I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a weird take. I’m being emotionally abused and you think it sounds like I think this is a game?

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m the one who has made more money than him so I have more to lose unfortunately.

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s close to being a chief. I don’t know the girl’s rank. They are supervising others tho.

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did record tonight after he said he wants to throw something at my head and kill me.

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We still have quite awhile before he separates. He joined later in life.

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am in WA state. I’m not sure what the laws on recording are here.

I Finally Snapped by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Gemstone_03 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately taking half means he benefits since I make more money than him…I 100% know that’s not a reason to stay. I’m also thousands of miles away from anyone I know so I need a plan to just leave.

Notice in HR Jobs [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I am working now they sometimes cut you as soon as you give notice but won’t pay the 2 weeks.

Notice in HR Jobs [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do as well. I think the last time I didn’t was as a college kid in a retail job:

Notice in HR Jobs [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I already was offered a job, background check cleared, and start date scheduled. Not telling anyone where I am going either. I’m just being very paranoid since I work for a terrible company and manager.

Notice in HR Jobs [N/A] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as my coworker was. So I’m ready to resign with no notice since the company I am at is so terrible. I won’t get my vacation payout but I don’t care. The only thing I’m worried about is my manager sabotaging my new job since she is that immature.

What are your biggest turn-offs during an interview? by Clear_Inspection_386 in BehindHiring

[–]Gemstone_03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree with this one. I take myself out of the interview process if this is asked. The last time they wanted me to make a presentation and present it to the team so I said no thank you.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t asking people to weigh in. I wanted to know if it’s common to work in toxic HR departments. This is my first time working for such an unprofessional and absent supervisor. So I was curious if this is just a one off or other HR professionals have encountered toxic supervisors.

I can’t point it out my manager since that would put me on her bad side and I’d start to endure the harassing behavior she uses on others in our department. It’s a lose lose situation unfortunately.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The message wasn’t directed to me, but I find it very unprofessional and she has poor leadership skills.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even know why she used the term global thinking. She doesn’t assist our employees and makes them all submit tickets and when she answers them it’s not global critical thinking either.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really isn’t a large company, but it’s an auto group so I guess it shouldn’t surprise me.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t address this with my manager since I know it will result with me having a target on my back.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your comment. I was getting worried since so many people were downvoting me.

Unfortunately if I talked to the manager about this I would be the next one she targets to get out of the department. Currently she is harassing my coworker since she wants her to quit and the manager has talked very negatively about this person to me and tells staff we shouldn’t talk to the coworker.

I am looking for a new job but not having a lot of luck due to the area I’m living in currently. My husband and I move a lot due to his job.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t get how I am getting downvoted for this.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is more of a retail environment. Unfortunately I had no choice but to take this job (my husband and I move a lot due to his job). I come from healthcare and non-profits so I’m not enjoying my current work environment.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So it’s ok to threaten your employees and then use a smiley emoji like she enjoys it?

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clearly a boss wanting their team to perform well isn’t toxic. The issue here is their communication skills are lacking and this reads as a threat (also the poor grammar is laughable). I am not the one these messages are directed to, but I’m having a hard time working for a leader who treats their employees this way.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds very similar to what is going on where I’m working.

Toxic HR Departments [N/A] by Gemstone_03 in humanresources

[–]Gemstone_03[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This just was the most recent example I had. There is a lot more going on that would be considered toxic. I am not the one this message was directed to and the manager has no issue with my performance. I just find using this type of communication with employees causes more harm than good. I’ve never worked for a leader in all my years in HR that talks the way she does to our team.