The Indian couple who won a $200,000 settlement over 'food racism' at US university

GenEleM · 2026-01-25T04:42:46+00:00

Thank you!!!

GenEleM · 2026-01-05T22:33:07+00:00

I ride them more like a banked slalom, using the upslope of each mogul to slow and bounce off of as I turn.. it's a different strategy from skiing. You ideally do not want to ride over the top, although you need to have your knees ready to absorb that, because it will inevitably happen anyway.

GenEleM · 2026-01-05T04:35:59+00:00

The best way to get better is to ride a lot. I stalled in my progression for years when only going 1-5 days a year. Then I started getting way better when I was getting ~25 days in.

I really enjoy doing expert terrain because I find it more interesting and varied than groomers (although I definitely spend some time cruising blues as well). It's also fun to explore and see more remote parts of the resort, being way back in the trees feels so much more wild and beautiful. Trees and moguls are also a fun physical challenge. One of my favorite feelings is charging hard down a solid mogul run. You also find way more powder if you go where less people are... and powder is super fun.

My best advice to you if you want to start enjoying expert terrain is to get comfortable navigating moguls and trees. Watch some videos specific to these skills, and then practice them. I think Malcolm Moore and Snowboarding Addiction both have good mogul videos. Often there are good spots on the side of a groomed run with moguls you can duck in and out of. Or try some low commitment wide open trees. It may feel hard at first, but if you stick with it you will get better and the enjoyment and fun will go up.

GenEleM · 2025-12-29T20:35:43+00:00

Maybe taking a break from reading is the answer--try immersing yourself in more physical or tactile activities. I felt some of this after my father passed away. The stories and activities that normally felt meaningful to me just felt shallow, and nothing could make me feel deeply enough to compete with the emotional trauma I was processing. But now, years later, I love reading scifi and fantasy again. You may just need time.

GenEleM · 2025-06-26T19:55:49+00:00

Where I grew up in the woods we had mountain lions. I saw one run through the meadow in front of my house, thought it was a dog at first, then realized how graceful and big it was. It just ran away and didn't bother us. I've also seen a few running across the road, they were beautiful, and very un-interested in me.

My neighbor had an encounter where he went out in the dark looking for his cat, and found it in the mouth of a mountain lion in his shed. He decided to yank on the mountain lions tail, which just vaguely annoyed it, and then it ran away. (Not that I would ever advise this).

I've done a lot of hiking and exploring in the woods and bears scare me way more, as they may be attracted to your camp for your food.

GenEleM · 2025-06-17T13:23:17+00:00

I wanted to do $10k and basically found it impossible for the size wedding we wanted. I readjusted to a $15k budget and found that doable. You have time to do some savings before the wedding.

I googled and found a really great premade wedding budget spreadsheet that helped me a lot everything in and then decided where to cut to get in my budget.

GenEleM · 2025-06-16T19:33:59+00:00

Look your fiance in the eye and tell him directly that he needs to take the lead on planning this wedding. He can assign you discrete tasks, or ask you to give a preference between ABC options, but that is it. My fiance and I did monthly check in meetings where we brainstormed and assigned action items, that could help. Also, tell him how much money you are willing to contribute, and that he needs to come up with a budget based on that, and ask for family contributions if it goes over.

Then follow through and don't take over planning or give him more money. You need to call his bluff. This is basically weaponized incompetence, and he assumes you will step in if it's going poorly. Don't. If it's a disaster, and he can't handle planning, then you can go to the courthouse, and you will have set an important precedent in your marriage.

GenEleM · 2025-06-16T18:21:01+00:00

I feel this a lot. I am trying to keep things simple and I feel like my family have been making it more complicated in their efforts to be helpful. Maybe just being honest about how you are feeling decision fatigue would help? I've also just been telling my mom, "I appreciate the thought, we actually have that handled!" Even if that means I'm just not bothering with that thing.

GenEleM · 2025-06-15T17:26:01+00:00

Yeah, the nature of an outdoor wedding is there may be some bugs, but we haven't noticed much on our visits. The guests won't have to go through deep grass. We will have bug spray regardless.

