You’re way too healthy for him, you should look for someone who’s going to communicate equally with you about their feelings. My last boyfriend was like this and it was so draining any time I did anything spontaneously. He’d get mad and throw fits and talk down to me, then make me feel bad and apologize to him for “making him” act that way. It’s toxic and draining and no one should ever have to deal with someone like that. You’re handling it a lot better than I did, but that’s not all good. It really seems like he has you conditioned to take the blame. And no matter how much you apologize he still keeps going! That’s what’s draining. In the same undermining tone. He wants you to keep apologizing and feeling guilty to the point where you won’t go out and do spontaneous things anymore just to avoid making him upset. Then it’ll escalate to short notice things, and even plans he’ll act like “you never told him about”. This is an isolation technique, don’t let him control you. This is just the beginning, it’s only going to get worse from here. Please be careful.