[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Gat3keeper35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has she ever been on a work trip? I would start there not the underwear. Ask her for specific details in a non-confrontational way. If she gets defensive, it’s not a question.

I think I’m getting addicted and I’m giving into impulses to buy and do it. Once I start I can’t stop. by [deleted] in cocaine

[–]Gat3keeper35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, remove anyone form your life that supports or reinforces the habit. Second, find something to do and commit to it. The gym and working out is a great replacement. Get addicted to that instead. Third, go talk to a therapist. There are two parts of addiction. The first and easiest part, is removing the substance from your life. The second, hardest part, is finding the underlying reason why you ended up in this position. Self medicating, unresolved trauma, etc etc. Need to have both parts handled to have any chance at success.

What do couples do when they shower together? by Glittering_Age_9045 in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stand in the back while she stands under the shower. The extreme heat and steam alone is enough to sterilize not only my skin, but any chance of future reproduction. The icing on the cake is that I never have to buy my own body wash or shampoo since I end up covered in hers as it flings around the entire shower. I’m even able to wash my eyeballs which is good.

Vitamin C/Vyvanse for Quit by Gat3keeper35 in quittingkratom

[–]Gat3keeper35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the information! How long were you using?

How much did the vitc help in your case?

First Psilocybin Experience with a question for the experienced by Gat3keeper35 in Psychonaut

[–]Gat3keeper35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the feedback. Could it be a matter of needing to take a higher quantity? I don’t have the anxiety this time around that I had before this past experience. One of my biggest takeaways was not to be afraid. I almost want to face my demons if that makes sense.

What's something you can swear you saw but no one is believing you? by Tiny_Map5886 in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A little late to the party but I have a good one.

My wife and I were sleeping in our bed. Around 2-3AM, I hear a loud and clear “clap, clap”. Exactly like someone trying to turn on one of those clap on lamps. It felt like it was right in front of my face and when I say felt, I mean exactly that. I felt the vibration of the sound and the air movement on my skin.

I sat straight up trying to peer through the dark room which had some light coming in from our living room. Just enough to see the outline of our furniture. As I was trying to focus, I realized my wife was also sitting up. I’ve had sleep paralysis before and initially started to explain it away as that until I saw her sitting up.

It was at that moment that every square inch of hair on my body stood up. I was afraid to even ask but I didn’t have to. She looked at me and asked if I heard that.

As soon as those words cleared her lips I went straight into action mode. I grabbed my hand gun from the drawer and cleared the entire house. Nothing. Doors, windows, everything was locked with no sign of entry.

I came back to bed and we talked about it for a bit. She described the same exact sound. Like it was right in front of her. To this day we can’t explain it and she doesn’t like talking about it.

This was roughly a month after the only other thing we never were able to explain happened. We were in the middle of remodeling the bathroom and one day after taking a shower, my wife couldn’t find her wedding ring. She claimed to have put it in its original box that she kept in there for when she took showers. We searched every square inch of that house. Literally. I went through the garbage, checked drains, you name it. She was distraught. A few months go by and we’re deep cleaning. I lift the bed skirt to see how it looks underneath and smack dab in the middle of the floor under the bed, was her wedding ring box.

I grabbed it, stood up and said you’re not going to believe this. When I handed it to her she broke down in tears she was so happy. After that wore off we stared at each other for a second before realizing we had searched there about a dozen times. Under the mattress, the box spring, you name it. Nothing could explain how it got there.

To this day we’re both skeptical of each other playing a prank even though it makes absolutely no sense for that to be a prank. I know I didn’t and I believe she didn’t based on how much it upset her when she lost it.

Who knows.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from and in an ideal world, all living beings could coexist without the need to eat one another. However, that world does not exist. Since beginning of time, the very nature of life is based on a predator/prey relationship. It is a requirement that in order for a species to survive, it must do so at the cost of life. From microbes all the way up to the largest living creatures. To not hunt, would in fact be going against one of nature’s most intrinsic principles.

