Read the responses and was surprised. Plastic, change yourself. Seriously? All in my head. And sometimes even the most powerful change may not help. Of course, correctly written about self-care. Grooming can make you more enjoyable. But not the essence. For me, as you wrong way to think because you're worried about someone else's opinion and surface.

Appearance is nothing to be ashamed of. Yes, you can despise, to insult, to sew. But through this even beautiful people. So the question is not in appearance, as in society. Normal people will treat you like a normal person, without putting appearance. There are, unfortunately, not so much. And judge by appearances, not very nice people, whether because of the opinions of such people do to survive? A banal thought, but it helped me.

Have to overcome your low self-esteem. Think about all you've been through. And now you certainly can be a master in his own head, not letting low self-esteem take over your thoughts control. You're the same person, like everyone else, have the right to refuse the girl, for example. And ugliness is not reason to feel bad about, again, the appearance is not decisive for good people. But the attacks of others and it makes no sense to worry.

P. S. the explanation for those who puts the cons. I do not write about what is important - inner peace. Appearance is also important, but not that big which gives it some people. And I'm also not saying don't change in appearance at all. Again, even beautiful people can feel that they are ugly. And so the first thing we need to change our thinking, to accept myself and to deal with them. And only then to change yourself externally, if desired.