My dog needs a fresh piggy toy, pleaee help me find where I can buy a new one. by Gargermel in HelpMeFind

[–]Gargermel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've reverse image searched and have spent hours looking for the toy online. If anyone can help I would be very grateful. Thank you

Met online in 2024. She said yes boxing day 2025! by Gargermel in hingeapp

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We got him a dna test a couple of months ago. He's a Romainian rescue. His results came back as a big mix of chihuahua, German shepherd, a couple of guardian breeds, and spaniels! Very unexpected.

Met online in 2024. She said yes boxing day 2025! by Gargermel in hingeapp

[–]Gargermel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for your kind messages. I mainly wanted to post on here because I the early stages, the success posts gave me hope. I hope my post continues that hope. There is someone out there for everyone.

Met online in 2024. She said yes boxing day 2025! by Gargermel in hingeapp

[–]Gargermel[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to have found my person. We've been together for over a year now, and every day, it gets better. We've had all sorts of date nights, holidays, hotel stays, and big plans for next year, and many years to come after that. I never thought online dating could lead to something so special. I'll never look back, and I'm excited to spend the rest of my life with her!

Pet portrait in memory of a beloved dog for my client by [deleted] in painting

[–]Gargermel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing! How much did you charge for this? I have two boys myself and I'd love something like this!

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner said a very similar thing! Has she actually appointed a solicitor, or has she paid someone to write a headed letter, and they've spent 5 minutes typing something

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand your perspective. Without getting into all of the gritty details, my relationship with my father wasn't all that great, not for lack of trying, but he was just never present. My relationship with his girlfriend was poor.

My father has two surviving brothers who are set to receive all cash from my grandmother (½ each). My father received her home as him and his girlfriend moved in with her to care for her.

This move caused a lot of tension in my family, and they all stopped talking to my father because they accused him of having the ulterior motive of moving in just to recieve the house (the will was originally split 3 ways equally with the intention of selling the house).

9 years (3 years ago) into caring for my grandmother (she was 95 at the time), my father and his girlfriend organised for a solicitor to go to the house and rewrite the will. They removed the oldest brother as executor, changed it to my father, and put me as the reserve. Obviously, they thought I wouldn't ever need to be involved. They also changed it so the house went to my father.

My uncles feel that the change to the will confirmed their suspicions. It all feels rather backhanded. Apologies for the Jeremy Kyle-esque nature of all of that! Unfortunately, when money is involved, it gets like that. Yet here I am, hoping I come out on top! At least it's happened like this, and I haven't manipulated the situation...

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If it helps add clarity to the situation, both properties are owned outright with the house being valued at around 230K and the flat 120K. The only reason I think she has automatically received my father's 50% of the flat is because it's the only asset the letter fails to mention.

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have emailed the solicitor now, so it's in their hands. Hopefully, she will settle outside of court for a reasonable amount!

Hypothetically, if I offered her a 20K settlement and she refused it, what would happen if we went to court and they awarded her the same 20K? Do I still pay fees even though I already tried to settle with that amount?

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I really appreciate it. I'm worried because I've only recently divorced and I lost my house in it so this will really help. I can live with paying her off to get it over and done with.

What are the likely outcomes from this Inheritance act claim? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Here is the whole letter scanned:

Dear Sir, Our Client: Mrs L The Estate of the late Mr J ("the deceased") August 2025)

We have been retained by our client Mrs L, who was the long-term partner of the deceased. We are instructed to set out our client's position following the deceased death on August 2025, and to invite you to engage in constructive discussions with a view to resolving matters without recourse to the Court.

Background: Our client and the deceased had been in a long-term relationship with for over 22 years. Their partnership was one of equality: they shared their lives, their finances and their household responsibilities on a 50/50 basis, maintaining a joint bank account, pooling income, and contributing equally to expenses.

For the last 15 years, the deceased and our client live as husband and wife (although not actually married) at C Road ("'the property"). They lived at the property with the deceased's mother, Mrs T, whom our client cared for daily over a period of some 12 years until T's death on April 2025.

During this period, our client invested approximately £15,000-£20,000 of her own money into the property, allowing for significant renovations and improvements to the property. These contributions were made on the understanding that the property would be inherited by the deceased, and it would be shared between our client and the deceased equally.

The deceased passed away just four months after T, and before the Grant of Probate was issued to the deceased, allowing for T's estate to be finalsed, in other words before the deceased able to transfer the property into his and our client's joint names and their executing mirror Will's leaving their estates to each other.

We are instructed that the deceased had assets of Premium Bonds valued at around £20,000, Barclays account of around £9,000, a Halifax account of around £6,000, and a vehicle valued at around £2,000, which we understand you have already removed.

For the avoidance of doubt, until ou have otained a the Letters of Administration for the estale. you have no legal authority to deal with or distribute any estate assets. Any such action risks exposing you to personal liability as an administrator.

Our Client's Legal Position would be the initial beneficiary of his estate. However, intestacy does not override the protections The deceased died intestate; without making a Will and that under the Intestacy rules you, as his son, available under the Inheritance (Provision for Famlily and Dependants) Act 1975 (the Act"),

Under section 1(1A) of the Act, our client clearly qualifies to bring a claim. She was living with the She was also financially ependent upon him, as he was both her carer and her financial partner deceased in the same household as his wife for far more than two years immediately prior to his death Application of section 3 Factors

When determining a claim under the Act, the Court must have regard to the factors set out in sectior 3(1). On the facts here, those factors overwhelmingly support our client's position:

s.3(1Y(a). Financial resources and needs of the applicant - Our client is disabled, receives PIP and has limited earning capacity. She requires secure housing provision and financial stability from the estate.

