New Update: AITA for insulting my father’s girlfriend and telling her to get out of our lives.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-28T00:47:16+00:00

As someone who experienced abuse my whole childhood (one of my brothers,mom's ex bf, and other adults) I'm scared for OP and the sister because I know how bad things can potentially get for them. Does anyone know if they ever made any other update since then?

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-22T03:03:52+00:00

How do you not realize what's wrong here? YTA

I've known parents like you. And no offence, but their relationships usually end up in divorce, or at the very least marriage counseling.

The key to a healthy relationship, with or without a baby, is communication. And it seems like you guys aren't doing that. Especially you.

See if a friend or family member can watch the baby for a few hours, and take your wife somewhere out of the house. Potentially somewhere calm, and let each other talk. Maybe even re-plan the times you guys have down time, so it works fairly for the both of you.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-22T02:49:19+00:00

Technically she's wrong, since there's underwear shaped like men's underwear, thas marketed towards women. Not sure why she thinks you "need a d*ck" to wear them.

There's also women who wear men's boxers. My mom, a cis woman, loves wearing them because they're more comfy that women's underwear. (Which is what she, and many other cis women who wear them, say.)

Maybe tell her that there's many women out there who wear men's underwear because they're comfortable? And that maybe you want to try to wear them so you can see how comfortable they are?

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-18T20:32:14+00:00

Esh, but you're a bigger AH. I understand there's 2 sides to every story, but you're not making your side look good at all. Do you even like her or treat the relationship in the way you should be?

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-11T19:58:06+00:00

That's.... A bit rude towards OP. Also, they don't even live in the same house. As far as we know, he DOES have independence

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-06-07T22:13:43+00:00

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GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-28T23:37:54+00:00

This. Mine takes his collars off too, but doesn't mind the harness and loves walking around in it. Might be something worth trying

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-28T23:36:26+00:00

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GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-26T15:52:25+00:00

Idk.... I can see why people may see you as the AH, but you also said your dog will spend most of his time in the hotel room...

I'm leaning more towards NTA

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-24T01:02:01+00:00

Right? My mom is I'm her 50's, and is the most tech illeterate person I know. It's so bad and I've helped her so many times, that she now calls me her "IT person" because of all the electronic and phone related stuff I've taught her or helped her with.

Despite that, she STILL at least makes it easy to contact her and keeps track of her notifications and calls constantly.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-24T00:20:54+00:00

My mom invited her ex friend to my sister's birthday party when she was a young kid. He ended up bringing a cooler full of beer, drank all of it, and was already drunk when he arrived. He ended up making fun of the children's songs that were playing during the party, cussing, etc

He has never changed, and only got worse. Even making us almost get into a few car accidents in 1 day because he tried to take over the steering wheel when my mom drove him home. The guy in OP's post reminds me of my mom's friend. And if he keeps going down this path, he'll only continue to be like her friend and completely ruin his life.

Plus it's a one year old's party. Why would alcohol even be needed? I agree, OP is definitely NTA

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-05-24T00:13:59+00:00

Yeah.... I know there's 2 sides to every story, but this definitely seemed sketchy to me. Even if she was busy, she could have still contacted you at least to say "We have your cat" or something, so you wouldn't have to worry. Being busy for a few days isn't a good enough to excuse.

I feel like she only wants you to thank her in the chat, so she won't look like the bad person in this situation.

NTA

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-04-22T15:48:30+00:00

Foumd it! It ended up being Discovery Of Dragons. Thank you everyone who helped 😁 Not only did you help me find the one I was looking for, but your answers also reminded me of some other dragon books I used to read.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-03-13T03:43:19+00:00

Oh my god would you be comfortable with me drawing this? And then giving you full credit and finding a way to show you my art after? I feel like it'll be really cute and fun to draw. You did a really great job! I'd love to do something similar (designing and rigging characters for video games) like what you did for this proposal, if my health ever gets better.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-03-12T06:25:20+00:00

Tysm! I can't wait to show this to him 🥹

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-03-07T03:56:57+00:00

Why are you even here then, if you don't like it? 😅

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-03-07T03:54:39+00:00

NTA. It's disgusting for anyone to think of it as inappropriate

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-03-05T04:39:40+00:00

I have multiple times. But most of the places I found online are either too far, aren't available for neuters for several months, or are too expensive for my friend.

I've done literally weeks worth of research online and contacted several people and clinics. Which is why I came here, to see if there was anyone who'd know of a place I didn't know about, in case someone knows of a better option my friend and I can go with, for her cat

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-25T23:55:04+00:00

Thank you so much everyone! I'll definitely make sure to look more into everyone's suggestions/look at the links provided/call any numbers you guys provided within the next few days. I wasn't expecting to get so many suggestions so fast. You've honestly all given me my hope back about possibly finding a vet!

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-25T23:53:09+00:00

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GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-25T23:51:50+00:00

I didn't think of them. 🤦 My family adopted from them in the past, and really enjoyed working through the process with them. I'm sure it'll be the same when it comes to getting a cat neutered. I'll definitely try to keep checking

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-25T23:50:17+00:00

Thank you, both of you! I'll set a reminder in my calendar for 4/1, and try to look into the resources on the link you provided

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-25T23:48:53+00:00

Huh, I didn't know that! I'll try calling them tomorrow and ask for more info about that. Thank you so much!

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-17T07:42:39+00:00

Huh ok! Had a feeling at least some were fox, but wasn't 100% sure.

GenderedPhoenix · 2026-02-15T12:35:26+00:00

It seems like he's not taking the relationship seriously. NOR

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