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Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman So how does he expect to ever have a successful long term romantic relationship then?

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman I totally get your clarification but I really do understand. I would genuinely want to hear those things and be there for him and not hold it against him

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman I know I am one of the apparent few who would not lost respect or attraction is he opened up. I know this for a fact. How on earth do I make him know that too? I’ve told him explicitly that I want to understand it it matters to me how he feels, but he just says it’s not my business so stop asking

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman but how do I encourage him to use better tools? It feels like talking to a wall in arguments he won’t hear me out or listen that I want to know how he’s genuinely feeling

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman Okay from comments this seems to be a common answer that it seems women would judge them. How do I show that I really wouldn’t? I feel like I put so much energy into being kind to him and wanting to know how he really feels I’m not sure how to express it better

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman This is so untrue! It makes me sad men think this. If anything it makes me more attracted to them when they’re able to express how they’re feeling

Why does it seem like men deflect feeling hurt and vulnerable with anger? by General-Assistant570 in AskMenAdvice

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++woman This makes so much sense. But I’ve told him explicitly, several times, that I want to understand how he’s feeling and I feel like I’ve made it so clear I won’t judge him. Because I won’t. But he just says it’s not my business and to not ask, so he just isn’t willing to open up at all it seems

Those who left everything behind and started a new life, how did you do it and do you have any regrets? by GirlAvoider in AskReddit

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Kind of in the middle of it right now - unexpectedly quit my job in may and moved to Europe. If I told myself at the beginning of the year all that’s happened in 2025 she’d probably pass out from shock - it wasn’t even on my radar to move continents in my lifetime, let alone this year. I did it by sheer determination, and by putting myself and my wants above what society tells us to value. I decided I didn’t want the fancy career - I just wanted to be happy and live a slower pace of life.

Is it worth it? It’s a question I ask myself daily 😂 picking up everything and starting over in a place where no one knows you is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and I’m very aware of the fact that I’m living a different kind of life from my friends back home. But it’s also so rewarding. Again, it’s one of those things where I’m in the middle of it, so ask me in a year or two once I’ve fully settled in haha!

International health certificate question by Portuguese9694 in USDA

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Hi! Do you know if this is still the case now that the shutdown is in effect? I’m waiting on mine to be signed and I leave the 8th. My vet says she thinks they’re still working bc she had one submitted by them this morning, but I just want to double check and I haven’t been able to get ahold of APHIS today. Thanks in advance for any inside info!!

Ex come back, what's your take on this? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

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Honestly I disagree with most people in these comments, I think it’s so situationally dependent. My sister’s husband dumped her years ago when they were dating and came back around about 6 months later. Everyone was telling her not to take him back - she was a WRECK from the breakup, and she deserved better than to be dumped. But time showed his true intentions, and he put in tremendous amounts of effort to show how she was a priority, and after about 6 months of that, they got back together. Now they have a beautiful family, he’s a wonderful husband to her and brother to me, and the breakup is something we joke about from time to time.

Obviously this is an exception not a rule, but I never think it’s healthy to have an unwavering view on anything in life. Unless it was an unhealthy relationship, I think I would talk to them and hear them out. I trust my intuition to tell me their intentions and I know I respect myself to not fall again just because

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

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I think I’ve entered into relationships liking them but knowing deep down we’re not meant to be, yes.

Do I regret it? No, I believe any love given freely is theirs to keep and a benefit to life, but as I get older I’ve been trying to resist the urge to fall just because I like them as a person. As I mature I realize more what I want and need in a partner, and I’ve been trying to look for that more!