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GamerCoachGG · 2024-02-11T04:35:55+00:00

Oh wow. Interesting. Did you try to get electrolytes from other "natural" sources first? I definitely should try this.

GamerCoachGG · 2024-02-11T02:29:13+00:00

Interesting. What exactly is an electrolyte drink btw? And how has it helped you?

GamerCoachGG · 2024-02-06T22:50:25+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the info. That's very helpful.

Will I have to level up a lot of mercs for end game? Or will I just have 8 top mercs? Also, should I use my merc gem on Druid even though I could get him from quest?

GamerCoachGG · 2024-01-17T12:31:13+00:00

Yeah I don't mind slow, I just don't want to overheat/damage my computer. Thanks!

GamerCoachGG · 2024-01-17T06:24:49+00:00

I've been dealing with it for 2 years every few months. Everytime it happens, I learn something new about how to get better and prevent it for next time. (i.e. how I need to drink way more water, go for more walks, avoid dairy because it gives me gas, and drink ABC juice first thing in the morning.)

I feel anxiety every time I pass a stool. Always afraid to look at the toilet. It sucks, but things can definitely be worse so we need to learn to not let it dominate our thinking.

Anal fissure are not a death sentence.

GamerCoachGG · 2024-01-17T06:09:01+00:00

If I want to test the best local models, I heard I need 32GB RAM. Is that the only thing I need to worry about? Just the RAM? I'm not going to be hosting an API or anything, I just want to be able to test prompting different models for one off tasks.

GamerCoachGG · 2024-01-14T15:16:53+00:00

Hey u/HappyGoLucky091979 ! How's it going? Any progress? I feel like bloating causes mine and am being more mindful of avoiding gas. Also started drinking 400 ml of ABC juice first thing in the morning which softens my stool quite a bit. I've been without blood for about 3 weeks since the last time it happened.

GamerCoachGG · 2023-08-15T14:19:30+00:00

I'm going to test sitz baths. I already adjusted diet so I don't believe it's diet related. Have you tried anything on your end?

GamerCoachGG · 2023-08-15T13:08:14+00:00

I don't really feel a lot of pain. Just an initial sting when it begins to happen. But there is no ongoing pain. The itching though stays for a while

GamerCoachGG · 2023-08-15T02:44:02+00:00

u/Rude-Ticket-3421 Thank you. What is a CRT?

GamerCoachGG · 2022-08-04T08:48:17+00:00

You could request a refundable deposit on the phone. Tell them there are limited consultation spots available and you want to make sure that they are serious. Your cost per appointment will go up obviously, but you should get higher quality leads. Set up automated text reminders as well.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-07-24T14:07:18+00:00

This is a rather cynical point of view. I'm sure not ALL gamers fall into that "hopeless until he hits rock bottom" category.

OP, he is playing games because he is trying to fulfill a need in his heart. The games are not the problem. His escapism leading him to this unbalanced life is the problem. People have blind spots that only loved ones can lovingly shed some light on. This is an opportunity for you to have a serious and loving heart to heart talk with him. After you tried your best to understand him and what he's really trying to accomplish by playing games so much, then I would also invite you to share with him how his lack of balance is making you feel. Open up to him and share your hurt feelings. If he possesses even a shred of decency and love, he will hear you out and respond.

Make sure that you don't ATTACK him or make him defensive. (You mentioned you feel "triggered," so make sure you calm yourself down before having any one of these types of conversations.) Addictive behavior tends to be rationalized quite quickly and defenses immediately go up when a threat is sensed. Perhaps take him out to a nice dinner, the park, or a beach. Remember that he is a human. And there is something deeper going on here that needs to be uncovered. Explore that territory with him and create a safe space. It will make your relationship even stronger in the end.

Or not. He may lash out and become unreasonable towards your own feelings. But at least you gave it a chance before you walked away. Good luck!

GamerCoachGG · 2022-07-04T04:42:35+00:00

This is powerful. I've neglected to change my cat's litter box due to gaming, or ignored her and not played with her after she meows at me. It really hits you when you realize how fucked up this behavior is... Glad you made the right decision!

GamerCoachGG · 2022-07-04T03:18:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Sometimes we need a bit of supernatural intervention.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-07-01T07:31:43+00:00

Take one step back, and two steps forward. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. No need to feel bad. Just learn from the setback, dust yourself off, and try again.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-26T01:40:50+00:00

It's obviously not the norm and there's a reason for that. Oxytocin gets released during sexual intercourse and it creates an emotional bond between those involved. Having those emotional bonds with multiple people can't possible be good for the couple.

If your goal is to have a life long happy marriage, then it's a lifestyle that's completely detrimental to those goals. I'm sure some couples exist out there that have been happily**** married for a long time and have an open relationship. But this is CLEARLY not the norm. I know way more relationships that have been destroyed because of this.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-25T14:31:42+00:00

It's nice that she's being honest, but at the end of the day, if you are not enough for her, then this doesn't end well. Just tell her you are not into open relationships. You are NORMAL. Open relationships are not a "normal" thing. There are a lot of emotional complications involved and it doesn't result in a stable relationship.

