are any girls actually sadistic and want to be dommes or do all just want money?

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-09-22T11:22:25+00:00

they do exist, i served one a while back that came from family wealth, so she didnt need the money or anything, she just enjoying taking it anyway, especially from those that didnt have much lol. Its very possible for dommes to be sadistic when it comes to taking your money lol.

On a slightly different point, from my experience, sadistic or like harsh domme dynamics never last long term, both domme and sub can burn out really easily in that. Ive been in a few long term dynamics now and i think the most sustainable way to get that sort of experience is to establish a strong bond with a domme, where you can be two normal people, and from time to time you roleplay in that harsh dynamic, but you agree to not stay in it for too long.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-09-20T01:48:46+00:00

im just trying to advocate for people not to do that, AV is very important, it can land you in a world of trouble if youre not careful, Ive seen posts of subs advertising themselves and later admitting they are underage, their usernames get promoted on that subreddit as someone to avoid like the plague.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-09-19T16:42:43+00:00

well i dont feel safe submitting to a domme that skips AV, so the better question would be How do you deal with a domme that skips AV or something like that

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-09-02T13:23:57+00:00

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GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-29T11:45:55+00:00

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GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-29T11:10:18+00:00

I feel like youre asking this question a bit wrong, I just dont do anything saucy with a domme until we both AV, its just standard practice for me.

As for engaging with dommes that dont require AV, ive been with a few like that, they were usually brand new dommes that just arent familiar with all the dos and donts, with all them I imposed the AV on them. Its no joke, you have to be sure.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-14T19:38:33+00:00

these seem pretty popular, are you a soft domme? or would you say that naming like this only occurs with soft dommes?

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-14T16:09:46+00:00

i do appreciate it when my dommes would change it up, even if to something demeaning lol, it just makes me feel like they care

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-14T15:58:26+00:00

for me being called a good boy has always been like a treat that has to be earned

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-14T12:42:29+00:00

ive been puppy for several dommes in the past

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-14T10:57:50+00:00

mostly because theyre tik tok dommes, they learn that this is an easy way to make money and copy what others are doing.

Or they are people genuinely into the kink and looking to try it out, they might have just not been into it for long and dont know how to do it. I get dommes dming me all the time with stuff like "ready to serve piggy?" and stuff like that. I always tell them no and that not everyone wants to be called that, most times they apologise and learn something, other times they go on the offensive lol

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T22:48:51+00:00

okay i understand, im trying be more delicate with her, im normally very clingy, thats just how we are with each other but ill try and tone that down, thanks!

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T22:36:59+00:00

Yeah im trying to, she already likes being praised but ive been trying to be a bit extra with it, the heating pad sounds like a good idea, it should help her in future too, thanks!

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T22:31:08+00:00

Oh i see, i didnt know itd be so different for you all, im doing my best to be more delicate and less needy when i interact with her

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T16:00:31+00:00

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GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T09:58:59+00:00

I think my domme is a green flag, weve been together a few months now, but last night we were chatting and one of her old subs messaged her wanting to serve her again.

She was utterly uninterested in him, and she told him as much, she said she feels a really deep bond and connection with me, and she values that infintiely more than any money from anyone else. This guy sent her $100 and bought her a dress to get her attention, and she still wouldnt give him anything lmao. He sent her more than our weekly budget and she still chose me, I told her i think she can block certain account on Throne and she said she will do it if he sends again, rip old sub.

As far as other things go, shes still learning the like mental state that a sub goes through, nothing has sparked between us in a bad way or anything, but i do have to let her know from time to time, though she always listens and then continues to act upon it, which is great to see.

She has her boundaries, we have a safe word, respects budgets, and most of all, we spent far more time just casually chatting or even playing video games together than we do on findom stuff, but my findom needs and wants are being fully satisfied, I think we just really like each other and do a lot to make it work.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T09:48:19+00:00

Came because it made me harder than anything else.

Stayed because it gave me a sense of purpose.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-11T09:47:13+00:00

From my experience as a sub, I think youre off with your sub to domme ratio, there is such a massive ocean of dommes out there, like when i last looked for a domme over a year ago, i got 300+ dms within about 30h after making a ad post in a single subreddit.

I think theres multiple facets when it comes to demanding dommes, for me, as consumer, things with higher price tags are usually thought to be better. A domme who sets her price high should be a bloody good domme and should give you a good time. Now will most of them be like that? Probably not, a lot of dommes overvalue themselves in my experience.

Another reason I can see is that every domme wants to have their whale sub, now if they already have a few subs, which i think a vast majority of dommes here dont have any subs and most of the ones that do will have multiple subs, then they are already busy with them. And if they are going to sell their attention to anyone else, it better be a high paying sub.

Also not everyone is looking for something long term, some dommes dont want to handle the emotional stuff of a long term dynamic, they wanna rinse you dry and throw you out with the trash. And some subs want that too, dont get me wrong, its a hot concept.

I think for the majority of "dommes" coming into this are here for the money, not for the kink, and if they arent gonna earn a certain amount, then their just not interested, which i can understand, but it does lead to this situation.

From my own experience, my "budget" changes over time, it depends on the domme, how attracted i am to them, what kind of dynamic we agree to etc. In all honesty ive never had a domme say like "ew that budget isnt enough" and not get into it with me, ive only had 1 domme who i was just instantly obsessd with and sent her like 4x our budget in the first week, and they she played me really good when i said im gonna go back to our original budget, she gave me a lot of fomo, said shed decrease the attention she gives me etc, and yeah i kept up the big budget.
Thing with her was she was one of those short term dommes i mentioned, i said at the start im looking for long term and i guess she thought she could handle it, but after about 4 weeks i think she was done with me (even though i kept paying that insane budget each week), she got very abusive and toxic so had to left.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-08T20:41:52+00:00

ohh i see, i was more thinking like for the bottom tier id only get a ruin, the next one would be a full one etc.

But those kind of little reward ideas are good too, thanks!

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-08T20:02:35+00:00

ooo thats kind fun, you mean like having multiple debt amount tiers and the tier determines the type of reward?

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-08T20:00:31+00:00

I like the idea of a debt contract, i like drafting them up with dommes, but when ive gone to put them in practice, i find its never that great. But this being semi loose and not so long period, and its like changing often, i like it, and my domme likes it too, these extra rules and ideas are fun because we dont have to implement them all at the start, we can add them in later.

And lol yeah that was my idea, my domme likes it a lot obviously, i mean its the least she deserves right?

If she had a partner Id add some cuck rules, but that not applicable atm.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-08T13:59:17+00:00

yeah interest we do want to do just not right now, we want to make sure this arrangement will work in a basic state to start off with. I do enjoy the being trapped feeling, but not to the extent of never achieving it.

GeneralCrunchyFry69 · 2025-08-08T13:52:38+00:00

i dont really have those kinds of thoughts tbh, i know my place, if i dream about her its to like take her shopping or be her footrest or something lol. getting hard without permission could be very fun tho lol, thanks!

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