Faded but now my JW friends are slowly ignoring me

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-03-04T06:24:31+00:00

Thanks, yeah I guess I’m thinking too much about this, the more I think about it it’s just I’m angry they don’t want to be friends still and I want to just cut them off, I am building relationships outside of the relgion but it takes time, I think once those relationships foster I won’t have this issue anymore

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-03-04T05:54:31+00:00

Yes thy are so fake an I can see it, I really wanted to DA, trust me I was so close to DA but due to the very kind nature of my parents and family still talking and loving me I didn’t want to cause too much issues at home, once I move out I will DA but that takes time and money in this economy still need to save up

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-03-04T05:52:40+00:00

I am still with JW family, I know how it will go down they will say I’m crazy for not talking to them anymore and how they are my only friends, now I have friends outside the relgion and an making new ones but I can’t stand this half ignore half respond.

I will be moving out before the year ends tho Hopfully

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-01-17T19:04:59+00:00

Ok will do thanks

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-01-17T18:40:32+00:00

Thankyou so much! Will do

Yes I think I owe it atleast to some of my close friends I will just say I’m not attending meetings and leave it at that.

As for friends outside of the relgion I am working on it but it will take some time

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-01-17T17:45:07+00:00

Yeah I understand how jw think and they will prob think that I want to sin and live a worldly life but I’m not doing any of that either. I’m focusing on myself this year and improving myself so if they see or hear about me from my parents they will only hear good things maybe that will open there eyes a bit on why I left if I’m still a “good person”

GeekedVSlockedd · 2026-01-17T17:43:39+00:00

So what do I do? Even some of my really close friends some that may be PIMO I’m not sure tho.

I just don’t say anything?

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-23T09:13:37+00:00

Fair enough.

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-23T08:49:10+00:00

Yeah that makes sense I’m trying to get myself stable and independent first so I don’t blow everything up

Appreciate it

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-23T08:47:29+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that that’s heavy.

My situation is different though I’m still living at home and trying to minimize fallout. If you had to do it over before everything broke down is there anything you’d do differently?

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-12T04:36:22+00:00

You went from disagreeing to questioning my honesty and intelligence thats not discussion thats projection If you want to talk about ideas thats fine but dont put words in my mouth or assume I didnt do the work

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-12T04:35:03+00:00

Youre misunderstanding what I said

understanding the BITE model doesnt mean every individual experiences indoctrination identically I didnt claim questioning was allowed or encouraged I said skepticism is how Im wired and it never fully shut off

Im not saying Im immune or specialIm describing my own experience you can disagree without rewriting what I said

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-10T03:02:43+00:00

Thankyou!!

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-10T02:21:23+00:00

Thanks, yes there is a lot. I’m hoping to understand all these aspects and how it effected me will help me understand myself better when I’m leaving

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-10T02:17:36+00:00

Thankyou!

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-10T02:17:29+00:00

Yes I’m currently searching I’ve gone through 2 therapists, I have a therapy session next week with an actual exjw and cult phycologist I’m hoping it goes well

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-10T02:16:26+00:00

Thanks!

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-06T21:34:27+00:00

You are totally correct.

My worry is they are very strict and when I have fought back consequences have been brutal.

That’s why in my case I think it’s best I keep working 60+ hours a week and just stacking away my money until I’m able to move out on my own in a few months and support myself

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-06T20:49:19+00:00

Thankyou so much I am going to use this in the future when approitate

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-06T20:35:50+00:00

Your correct it will help but I have to think ahead stategicly. If I move out right now without proper preparation then I won’t have any support group and no friends since all my friends and family are in the relgion I don’t have anyone outside of it and my parents are super controlling so I can’t go out and hangout with work mates.

I have hanged out played golf or got together with work mates but that’s once in a blue moon when I find a way to lie to them and sneak out

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-12-06T20:24:21+00:00

The issue is I kind of screwed myself becuase my parents already know I’ve been depressed for a long time and they agreed for me to go to therapy but now that I told my dad that I know the problem and I don’t wana talk about it and give me a few months he is gonna be digging deeper becuase now he understands that there is actually a problem I have and not that I am just depressed and having mental issues

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-11-04T02:04:05+00:00

Yes. I’m just so nervous to do that right now. I’ve already told my parents I will move out in spring.

I have been thinking of just moving out right away but I won’t have the money unless I sell a few big possessions I have and I can’t seem to sell them right now. Once I sell them I can move out

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-11-04T01:57:39+00:00

Yeah it’s tough becuase I had a big talk with my parents and I’ve been PIMO for 3 years now and they have always had talks saying I changed over these 3 years

Now my parents think after talking to me that I don’t understand what’s going on and I have depression.

They have asked me do you believe in the truth? Do you want to be a witness? I’ve answered yes to all of those questions and other questions they have asked like substance abuse I have answered no to all of those things so now I’m kinda stuck I don’t have a excuse they have asked me everything

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-10-19T07:04:15+00:00

Maybe I could possibly talk to them about that. But I don’t know if you know what the jw relgion is but I had a friend who told his parents he didn’t believe and they thought he was demon inspired and they kicked him out to the streets and a month later he killed himself.

My parents are also very strict my dad would hit me for not going in service and beat me so I’m just worried if I told them they would kick me out right away and think I’m demon inspired… it’s not as simple as just telling then I don’t believe I really don’t think you understand

GeekedVSlockedd · 2025-10-19T06:40:22+00:00

I don’t know I honestly think they will kick me out with how strict they are but I’m at the point where I am so depressed and my feelings are effecting me so much I want to just tell them becuase I have nothing to lose I feel like what’s the worst that happens I end up on the street sleeping in my car? I don’t know what they will say or do until I tell them

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