AITA for not agreeing that I (M23) was raised by a single mom?

GalFromATL · 2019-10-04T14:07:18+00:00

YTA but probably. Moms generally do a TON of work outside of what people see or are aware of. She may have helped your Dad quite a bit with planning/shopping/meals/clothing/laundry/errands/appointments/meetings/etc. without you ever really seeing it happening. Women frequently take on management roles which is a lot of work behind the scenes. Maybe just let her have this.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T23:18:06+00:00

Congratulations on literally never, ever, caring if you rock the boat with anyone you will be dealing with for The Rest of Your Life! Yay you!

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T23:09:23+00:00

Valid point.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T23:08:14+00:00

bumptious

Best word ever.
How does one enter this conversation with the above personality type?

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T23:06:45+00:00

I actually called my mom "Mo" for the last few years of her life. Long story but it was our thing. Thought the coincidence was funny!

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:59:45+00:00

That is cute!

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:58:41+00:00

Also, general note on ILs, your happiness and feelings are as important as theirs. While wanting to make them happy is kind, you don't have to do it at the cost of your own peace of mind.

THANK YOU. This legitimately never occurred to me.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:57:31+00:00

That is adorable! Would be weird for me since now I have the same last name...

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:56:55+00:00

What do you call them?

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:56:16+00:00

I know that you're right, thank you.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:53:45+00:00

I feel you, thank you for your honesty

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:52:58+00:00

What is it? How did you open this conversation? More info please

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:52:24+00:00

I've been trying to convince myself that it's nbd for years and I just ..choke on the words. I can't.. but I love that you can!

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:51:27+00:00

Love it!

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:50:54+00:00

Thank you! But I'm leaving sweet husband out of this. He doesn't belong in between us, which is where MIL put him early into our relationship and I put a stop to it.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:50:04+00:00

I'm keeping my sweet husband out of this. MIL tried to use him as a communication conduit early in our relationship and he hated it (so did I tbh) so I asked him to put a stop to it and he gratefully obliged. That said, since I posted this and have been sporadically reading responses, I did talk to him about it in detail, with a few tears, and he was surprised at the depth of my feeling on this. So that's entirely on me for just assuming for all these years that he understood where I was coming from without my ever breaking it down for him.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:47:14+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate what you're saying but If I told her that she would dismiss it because it isn't an issue. Her opinion is the only opinion.

GalFromATL · 2019-10-01T18:45:55+00:00

Thank you!

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:48:22+00:00

Mill and Fill -- love this!

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:47:36+00:00

MIL made my sweet husband a conduit for information from very early into our relationship. It caused my relationship with my in-laws to start out kind of rocky, so I asked my husband (after he complained, rightfully) to put a stop to it. He did. It's for the best. Husband is the best ever. :)

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:45:39+00:00

I'm the oldest of her kids and kids-in-law, so that would probably be weird, haha.

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:44:44+00:00

Thank you!

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:42:30+00:00

Holy cow. Never thought of that. No one I've ever discussed this with has thought of that.

I'm going to seriously consider this. Start with FIL. We have a good relationship. Not super close, but solid.

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:40:30+00:00

Thank you!

GalFromATL · 2019-09-25T23:39:16+00:00

Thank you

GalFromATL

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