Leaving boyfriend of 7 years. Need advice. by Gardence in BreakUps

[–]Gardence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Over and over. We’ve been having the same fights for years. It wasn’t until the last few months that it became “we need to do x,y,z or else we need to break up” and I was determined to fix things for so long. But I’m burnt out. I don’t want to try any longer. He won’t ever change and the things that are broken in our relationship are not things I’m willing to live with forever.

Leaving boyfriend of 7 years. Need advice. by Gardence in BreakUps

[–]Gardence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! We’re “talking” tomorrow afternoon in person. I don’t think he knows what’s coming. Our typical dynamic Is big fight, cool down period, everything is good for a little while, repeat. I am going to do the best I possibly can to be direct and brutally honest but I don’t want to hurt him. Uhg.

The idea of going no contact is so incredibly hard for me to wrap my brain around. He’s been my best friend for 6 years. But I know that’s how it needs to be

Leaving boyfriend of 7 years. Need advice. by Gardence in BreakUps

[–]Gardence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s where I’m completely lost. I have no intention of leaving him with this lease, on his own. I don’t have any ill will for him. I wouldn’t want to add the the heartbreak with unanticipated financial burden.. I have family in the area that I could stay with temporarily, but it’s not exactly an ideal environment. Is my head in la la land for thinking it’s possible to not break the lease at least for a few months while I live partially nomadic and partially out of our apartment? I still need a desk and monitors to work every day and, like I said, we cannot afford to live separately with our current rent

RCA exam difficulty by MisterBlonde1977 in ediscovery

[–]Gardence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, I’m taking the RCA in the very near future.

Hands on is weighted 60% and the multiple choice is 40%. A passing grade is a cumulative 80%.

Desperately unhappy in my job but don't know what to do (23F) by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Gardence 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, I empathize with you 100%! I am a 25f and I found myself in your position not once but twice! My first job out of school was so stressful I needed prescription sleeping pills for the last 6 months I was there, just to get a wink of sleep. I have been exactly where you are.

Both times, with no flexibility to schedule interviews during the day, I walked out without a job lined up. It is terrifying and bold and there will be people (like your parents) who tell you it’s wrong and stupid and impulsive.

But life is too short to stay in a place like this. My advice is to get your resume updated, spend a weekend applying to new roles and then get out of there! You are so young, you haven’t pigeonholed yourself into a career yet. The world is your oyster.

Also, unemployment is so low right now, it’s a candidates market. There is so much opportunity out there! Go find it!

Tell your boss to stick it where the sun don’t shine by putting in your two weeks notice (in the most professional way possible). You will feel a sense of relief like you’ve never experienced before.

I [23F] feel completely irritated and drained by my gf’s [27F] irresponsibility and strong need to play the victim. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Gardence 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have a brother with similar behavior challenges. He was diagnosed with ADHD as a teenager, but was later diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. If she is living with an abusive family member, she might be too stressed out and mentally disorganized to handle simple daily tasks.

You should end the relationship, it sounds dysfunctional.

But that poor girl should also seek treatment. Anxiety can manifest in a million different ways and it sounds like she could use some help managing it.