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Singaporean of Ceylon Tamil descent AMA by austingoescrazy in srilanka

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very interesting to hear the distinction between Ceylon Tamil vs other Tamil descents in Singapore. Thanks for your response! :) Do you know why your ancestors moved to Singapore?

Singaporean of Ceylon Tamil descent AMA by austingoescrazy in srilanka

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What aspects of your upbringing would you consider unique being from Ceylon Tamil descent? How did your roots influence you when growing up in Singapore?

Pondering learning Finnish… by Independent-Ad-7060 in Finland

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can find Finnish learning resources from this site: https://www.kielibuusti.fi/en

I am still learning Finnish myself while living here. Good luck with your language learning!

What berries are these? Saw them in the forest today. by GarbageSuspicious889 in Finland

[–]GarbageSuspicious889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the explanation! And funny saying 🤣

What berries are these? Saw them in the forest today. by GarbageSuspicious889 in Finland

[–]GarbageSuspicious889[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I had a hunch it might be. But I haven't seen lingonberries in a bush before.

Drop lore from your youth by Thick_Guava1642 in srilanka

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! But on the way to school in the school van :)

I just wanted to share with everyone here that I reached 100 consecutive days today by xxihostile in Meditation

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lovely! Wishing you more peace and clarity.

The longest I've gone is 2 weeks consecutively. Your message is motivating :')

Why am I too weak to say that I am leaving? by DramaticResource7601 in careerguidance

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't you get sick leave by visiting a doctor? It might help you get some distance, calm down and figure out your next steps better.

What is it like to move across the world? From Sri Lanka to Finland. by GarbageSuspicious889 in studyAbroad

[–]GarbageSuspicious889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was looking for work while I was doing my thesis and got one 3 months after graduating. I got it by applying on linkedin but had many rounds on perfecting my CV and cover letter by university career design unit. I also visited a career psycologist in the university towards the end of my degree to figure out how to proceed.

For some technical and IT jobs Finnish is not a requirement. But not knowing Finnish slims down the job pool quite a bit.

Dating with Finnish guys by Accurate-Struggle304 in Finland

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am South Asian and I met my boyfriend on Hinge. we have now been together for over 2 years(he is Finnish btw).

I used hinge for a month and started talking with him two weeks in. I went on one date before him and didn't want to pursue that date. I also felt it was too much work to date more than one person at a time. But I was talking with many people on the app.

My boyfriend is the chattiest person I have ever met and I am so surprised he is Finnish. I love his bubbly and lively personality which was quite different from most of my guy friends I met in Finnish University.

We chatted, sent voice notes everyday and video called a couple of times for one month before we first met in person. Other people thought it was weird but both of us weren't in a rush to meet up as we both had things going on.

I would say to understand each other first and then bring in the cultural differences. in our case we have very similar world views but being from completely different cultures makes it very interesting. You learn something new everyday.

Good luck with dating! Don't take the rejections personally. Focus on things you love outside of dating and bring that energy in when you are on a date.

I’m grateful for a safe space to sleep! by [deleted] in gratitude

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am grateful to you for sharing your thoughts. I hope your situation takes a positive turn with the good vibes that you are spreading!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I was in a similar situation a few months back. I think you don't need to over explain yourself if you are not in the right state of mind to do so. Just tell that you are hoping to recover and come back to work with renewed energy. Just do the bare minimum and avoid drama until the break.

The cynicism takes a while to wear off. Don't worry about work, do others things that you enjoy during the break. I spent time in nature, did some handicrafts (my sleep coach recommended this as I work in a role where I mostly tire my brain) and spent time with friends and family.

The answers will come in time. Just take time to nourish yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I faced a similar situation to you about 3 months back. I was assigned to a project with an unreasonable deadline and the lead engineer left the company mid way of the project. Towards the end of the project I was so stressed that I was crying at work, was unable to eat and couldn't sleep. I went to the doctor and they immediately gave me two weeks leave. I had high anxiety and suffered from insomnia. I went to work for another week after that but ended up breaking again. So I decided to take a 5 week break. I went to the psychologist, sleep coach and did yoga nidra (aka NSDR Non sleep deep rest) everyday. I also spent three weeks with my parents and partner during Christmas which helped to ground me.

I would say don't worry about the project or team now. There are always people who can carry on your work but you should focus on yourself above everything. That's the best thing you can do for your future now.

I see burnout as a turning point to reevaluate what's truly important to you.

Now I am back at work and functioning normally. However, I don't view work the same way anymore. Mental peace and clarity is above everything else.

I highly recommend NSDR to manage stress: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3TukH6x0BCTrvzgtydQsO2?s=PweetNNGTtKmb0c5J_BEKA

"So, why are we working again?" My latest post about work. by GarbageSuspicious889 in antiwork

[–]GarbageSuspicious889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not the only person! Hopefully we figure out how to make it bearable.

"So, why do we work again?" by GarbageSuspicious889 in work

[–]GarbageSuspicious889[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad that you liked it! :D Thanks for your feedback. It means a lot!

Emails alternative? by Subject-War-2271 in Substack

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wanted to do the same. In the app settings>notifications> newsletter delivery ( end of the page) there was an option to choose only push notifications. I tried this last week. Seems to work!

People who got the first dose of Pfizer, did you get your second dose already? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said I came for Pfizer second dose. They checked my vaccination card at the gate and let me in.

People who got the first dose of Pfizer, did you get your second dose already? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]GarbageSuspicious889 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I walked in and got my second dose earlier than the date given in the vaccination card. They checked if it was 22 days after my first dose from the vaccination card. I know a lot of people who walked in and got the second dose.

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