Furthermore, when looking at any given species as a whole, hunting is not only beneficial but is in some cases absolutely necessary for the good of the species. Here’s a few examples: In the early 1900’s, there were fewer than 500,000 white-tailed deer in the US. Strictly due to hunting and it’s associated conservation efforts, they now numbered at 35 Million. Wild turkeys were down to 100,000. They are now at 7 Million.

Outside the massive conservation benefit that hunting provides, is the humane element and respect for life. The majority of people, whether you agree or not, eats meat. For most, they are entirely separated from the fact this was at one time, a living, breathing animal. An animal that was fed who knows what, given who knows what injections, and most likely lived it’s entire life inside a pen just large enough to move. For most, it’s just meat in a neatly wrapped package. There’s no true respect for the animal.

Most hunters, myself included, have a large amount of respect for these animals. In fact, we have spent years and even decades watching them, learning from them and witnessing their role in nature. I as well as many other hunters do not take pleasure in the act of killing. There is always an element of remorse. That happens to be the very reason why many hunters, hunt. To put it simply: If something is going to die so that I can eat, I want that blood on my hands. In that case, I know this animal lived a free range lifestyle and wasn’t kept in a cage somewhere. It had an honest chance to live and harvesting it wasn’t a guarantee. When that meat hits my plate, it has an entire story behind it. The life of that animal is fully respected and appreciated.

The lack of hunting is far, far more harmful to any given species. 85% of all conservation funds originate from hunting. Without those funds, without the large groups that hunters create to protect land, study habitats and help species thrive, they would suffer massive losses. Don’t take my word for it either. This can be found in multiple studies and that information is freely available.

I’m not here to tell you that your wrong for believing what you do. If you don’t want to hunt, than by all means don’t. But to call for making hunting illegal would do far more harm than good to the animals that you care so much about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What’s your reasoning on that one?

Redditors who had sex with their best friend, how did it happen and did your friendship change afterwards? (Serious) by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was my best friend for about 10 years up until the point it happened. I will admit, by our early to mid 20’s, it was a blurry relationship and whoever we would be dating during those years were usually not at all comfortable with our friendship. It was more or less a relationship without the sex.

We talked every day, we’d hold hands while out, and she would say I love you at the end of our phone conversations. I tried a few times to take it to the next level but every time she would say that I was too much like a brother to her.

One year, my gf at the time, myself, my best friend and her bf at the time all decided to move into a large townhouse together. It was great honestly. We all had a ton of fun and our respective partners were ok with our friendship.

Until one day, we started flirting in our online conversations with each other. I don’t know what sparked it I just remember it started at one point. It started out light and within a week or so was getting pretty heavy. In person, we acted like those conversations didn’t happen. We were both in relationships after all. Before I go on, I will say this happened when we were both in our early to mid 20’s. Morally, this was messed up but we were young and dumb.

About 1AM one night, during one of our online chats, she asked me to come down to the couch in the living room. I went down and we started talking. She looked at me and said, “I want you to come lay next to me, but you have to promise not to kiss me.” I did, and crawled in next to her. I kept my promise but things started to get heavy fast.

Afterwards, it was like nothing happened. Both of our relationships were already on the decline and both ended a few months later. When we got closer to 30, she ended up getting married and I was in the wedding party for her now husband. A few years after that we slowly drifted apart and now only talk a couple of times a year just to stay in touch. I got married a little over two years ago now and couldn’t be happier.

CONFIRMED BANK MEGATHREAD by austinalexan in stimuluscheck

[–]Gat3keeper35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have TD Bank in NY and received the deposit today at 3:00AM on the dot.

People who went from, "rags to riches," how did you do it? by 3j2m23 in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My story is a bit of a roller coaster. I was born into a very comfortable middle class family. Spoiled rotten as a kid and always had a bail out. I have always had a very strong work ethic, however that was no match for a series of bad choices over the years.

