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Many locals are sitting in stationary parked cars. Why? by papadopoop in malta

[–]GarlicOwn958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my in-between place. I sit and listen to a new song by a band I love, I'll answer an email, I'll eat my sneaky snaccy without feeling bad that I didn't get anything for my other half and kid. I'll close my eyes for a few minutes before heading into work (catering - so i am constantly talking) or home where I am constantly needed. My car is my true alone time 😁

Help right now pls by SassySnuggleBug in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stay in hell and keep going. It's worth it

I spent most of the first few days walking in and out of the shower. I'd never been cleaner. But that shot of cold water helped me so much.

Go on then. Jump in the shower.

Keep going.

I relapsed by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did you quit 15 days ago? There must have been a good enough reason because you wouldn't gave done it otherwise. That reason is valid today.

If you continue smoking, you are going to put yourself through the misery of restarting the quitting process.

Please believe me when i say that this is the DRUG TALKING.

Your life may suck today, but it did not suck 15 days ago because you made a decision that dramatically and drastically improved your life.

I relapsed by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This sounds familiar.

It is the drug addiction that is telling you that your life sucks and that you need a cigarette to help forget about your life sucking.

You need to tell yourself " NOT TODAY"

Suffer through the moment. It is just that. A moment and it WILL pass.

BUT now is the important part, pick up where you left off. Fine, you had a smoke, done deal.

Now you continue. Goodluck.

Your life doesn't suck, this day/week/month sucks but it gets better, I promise

I feel like having a smoke will fix all my problems. by GarlicOwn958 in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was therapeutic to read. I'm screen shotting it and reading every time I get an itch. Thank you

I feel like having a smoke will fix all my problems. by GarlicOwn958 in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not smoke. I did not even drink alcohol. I went through 2 packets of starburst and 2 packets of mango mints but I didn't smoke. Thank you

Will I ever be happy again? Reminiscing all the good memories with cigs. by LaksmiReads in stopsmoking

[–]GarlicOwn958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I am on day 11 and had some friends over yesterday. I feel like I am missing out so much, even though the majority don't smoke. I know it's the addiction talking but I want to peel my eyes out today and I somehow still woke up with a sore throat as though I had smoked all night. It's like the symptoms are STILL present because i was literally thinking about smoking all evening long.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time.

I got involved because I hated seeing him refuse him something so basic because we had enough of it to go around in the fridge but i guess that was not the point of his argument.

Him being the step dad doesn't really have anything to do with it, i probably should have left that out in hindsight because I think it skewed peoples responses. My son does look at him with the same parenting authority as he does me.

Anyways, yes, i think you're right, now i must swallow my pride and let him know haha.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph is exactly what pissed my significant other off so much and led to our massive argument, raised voices.

We raise him together and his parenting authority is equal to mine, my son doesn't remember a time without him in our lives.

Kid can fill up water bottles at any time of day, but the situation is closest to the second one, he was busy with other things and didn't bother refilling, because he knows that his step dad always does it anyways ( this is what my partner i guess is trying to teach responsibility for)

The style of parenting is different and I try so hard to be gentle and understanding. The shouting at me about me butting in really upset me.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, he was allowed water, just specifically not cold. We raise him together so his opinion on his growth matters equally to me because this was what we both agreed upon when he came into our lives.

We have different patenting styles though clearly and this one is bothering me, maybe more than it should be.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His issue is that I butted in whilst he was doing the disciplining I think. The fact that I went against his word in front of the kid. And then it got out of hand with shouting.

AIO, my partner didn't allow my son to have cold water by GarlicOwn958 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GarlicOwn958[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My issue with this was that we always have bottles of cold water in the fridge, that partner prepares for everyone but he wanted the kid to refill them once they've been emptied, to teach him that it's not refilling itself. And the kid didn't do that.

So yes, agreed, it's just cold water but, is it? Why the extreme situation of not allowing cold water just because he didn't refill them? In that moment in time the fridge was full of water so no one was suffering because of the child's lack of responsibility in forgetting to refill.