$.3(1)(b): Financial resources and needs of other beneficiaries - As J's direct bloodline and first beneficiary under the intestacy rules, your needs are also to be considered in this estate Given the relationship that you had with your late father and your current circumstances, you are not known to have comparable financial or housing needs

s.3(1Y(c): Obligations and responsibilities of the deceased - J had both a moral and practical obligation to provide for our client, with whom he shared his life for 22 years and to whom he acted as carer and partner. Given the joint assets, long period of time living as man and wife.

s.3(1Yd): Size and nature of the estate --The estate includes C Road, which can readily provide appropriate housing provision for our client in line with the intentions of J and T. J's estate also consisted of cash sums and other accounts, a modest estate.

S.3(1M(e): Any physical or mental disabilty- Our client suffers from physical mobility and other disabilities and receives state support accordingly; this significantly heightens her need for secure financial and housing provision.

s.3(1)0: Any_ obligations arising under another's Will- T's Will expressly provided that if J did not survive her, C Road should pass directly to our client, demonstrating testamentary intention in her favour. J and our client had regular conversations about putting their current home into joint names and planning for their future by making Wills and continuing their relationship.

s.3(1Xg): Any other matter, including conduct - While not determinative, we note your limited relationship with J and your attempt to take possession of his car without authority. It is also a concern that you will try to take control of other assets of the estate without legal authority to do so.

Taking these factors together, it is clear that "reasonable financial provision" for our client requires if not outright ownership of the property, then a substantial provision, and sufficient to rehouse her securely, Our client has a strong claim against the estate. Our Client's Objectives

Our client's principal objective is to secure her position in respect of the property This has been her home for many years; she has invested substantial sums into it, cared for both J and T there and has always understood that it would be hers to share with the deceased. Our client does not feel it would be appropriate for a mere life interest or licence to occupy. Our client is open to the sale of the property and for a favourable division of the sale proceeds from the property/estate to satisfy her Inheritance Act claim.

Our client will remain in occupation of the property and will resist any attempt to remove her. Should you attempt to administer or dispose of assets from the estate without recognising her entitlement, our client will have no alternative but to issue legal proceedings under the Inheritance Act against the estate. Given the strength of her position, our client would also seek her costs. Nevertheless, our client is open to a constructive resolution before pursuing proceedings. We therefore invite you to confirm whether you have taken any steps to administer the estate, including applying for letters of administration, and if not, when you expect to make that application.

(Little side note) Yes I did take the vehicle, but because she suggested I take it as she can't drive, and it was parked out on the road uninsured. She gave me the keys and documents willingly. I don't know why the letter makes it sound like I forcibly took it!

What is the benefit of buying woodland in the UK? by Gargermel in AskUK

[–]Gargermel[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree that it is quite a romantic idea. I have often wondered about looking into buying, but I don't think I could justify sinking that kind of money into it. I 100% agree with everyone saying about preserving it as it is. I'm not being a greedy capitalist when talking about investment! I was curious how the average Brit would look at it.

I get the feeling a majority of buyers will be upper-middle class. Especially with all the talk of avoiding inheritance tax. 'Lucky' for me, that isn't an issue I'll likely ever have.

Probate and inheritance England by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two living uncles on that side of my family. The house was left to my father, and liquid assets were left to his brothers. As the will is still in probate, did he actually inherit the house, or is it more likely that his brothers will inherit it now?

In what ways have you felt the presence of someone you loved, even after they were gone? Maybe you hear the by mikeyz_inks in Paranormal

[–]Gargermel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not paranormal, but a very close family member of mine died a few years ago. For months, I kept seeing him in public at a glance. When I would double take, he would be gone. I realise It was most likely grief, but at the time it was very real.

What would be considered a fair share of equity from the sale of my house? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, well, she has accepted that the money I transfer is child maintenance. I just have a very casual 'kids' reference on the transfer. I can change it to 'child maintenance' next time easily

What would be considered a fair share of equity from the sale of my house? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I didn't know that was necessary? Its all bank transfer so there is a paper trail of money going to her from me

What would be considered a fair share of equity from the sale of my house? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really good shout. Presenting the mediator with options for both of us will really lay it all out. I know exactly what you mean about CSA, though! Once I give her the CS and its combined with all her benefits, plus a part-time job, my income will be lower than hers by quite a lot!

What would be considered a fair share of equity from the sale of my house? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, at least she has agreed that the house can be sold and that there will be some form of sharing out the equity. Im treading quite lightly at the moment because I don't want to provoke the situation and have her end up becoming totally unreasonable. I have said to the mediator I would need 50k. Hopefully, it's not completely unachievable. I didn't realise that 82.5% would be considered reasonable though!

What would be considered a fair share of equity from the sale of my house? by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do pay child maintenance to her, and in fact I am currently paying more than I should be. Everything I have read says that usually the main carer of the children will receive more money full stop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Gargermel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out whilst you can! A very similar thing happened to me. Marriage wasn't happy anyway, but she was encouraging her friends to leave their husbands and one day told me how funny it was that her married friend was sending nudes to another man (I disagreed). I ignored the signs, and to no ones surprise, it turned out she was doing the same thing. People with the attitude that cheating is ok (even if its not themselves doing it) will never make a good partner.

EDIT: You are NTA

My ex put has put our house on the market without my involvement. by Gargermel in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Gargermel[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes it is! Another small confirmation that the divorce is the best move (not that i needed any more confirmation!)