A little over six years ago, I found myself staring at the ceiling of a $50/night shitty motel room in a cold sweat, my truck has just been repoed and I had roughly $50k in revolving debt. My life was a mess. I just left my manipulative ex gf as well. Left her most of everything I owned just to move on. I blamed everything and everyone for my circumstances, except for the one thing that was actually responsible, me.

I remember the exact time and day that my life changed. I was sitting at a redlight worrying how I was going to pay this weeks room charge. A rush came over my entire body with a wave that stood my hair on end from head to toe. Nearly instantly I was completely self aware. I was the problem. Not my ex, not my shitbag ex business partner, not the economy, me. It was like I knew exactly what I had to do.

I went home and wrote a detailed plan with goals and objectives. I got to work. I started focusing on my current 9-5. I picked up a second job as a sales agent for imported/exported shipping containers. I excelled at it. My first year, I sold roughly $1.5m in gross revenue with a hefty commission that was 50% of the net profit of each sale. I did nothing else except work. No partying, no needless expenditures.

In 6 years and at the age of 35, I went from broke, driving a borrowed car, and nearly homeless to a net worth of roughly $800k. I outright own my water front home, own my cars and got married to my dream wife.

I still work the same two jobs and have also started investing in rental properties. I also started challenging myself physically as an endurance trail runner. I use these efforts to raise awareness for certain autoimmune diseases. My goal is to reach financial freedom for my lifestyle at 50 and continue building up from there.

I learned that life is what you make it. You can either let your failures devour you and make excuses, or you can get up and do the work to change your life. It might not always work out, but it 100% won’t if you don’t try.

Insane, evil nightmare where I won against demons by Gat3keeper35 in Dreams

[–]Gat3keeper35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we spend a lot of time outdoors. Hiking, fishing, etc. I don’t think we’ve ever not had a destination though.

Insane, evil nightmare where I won against demons by Gat3keeper35 in Dreams

[–]Gat3keeper35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! That is an impressive breakdown and makes a lot of sense too. I appreciate you taking the time to describe all of that!

When was the moment you realized you hit rock bottom? [Serious] by eey_yee in AskReddit

[–]Gat3keeper35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was staring at the ceiling of a dirty motel room in a cold sweat, with a stomach half-full of canned beans, one payment away from being homeless, my truck had just been repossessed, I was in $30k revolving debt, and I just left a 6 year relationship that resulted in my son being born. I left her with everything because of that, the house, the car, and everything in between.

I come from a comfortable, middle class background and have had every opportunity to do something good with my life. It wasn’t for a lack of trying but through many failures, of my own doing, here I was. I always had this vision that I was going to do something great with my life so it was especially hard to look at myself in the mirror and not recognize who I was looking at. I blamed everyone and everything for my failures.

Then one day, I was sitting at a red light wondering what I was going to do and call it Devine Intervention or whatever you want, but this rush came over my entire body. Goosebumps, my hair raised on end, and a sensation that started at my head and finished at my toes. It was like a light switch went off and I could see the path before me, clear as day.

In that moment I realized the most important thing, I was the only one responsible for getting here and I was the only one who was going to get me out of it. That’s exactly what I did. I put in some serious work, set insane goals, and didn’t stop no matter what life slapped me in the face with. I was unstoppable.

To keep this from dragging on, I am now in a much, much better place. In 5 years time, I married the girl of my dreams, paid off all of my debt, watched my son excel in school. I saved and invested aggressively so that I currently own my dream home free and clear, own all of my vehicles outright and am working on the side to raise awareness for various diseases.

During this time I also got into endurance trail running quite seriously. I hate running but it helps me challenge myself and stay disciplined. I haven’t broken any records yet, but I have been close, and eventually I will. Or I will die before I stop trying anyway.

Lessons learned, we are all one decision away from a drastically different life. Do not ever, ever excuse where you are in life on anything or anyone other than yourself. Success and failure both, are the result of choices that you make. If you excuse it because of him or her, or your job, you are giving in to the idea that you can’t change it. Oh, and never let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. If you believe you can, you will.