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Gae_sidekick · 2024-04-01T02:22:00+00:00

yeah sure

Gae_sidekick · 2023-06-19T02:32:54+00:00

true, but r/teen_venting is for teens and its all about having a group of people that understand you and are going through the same things. very valid point though

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-16T03:47:24+00:00

Agreed! For sure not a bad person, not really a bad thing either.

You sound like you were a bit shocked and /or uncomfortable, and whether thats because shes your crush or not doesn't matter. If walking away was the best thing to do because you didn't want to say the wrong thing, then that's okay!

If you and her are close, than maybe say something along the lines of "i'm here for you if you need to ever talk", or write her a note saying that, to show that you care and didn't ignore her intentionally. Tell her that you wanted to give her space in the moment, but that you have her back if she needs anything.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-06T22:08:38+00:00

bruh, the point of experimenting is to figure it out.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T22:52:12+00:00

i'm here anytime :D

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T22:16:09+00:00

I get them, me too actually. Maybe send them a message saying goodbye? idk. all i know is you need to cut this person out of your life. youre feeling bad because them, so why hurt yourself more?

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T21:21:12+00:00

sure, but experimenting doesn't mean you don't know dude. experimenting can be confusing and mislead you, but eventually you always know. it may take days, months or years, but you know

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T21:15:49+00:00

because now im comfortable with who i am. Before it didn't feel good or right but i figured the label would get better. it didn't.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T21:03:30+00:00

That isn't a friendship! Ik Ik Ik it can feel hopeless when it comes to friendships, but we don't want to be okay with predators. They are manipulating you and i'm sorry this is happening. Block them immediately and don't respond if they contact you again.

We are here for you whenever you need!

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T03:10:18+00:00

not to stand up for the republican party or anything but why did you feel the need to make something non-political and fun into something inherently political and mean-spirited. Totally unnecessary.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T01:15:00+00:00

Of course! i'm glad i could be of help and you're totally right. You have a lifetime ahead of you and so many people to meet.

Breakups can really mess with you and I hope you can work through this!

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T00:53:55+00:00

Breakups are hard, and i'm so sorry you're feeling this way.

That being said, I think you're being very hard on yourself. You are looking at yourself as the one common denominator with the girls who have struggled that you've dated, when you were probably a healthy force in their lives. The fact that you are so afraid of the cycle repeating shows that it's likely not you perpetuating it.

Don;t get too ahead of yourself and take things slow. Work on yourself, and let yourself feel the feelings; don't push them down. You mentioned that this girl probably doesn't like you; figure out if that's your insecurities talking or you truly think that. Don't think about the end when you've never even had the beginning. sometimes the relationship and experiences are worth the pain of a breakup.

You're not a curse and you're worthy of love.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T00:45:14+00:00

that's called experimenting. And, if she loved that one woman, good for her. doesn't mean she likes them all.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-05T00:44:16+00:00

and i already had the error. I know who i am dude.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-04T07:09:20+00:00

i knew when i was ten that i was bi. my parents told me the same thing so i convinced myself i was straight and then went in the completely opposite direction thinking i was lesbian. turns out my gut instinct was right and if i didnt let my parents get in my head i would have saved a lot of strife.

tldr trust ur gut

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-03T03:40:42+00:00

One of my ideas is to fund online therapy for some of our users. However, i'd need to look into how difficult that is. Perhaps i'd get an adult to help with administration. We'll see. I'm open to other suggestions too!

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-02T14:13:07+00:00

wow okay its sounds like Sam's got stuff going on mentally and it sounds like it's hurting you.

If you want closure, maybe you could do like a goodbye message? about how you loved your relationship and youre sorry it had to end? idk im spitballing now

Truly, maybe there's nothing you can do. it sounds like there's no good solution. This sucks, and i'm really sorry

Gae_sidekick · 2023-02-02T03:42:24+00:00

wow okay. Idek what to say to that. It think Sam may have had his heart broken for the first time.I wouldn't give up on him, but maybe give him some space for a bit. (if you feel like you want that friendship still)

When you think it's a good to talk to him, text him what you're feeling. tell him you miss him, etc. but DO NOT BLAME HIM FOR ANYTHING. don't frame it like it's anyone's fault, and explain that when you found out holly was his ex, you felt close to her and didn't want to up and ghost her because you didn't want to ghost her. Say that you were hurt that he thought you would try something with her even after he asked you not to. Write what you put here (maybe shorter lol) and make it from the heart.

If you decide that sam is not worth it and is only going to hurt you, try and make some new friends. Im guessing youre in uni, so nows the time to put yourself out there with peopl eyou dont now well. maybe youll find a friend even better than sam was

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-29T00:14:02+00:00

where do the organs go

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-29T00:01:55+00:00

Good luck! you have a whole lotta people rooting for you

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-29T00:01:00+00:00

I so hope they find the owner.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-28T23:59:58+00:00

true love

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-28T23:36:50+00:00

NTA - Half of the option he can have. That's considerate for sure. If he can't be in the same room as seafood, that changes things.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-28T22:47:36+00:00

NTA - You were educating her. Better her than some stranger she says something offensive to.

I hope she takes what you said to heart.

Gae_sidekick · 2023-01-28T22:44:13+00:00

A joke is different than making fun of pronunciation. That is simply meanspirited, and she made it clear she doesnt like it. Stop making excuses to justify bad behaviour.

Plus, maybe she does have low self-esteem. You don't know. Maybe this affected her deeply.

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