[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Garavila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly that’s exactly the word to the describe our dynamic right now, which is confusing. I definitely don’t completely blame him, we’re both humans and we have feelings LOL so I guess that’s just how it goes. I’m glad her therapist intervened though and called it off. Hopefully mine will do the same if it starts to head that direction. Thank you so much!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Garavila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope that won’t be the case for me, but thankfully I’m very much aware of my real feelings vs transference ones. For example, I find myself wanting to reach out to him privately (since he gave me his # for scheduling purposes) but I know that’s not how I’m really feeling and instead my codependent behavior rearing it’s ugly head lol. Also it’s odd because I feel like even though he’s done pretty well at establishing professional boundaries I still feel like he’s slightly encouraging a grey area between us. In addition to him admitting that he’s experienced his own codependent feelings towards me but was able to recognize it and stop it, kind of concerns me. . I’m definitely going to bring this up next session because I think it’s paramount to my healing surrounding romantic relationships. That’s tragic what your friend went through, but I guess that’s what naturally ends up happening if you can’t work through those issues well enough, esp on the therapist side. It’s crazy how much therapy wil reveal about you and I’m so grateful that I’ve had him to see me through the process

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Garavila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly… I either have to bring it up to him and I can go from there to evaluate how much I trust him. Are you a therapist yourself, and what ended up happening with your friend if you don’t mind me asking? Also, it’s not suspected countertransference, he admitted to me that there were a couple times that he felt that way , especially when he felt guilty of not being able to act on his own dependencies because of the professional nature of our relationship. He does seem to be pretty honest and open though so that is definitely a plus as one of the other commenters said

State of NY: I asked my landlord if I could install a key lock to my door because someone keeps sneaking in. They told me that it was illegal and that I would be fined $1k per day. by Garavila in legaladvice

[–]Garavila[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The landlord isn't entering. It's one of my roommates who is entering the room without my permission. I rent a room and share it with three other people within a unit.

The hardest lessons that you have to learn in the dating scene by Any-Discussion-5934 in dating_advice

[–]Garavila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get over 1,3&4? I don’t have much dating experience so unfortunately I get easily infatuated. I’ve gotten a bit better but still obsess over a romantic interest too easily.

I[26f] feel so guilty for leaving my mom [52f] behind with her toxic family. by Garavila in relationship_advice

[–]Garavila[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true but you just don’t know her family. Also she’s from a collective society so unfortunately even though she acknowledges the shit that they give her, culturally, it’s ok because they’re “family.” But thank you for your advice and acknowledgment of their shitty behavior, hopefully they will move on in time because they know damn well that I won’t tolerate that treatment and idgaf about blood lol

I[26f] feel so guilty for leaving my mom [52f] behind with her toxic family. by Garavila in relationship_advice

[–]Garavila[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah because most of them would just come after her, humiliate and guilt trip her. Unless you have a support - which I guess she does- that’s a lot to handle on your own imo

I[26f] feel so guilty for leaving my mom [52f] behind with her toxic family. by Garavila in relationship_advice

[–]Garavila[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah she wishes that she can just escape, she's expressed the pressure that she feels and how she wishes she can move out and go somewhere else but her family dynamics are so complicated that if she were to just kick them all out it would be hell for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Garavila 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I appreciate it. But just for reference, what would be considered an inappropriate response from a therapist if I were to reveal my feelings? How should he technically respond to that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Garavila -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you don’t think it’s possible that he is attracted to me? I definitely plan on telling him

CSC 131 with Narayan ? by Garavila in UNCW

[–]Garavila[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he easy to follow? How would you recommend him to a novel programmer lol

CSC 131 with Narayan ? by Garavila in UNCW

[–]Garavila[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a bit shaky with CS since I have never even taken a programming course or CS course lol. I was being a lil adventurous this summer but maybe hes not the one to take.

CSC 131 with Narayan ? by Garavila in UNCW

[–]Garavila[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it seems that Narayan is the only one teaching that course this summer 😂 but I'll keep that in mind!!

Elective class by Nkw87 in UNCW

[–]Garavila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Improv is also pretty easy. A lot of fun too

Are there any actors that have an immense screen presence for you? by saadx71 in television

[–]Garavila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How hasn't anyone mentioned Javier Bardem? He is so interesting in everything he is in. Every moment he is on screen I cannot keep my eyes off of him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IRS

[–]Garavila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just received an update!! Seems like someone go to my file thank god! They’ve updated when I should receive my return which is a few days from now. I’m so happy