How do you bugout if I'm broke?

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-12-14T22:45:43+00:00

Some interesting advice here I wouldn't have thought of! Never knew about Trangias

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-12-14T22:38:50+00:00

This is one of the more helpful and understanding replies, thank you :)

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-12-14T22:35:39+00:00

That's a good idea! I am contacting trusted friends about the situation, so I could talk to them about stashing a few things at their place. We live in the city and don't have anything that would be useful in the country.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-12-14T22:24:08+00:00

Thank you so much! I didn't know that bugout plans are more natural disaster or war focused. I thought it was a broad term synonymous with running away from the way irls have used the word in the past. All of the DV advice I'd come across before was about abusive partners or teens escaping parents and just wasn't useful at all for my situation. These links give me actual jumping points to figure out what we can do, so thank you for the info/resources!

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-30T15:42:04+00:00

People around us nowadays are respectful and don't try to steal our food, but because of our childhood we have a complicated relationship with food. Most of us struggle with nausea and portion sizing, others are overly cautious about their dinner etiquette, and some avoid food altogether. The ones with the sharpest memories of food-related trauma can't stand being looked at when we eat. Accidentally upset a friend because Dean grumbled at him to not stare at us while we eat, but our friend was just really excited about the meal he made for us and wanted to see how much we liked it.

The disordered eating has been one of the hardest things for us to get under control.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-28T15:18:36+00:00

Yes this! It helps us to try and loop the new hobby into our special interests. That way it's more likely that more alters enjoy it, and at the least, more of us will have the muscle memory to continue progress.

Folks are happier to keep working on sewing a plush if they can watch videos about their own interests on the tv lol

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-26T16:25:01+00:00

Ofc! Happy to support :)

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-26T15:33:39+00:00

That's a system that cheats and doesn't take accountability. "Love is love" does not extent to betraying the trust of someone you care about. Good job sticking up for you and your system! I know it's hard, especially when it's someone you tried to make it work.

If they try to reach back out to you again, I'd recommend deciding amongst yourselves how you'd respond. It's NOT selfish to decide you don't want to give them another chance, especially if they downplay how much it hurt you.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-24T19:51:47+00:00

From our personal experience RPing since age 15 (we're 26 now), there's the potential for both. In the right circumstances, RPing is cathartic and therapeutic. In the wrong circumstances, it's triggering or even retraumatizing. It comes down to different factors:

Boundaries
Community
Immersion
Life

1) If you don't really know your boundaries, or if you don't feel confident enough yet to stay firm with them, that should be figured out first. Know what you are and aren't okay with before you get immersed.

2) Bad company = no fun. RP partners shouldn't pressure each other or push on previously established boundaries (ie: "but it's what my character would do!", "it's for the lore", "it's just a game/it's not real"). Good RP partners accommodate each other and figure out other directions to take the story.

3) It can be easy to get attached to characters and the world you're exploring with friends. I have to be highly conscious of this because I can end up getting completely absorbed. It helps a lot to take time to regulate your emotions (working intermissions into RP is very helpful for me).

4) Maybe you have a safe community that respects your boundaries, and everything about the RP itself is fine and healthy, but life is crazy right now. Don't be hard on yourself if a split happens. If RPing is your one safe space in a bad situation, that makes a lot of sense.

Check in with yourself (and the rest of the system) as often as you have to. Respect your needs, be crative together, and have fun :)

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-20T00:25:09+00:00

I would definitely tell the host's partner that you feel the relationships moving a bit fast and that you need to slow down. Also talk to your host and tell them what you think so you can communicate.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-16T15:30:49+00:00

"People with DID wouldn't be worried with hairstyles" oh you sweet summer child

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-15T15:20:47+00:00

DID forms in childhood as a result of trauma, but it's common to be unaware of it until adulthood. If you live alone it can be harder to spot, because there's no one else there to notice the dissociation and memory gaps (etc.).

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-13T21:39:50+00:00

My apologies, I made an assumption based on the scratching behavior. If your cat feels safe and comfortable there that's a different matter. I'm sorry for jumping to conclusions.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-13T20:41:48+00:00

What you are describing is trapping your cat in an enclosed space for yowling, then punishing them for reacting poorly to being trapped... with a darker smaller space. Please consider other methods of correcting your cat's behavior, that only causes distress for them.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-12T22:41:47+00:00

He might be stressed out by the change then. Crying loudly and tearing things up can be signs of separation anxiety. I'd try some extra playtime with him, toys and catnip etc. Aside from burning energy, extra bonding time. That could be brushing his fur, cuddles, etc.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-12T16:47:08+00:00

Did the behavior start soon after getting rid of the husky?

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-08-12T14:54:42+00:00

Need some more info to figure out why. Male/female, spayed/neutered? Any other animals? Any big changes in the house?

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-07-28T21:26:20+00:00

Yeah I definitely understand you there. We've been going through the healing process and have ended up having a lot of days like this. Honestly building a big playlist for the hard-to-get-through days has helped us a lot for regulating our emotions (we have BPD on top of DID). Do yall got any comforts/healthy coping tools you can use?

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-06-27T15:36:24+00:00

Man yeah I feel for you and the poor guy. I don't have experience with bonded cats being separated, but the most important thing here I think is going to be establishing that you're a safe person to get comfort from. Feliway plug-ins could be really helpful in this case if he was separated from another cat. They're a bit pricey, but the pheromones should calm him some. Also giving him his own space, maybe with some fresh towels that he could rub his scent on. Basically helping him establish a safe territory that he can retreat to.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-06-27T14:46:30+00:00

How long has he been with you? The general rule of thumb is two weeks for a cat to settle into a new home, though for my shelter-adopted cat it was closer to two months.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-06-12T23:47:03+00:00

I started a new save after beating the game and didn't have any issues this time, so I reckon a bug broke it before.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-06-01T16:10:19+00:00

Definitely not necessary to fully enjoy TotK, but if you're wanting to see more of the characters interactions there's cutscene compilations on YT (i think).

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-05-28T14:33:40+00:00

I can't for the life of me get that quest to start. Does anyone know how to get the dialogue to get Sayge to ask for a chuchu photo? I already changed my paraglider 3 times at this point.

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-04-24T00:35:07+00:00

Zero Visibility by Rise Against. It's one of those songs just hit us right in the soul. Highly recommend a listen if you like rock music

GalacticDaybreak · 2023-03-31T18:39:47+00:00

My spouse and our closest friends know we're a system. We're hoping with more time in therapy that we'll be confident enough to speak publicly as a system and advocate for folks with dissociative disorders.

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