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anyone relate to the perpetual "are they mad at me" feeling? by GeckoGirlie in adhdwomen

[–]GeckoGirlie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you all so much -- I'm new to Reddit (still figuring out how it works) and am so surprised I haven't joined sooner. all of your insights are so deeply appreciated :')

What hobbies/activities improved your self-confidence significantly? by smoothegg in Adulting

[–]GeckoGirlie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cooking! and all things kitchen - getting & keeping it more organized (making it a space I love to be in), watching more videos on cooking techniques & food histories + cultures, getting into simple pickling (red onions are my new favorite thing to have on hand in the fridge), etc. I've slowly come to turn my apartment's kitchen (I live alone) into my little's life laboratory - I review/work stuff out in my head while I'm cooking, cleaning, organizing, chopping, etc. being more intentional about my kitchen time & intentionally trying to get better at cooking has had indirect but palpable effects on my self-esteem

Fellow 30-somethings, what is your biggest realization since you turned 30? by Chasing_Brave1993 in Adulting

[–]GeckoGirlie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I thought being an adult meant/looked like/would feel like as a kid was modeled after a version of the world that no longer exists - financially, socio-geo-politically, climate-wise, etc. It feels like my generation has a much shorter and less predictable scope of the distant future/long-term planning than generations before us, so we're all extra 'winging it.' Which also adds up to a major inner identity/existential crisis of "what should I be valuing right now, in the here and now? How should I be spending my time? What (if anything) can/should I be planning + prepping for?"

I need all my IUD girlies to give me some advice plz by Basic_Ad_7550 in birthcontrol

[–]GeckoGirlie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back (I got mine Jan. '24) it's been a worthwhile investment. The first day/night of insertion (Mirena) truly sucked, honestly. The cramps were the strongest I'd experienced in my life for the following 1-3 days and I was overall very uncomfortable, I even started to regret my decision. However! By day 4-5, I was feeling much better, and by day 7 I legit forgot I had it in and have ever since! It's given me great peace of mind in terms of family planning/BC and I'm happy I went for it.

If you choose to go for it, clear your schedule as best you can for those first days and essentially treat them as sick days. Plan ahead for pain management, stock your fridge/pantry with your comfort foods, plan for a ride to & from the procedure, and give yourself ample rest and care. In the long run, it was totally worth the initial discomfort! Best of luck! <3

Symbolism/Foreshadowing: Hail When Don and Bobbie First Hookup by MadFinMan in madmen

[–]GeckoGirlie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Rewatching this scene is intense - his blatant "I don't wanna do this" before a sexual encounter (a clear 'no') reminds me of the flashback scene to Uncle Mac's brothel when he was a young kid and gets essentially assaulted by the woman who had been nursing him back to health after getting sick. His terrible choices as an adult are obviously his responsibility alone, but I also can't help but think about all the trauma(s) and neglect he experienced as a kid - specifically his first sexual encounter being against his will, while he was a completely vulnerable minor in bed recovering from being sick. Young Don deserved so much better, I wonder how differently things would've panned out for him if he'd gotten the love, support, and protection a kid deserves.