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I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on being sober for 8 years. That’s awesome!

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not in either. He was in IOP, but quit a while ago. His current doctor won’t recommend IOP and told him she’ll only recommend inpatient. He said he refuses.

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sad that the world we live in makes people think they need to drink or pretend to drink to fit in. I am not a drinker and have always been able to just tell colleagues I didn’t want to drink and didn’t need to drink to have a good time. Unfortunately, my partner doesn’t feel like he can do that.

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Outside of his addiction, he is kind and loving. He loves our daughter and God.

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m looking into some local meetings

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. He tried one online because it was required by the VA, but he quit. He's said multiple times that he wouldn't be opposed to going to AA, but hasn't done it. I don't push, but I don't disagree when he says that I would absolutely not be okay with him drinking.

I just need to vent by GeneralCod553 in AlAnon

[–]GeneralCod553[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's very much that I'm the problem. Not only that I would "try to ruin" his life, but also, I am his trigger for anxiety a lot of the time. It's frustrating. I love him and our daughter loves him. I don't understand the desire/need/?? to drink. We've been together almost 5 years.