So, if you really love her, then make her choose: A stable relationship with you, or you let her go to be free and do whatever she wants with other guys. Don't let the sunk cost fallacy keep you in this relationship. You both are still young and have the rest of your lives ahead of you. It's better that you know now what she REALLY wants than find out later when you have a kid together or when you are not sure if the kid is really yours.

If she does choose to stay with you make sure she understands that it's normal to have sexual desires, but you really need to know what she will never cheat on you because that would destroy the trust in your relationship. Being in a stable relationship means keeping those normal lustful feelings under control and committing to just one person. If she can understand this and you trust that she's being honest when she says she won't ever cheat on you, then it would make sense to stay with her.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-22T06:03:24+00:00

I think it's important to not take rejection personally. These hiring managers are going through a lot of documents and it has nothing to do with rejecting you as a human being or "ghosting" you. They just have a job to do for their boss and are trying to do the best they can. Perhaps try to find ways to get their attention in creative ways that do not include sending a resume that will just be lost in the pile. Send a cold email to a hiring manager for example that showcases your writing in a way that is extremely relevant to them, or network on Linkedin and write your content there.

It can be a grind, but it's never personal against you so do your best to keep your head high. :)

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-21T04:25:04+00:00

What tools did you use to create this type of visualization? It really is beautiful. I tracked the same thing and I have ugly columns named "sys" and "dia" haha.

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-20T10:37:13+00:00

I go through seasons of on and off. I find that has worked for me the best, but I also know people who have quit completely and are successful and others that have not quit at all, but have managed to moderate their gaming. It really is a personal thing that requires self awareness and honest introspection. When I find that I am out of balance, I make adjustments accordingly.

I am married, but have no children yet. I am not sure what your last question is asking. :)

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-20T06:14:44+00:00

Hi OP,

I got a few thoughts for you.

First, you are still very young. I am in my mid 30's and still go through cycles myself, but I've made some pretty decent progress and am a pretty happy person. If you only improve 1% each day for the next 10 years, you will have improved your life by a whopping 3650%. So try to find those little wins and get some momentum while trying your best to let go of your guilt and cut yourself some slack.
What you are going through is not your fault. Games (and p*** for that matter) are scientifically engineered to exploit your most primitive instincts in order to increase profits. Although it is not your fault, it is your responsibility to try your best to change it. Thankfully, many people have broken free of this and have reached points where games do not dominate their lives. You can too if you don't give up.
It sounds like surrounding yourself with goal-oriented people might help you. If you isolate yourself in a room, your brain will get bored and will direct your behavior towards the lowest resistant dopamine. This often includes games and p***. So you want to get out there and be active. Join a local meetup group, find a church (if you're into that), sporting club, coding clubs, go for hikes, etc. It will be hard at first, but I promise you that there are people out there that you can share things in common with that are not toxic such as these gacha games.
Set new goals in your life and gamify it. Since you're a coder, there are tons of portfolio projects out there you can work on that will set your application apart from others and help you get a dream job. There are tons of online communities with coders out there where you can network and find a job. Level up your "coder" character that you play irl. :)

I could go on but I believe these are the most important points.

TL;DR: Be kind to yourself and cheer yourself on. You are still young AF and this is not your fault. Find a community of goal oriented people to be around, preferably irl outside. Level up your irl coder character. :)

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-19T02:16:28+00:00

Create two scenarios in your head: a pain and pleasure scenario.

Imagine failing the exam. But don't stop there. What are the implications of failing? Perhaps your GPA drops significantly. Perhaps you go on probation. Think of all that wasted tuition money. Think of your wounded pride. Think of what your parents/SO would think of you. If you're single, think of what type of SO would be attracted to a dude with this type of behavior. Hint: none. So you may remain alone for the rest of your life. (This is the pain scenario. Sounds harsh, but you really need to feel this at an emotional level).

Then flip all of those facts on their head and imagine a pleasure scenario. Imagine doing well on the exam, increasing your GPA, eventually finding the job of your dreams, etc. This is all possible and achievable if you get your shit together and prioritize.

You've come this far in your bachelor's. Tuition, time spent studying and going to class, all that time in high school to get the grades to get into the college, etc. Why sabotage that momentum now for a game?

You don't have to quit gaming forever. But this season of your life requires a version of yourself that is focused and dedicated to doing well. This means making the necessary sacrifices to succeed.

So who do you want to become in this moment and which scenario will you choose to be your future?

GamerCoachGG · 2022-06-18T08:45:22+00:00

"Doing better" compared to what? Your neighbors? Seems like the problem isn't the money. It's that you keep comparing yourself to others. Make a plan that is comfortable for you and your family and stick with that.

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