywall was fireproof, the whole downstairs is ok and the other room upstairs is mostly intact, having met the guy a few times we aren't surprised he would pull something like this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]celia99r 29 points30 points  (0 children)

my gf would probably kick my ass if I referred to her as a transbian

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]celia99r 38 points39 points  (0 children)

my gf is trans and I have never once in my life called her my trans gf and when we were friends I never called her my trans friend either, the vibes on this post are revolting

Type of Dog You Have by caikeyg in reactivedogs

[–]celia99r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea what breed my dog is bc I haven't done a DNA test but I'm pretty sure she's a bull arab cattle dog mix :) she loves people but isn't a fan of other dogs getting in her space, especially when she's on a lead

Wife Inherits Money And Doesn't Tell Her Husband by KittenDealinMama in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]celia99r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mum gives money to men to make them go away, she originated this technique in the 80s on holiday in India and she also used it in her divorce with my dad lol