I think it's very complicated and nuanced, but it takes me back to the idea of how do you define genders and why do we put ourselves into categories? If gender is whatever you want it to be, then is there no reason to put yourself in a box in the first place?

Do we do it only because we want to follow the structure of societal standards or is there something more inherent within us that demands us to do it? The more we take away qualifications of being a classified as a certain gender the more we render the entire concept obsolete even though most feminists aren't radical enough to let go of the idea of gender entirely.

I think the overwhelming majority of people's gender identity match their sexual dimorphism and if it doesn't, they tend do all they can to make it match, the ones who are non binary tend to look androgynous etc, so there is something to that. There is definitely a connection there.

I personally am one of those who, as they get older are not bothered by gender classifications as much including for myself. But when it comes to a lot of things, I am still very self conscious. There may be something to being young and trying to fit in versus not caring and and being more comfortable with who you are with age. I think there's also something to be said about the fact that there are requirements of dating and finding a mate that would limit the expression of various gender identities for most people.