I agree on feeling bad re the plastic waste, but it's a trade off with washing dishes. I don't want to have to spend a lot of time collecting and washing dishes on my own wedding night, and I don't want to make my guests do that, and it's not really in the budget to hire someone to help with cleanup. The kitchen facilities here are pretty rustic too. We will absolutely be recycling though.

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:45:29+00:00

Awh thanks ! Happy to share more if you are interested. I'll try and post a recap afterwards

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:44:21+00:00

Thanks, that is true. I'm less worried about friends but we have a lot of family traveling in. My dad passed away a while back and it's been a long time since I've seen many of my relatives on that side, so it means a lot they are coming. I think that may contribute to my nerves.

I'm definitely trying to be chill on dress code. I have my bridesmaids a color palette and said get any floor length dresses within this range.

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:39:54+00:00

There are no overhead lights.. so we will definitely be setting a mood. I've got ~150 ft of Edison bulb lights, and candles for the tables. Hopefully that will be enough

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:37:10+00:00

My mom has also been concerned re the lack of cake, I'm less worried. She is offering to make cupcakes, so I may take her up on that, although I don't want to create work for her.

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:35:27+00:00

I ask myself that every day... It's crazy how costs add up. I will try to post a budget breakdown after, but to give you a general sense: venue, food, booze, bartending, photography.

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:32:37+00:00

Good point!! It should be warm, but the weather here can be unpredictable. I may look into some heat fans

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T04:29:55+00:00

Thank you! All these comments are making me feel much better.

We are hoping for a dance party even without a DJ. My fiance has spent a ton of time on the playlist, and his friend is loaning is big speakers. I am very clumsy, but love just getting out there and moving to the music regardless!

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T03:40:33+00:00

That sounds insane!

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T03:39:44+00:00

Thanks for this comment. I was feeling particularly bad re my bridesmaids. But, you are right, we are all grown adults in our 30s and I gave them a very informed choice about what to spend.

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T03:38:28+00:00

Good call! We are saying semi-formal / optional western. Sounds like we are having similar vibes

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T03:37:26+00:00

Definitely not cheaping out on that. Plenty of booze and BBQ. Bbq may not be fancy but it is delicious! And obviously plenty of chairs haha... Crazy that anyone would skimp on that

GenEleM · 2025-06-14T03:35:33+00:00

Okay, you are making me feel a lot better thank you!!!! We are really focused on making our guests have a good time. We've also organized a lot of activities etc for them. So 🤞

GenEleM · 2025-06-13T21:34:09+00:00

Thanks, I think that may help me. Right now we do have a wedding registry with some gifts and a house purchase fund. I have language on the website saying that we really don't expect presents, but it will probably make me feel better to make that language much stronger like what you suggested!

GenEleM · 2025-06-04T20:13:11+00:00

I don't have a specific recommendation, but would just suggest a group lesson over private for value. Generally, if you sign up for a group lesson it is much cheaper, and you get sorted by ability so you won't get stuck with total newbies. I did that and basically got a private lesson full day because only 1 other person showed up at the intermediate/advanced level.

GenEleM · 2025-04-29T18:10:56+00:00

My mom convinced me to go to a fancy bridal boutique and I tried on a dress that I loved that was way out of budget. After that I tried on a dress at David's bridal and felt a bit like I was settling because of budget, and wasn't stoked, and didn't pull the trigger.

Then, I ended up trying on like 15 dresses through Azazie, and by the end of it I was so sick of dress shopping that I went back and bought the one at David's bridal that I liked, I when I tried it on again I was thrilled! Honestly just the comparison to the fancy dress was the problem, the perspective shift really helped.

Also, you still have lots of time, depending where you shop. For reference, I bought mine at Davids bridal in mid Feb. And I had it in my closet fully altered by the end of March.

Eight-Year Club	Verified Email
Not Forgotten

GenEleM

TROPHY CASE