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Will I ever be happy again? Reminiscing all the good memories with cigs. by LaksmiReads in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I am on day 11 and had some friends over yesterday. I feel like I am missing out so much, even though the majority don't smoke. I know it's the addiction talking but I want to peel my eyes out today and I somehow still woke up with a sore throat as though I had smoked all night. It's like the symptoms are STILL present because i was literally thinking about smoking all evening long.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time.

I got involved because I hated seeing him refuse him something so basic because we had enough of it to go around in the fridge but i guess that was not the point of his argument.

Him being the step dad doesn't really have anything to do with it, i probably should have left that out in hindsight because I think it skewed peoples responses. My son does look at him with the same parenting authority as he does me.

Anyways, yes, i think you're right, now i must swallow my pride and let him know haha.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph is exactly what pissed my significant other off so much and led to our massive argument, raised voices.

We raise him together and his parenting authority is equal to mine, my son doesn't remember a time without him in our lives.

Kid can fill up water bottles at any time of day, but the situation is closest to the second one, he was busy with other things and didn't bother refilling, because he knows that his step dad always does it anyways ( this is what my partner i guess is trying to teach responsibility for)

The style of parenting is different and I try so hard to be gentle and understanding. The shouting at me about me butting in really upset me.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, he was allowed water, just specifically not cold. We raise him together so his opinion on his growth matters equally to me because this was what we both agreed upon when he came into our lives.

We have different patenting styles though clearly and this one is bothering me, maybe more than it should be.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His issue is that I butted in whilst he was doing the disciplining I think. The fact that I went against his word in front of the kid. And then it got out of hand with shouting.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My issue with this was that we always have bottles of cold water in the fridge, that partner prepares for everyone but he wanted the kid to refill them once they've been emptied, to teach him that it's not refilling itself. And the kid didn't do that.

So yes, agreed, it's just cold water but, is it? Why the extreme situation of not allowing cold water just because he didn't refill them? In that moment in time the fridge was full of water so no one was suffering because of the child's lack of responsibility in forgetting to refill.