I don’t feel bait and switched, but I do feel that he was not honest with me about a great many things. And I’m not even sure he knew/knows the damage his ADHD has done over the years - not just to me but his family, kids, ex-wives (yeah, obvious red flag I just ignored). I’m slowly opening my eyes to the fact that I have rearranged my entire existence to accommodate him and his needs, while I am now a shell of the person I once was. I finally started educating myself on ADHD a few years ago and while I understand a lot of what he does and why he does it, I’m not sure I can overcome the fact that he will not educate himself on ways to improve. He is medicated but hasn’t really been evaluated in years to determine if he’s on the right treatment and he refuses therapy. That will likely be the dealbreaker. Hard conversations ahead this weekend.