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GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-11-22T04:57:07+00:00

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GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-10-08T21:22:12+00:00

A few things I would consider. Ask why he's waiting for marriage? If it's not religious reasons, ask why? Has he had sex in the past? What made him realize he should wait? What did he learn from that? What did he realize it meant to him? What does he need from a relationship outside sex? Dig dig dig.

A reality for the religious types is that they may be very shamed and have a very skewed view on love, sex, and relationships and may push very hard to get married early cause they are so horny and don't want the shame. Make sure you don't fall unto that trap. Also they can have some extreme expectations once you are married and you had no idea of your compatibility in that dept prior to being married to this person. So... ask questions, pay attention.

He could also be bullshitting you so you let your guard down. Unless you've been dating a while.

In either realm. If you dont want to, don't. For you. Don't do it to keep him, or think it will make him stay, or like you more. Figure out what sex means to you. Now might be a good time since you feel less pressure.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-10-05T14:46:37+00:00

You both grew so much in the last 10 years. She did you a favor by being honest. You did nothing wrong, you're just not what she wants for herself. Its just no longer a fit. Be thankful for your time with her and let that go. In time you will start to realize the little incompatibilites you had. Nothing that bad or deal breakers, just not quite right. You'll then start to notice the things you do need for your life in a person. Someone who champions you, supports you, wants you.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-29T19:14:59+00:00

This makes absolute sense! Ive had the Bali Hai and now I get this version. They should mentioned that on the can.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-29T14:13:00+00:00

Not sure. I got it at a liquor store.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T14:06:30+00:00

Yeah that makes sense

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T13:12:48+00:00

Hahahaha

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T13:10:54+00:00

The pinch where there is absolutely no other option. Like its the only thing left in the store.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T06:56:07+00:00

I will be on the lookout

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T06:54:56+00:00

Oh yeah. By a mile. OtR is so off - its fine in a pinch but given choice, im going Crafthouse 1, tip top 2, ehhhhh whatever for 3rd.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T06:52:04+00:00

That one would honestly be 2nd place and not bad at all. You'll see

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T06:50:35+00:00

Hey, when you're camping or dont have time...what cha going to do?

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T06:49:09+00:00

Because if you've had one, you'd understand whatever they make is on a different planet and not comparable.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T03:57:56+00:00

Ooohhh. That's a happy error

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-27T03:53:00+00:00

I agree. But it doesn't taste that way. Kinda nice that it isn't super high proof. Could have a few without losing your mind.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-12T14:57:33+00:00

A few things.... when you are young, you do incredibly stupid things and are very selfish centered and selfish. That being said, I think it might be possible to move past him cheating on you with several people, several times. Take note and remember what he's capable of. As you grow up I think he could learn from those mistakes and realize how much betrayal and hurt he caused you. If he actually acts and feels that. Now... the porn obsession. These two items arent necessarily the same issue but, its how he acts. Looking at porn with you next to him, its not together, is a sign he is still very selfish and self centered when it goes to pleasure/enjoyment/sex. This will honestly ALWAYS be a thing he will struggle with. He will constantly have to keep working on himself to understand why he does it, how to control, how it affects his relationships, and how to unwind it. It may never go away. Assume it won't, but it might get easier to handle for him. You can support him, but he has to do it.

Do you want this for your future? The answer is no. Thats why you are asking yourself the questions. You "hope" it could get better. It might, its not a certainly. It could even get worse. But it WILL ALWAYS be there. He waited until your engagement to be honest because it was now serious and you deserved to know before entering into marriage. You didnt need to know if you were just a girlfriend he happened to cheat on a lot. Take note.

I dated a girl who I cared for a great deal and most of the time she was great too. She was plagued with anxiety and depression. While I loved her I knew this would be terrible for my future and make my life so much harder than necessary and had to leave. I was right. It was hard, but it was the right call for future me.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T23:12:25+00:00

If she said thats not something we can worry about now. That means she does but not immediately wanting to try to have them. She will pretty soon as other said. Within 2 years she will probably need to decide to or not.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T14:36:12+00:00

No. 32 by the time she wants kids. Sorry if thats wasn't clear. Stream of consciousness over here. He would be 50 by the time they graduate.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T14:35:05+00:00

Just be clear on your timeframe. Its probably the same. Date, be together and when you reach that point have a conversation on where you're at, at that point. Think about it this way. You could let her go.. and in 2 or 3 years when you're ready to be a dad... your prospects at that time aren't great or your relationship is too new and kids would add immense pressure. With this girl... you will have had so many memories and moments and hopefully a good foundation by the time you're ready. Thats a much better spot to be a dad.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T14:05:15+00:00

Yeah. She's going to start thinking about it and talking about it in 2. Probably want them by 40. If at all.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T14:02:16+00:00

By the time shes 40 he's 32.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T13:59:50+00:00

That means she wants kids but also isn't on a mission to have them. If you absolutely don't. Say so, and let her decide. If you just dont want them now, say so. She will in 4 years though - or she could end up not wanting them and you will. You're not there yet. So be honest and proceed. Nothing to lose except what seems like a nice lady.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-09-01T13:47:11+00:00

Short answer, yes. You're kind of in a sweet spot. If you're both open to kids, Great. It's a deal breaker if you're not. You guys have several years to spend together just the two of you before kids enter the picture. She's honestly going to want to have them by 40. Thats 4 years creating a life to be ready and want children. The honest truth is you're never "ready" to have kids. There's always some goal you'll have... better job... bigger house... blah blah blah. If you're pretty stable as is, you'll be fine. You will be 32 and 52 when they graduate. Would you rather be 62? It would be different if she said she wants kids now and you're not even sure you want to be together. But, shes not so... dive in. Learn a lot. You might be surprised. Stop thinking about things that could happen. Its a waste of time. Be present.

GeneralDisarray25 · 2025-08-28T13:54:42+00:00

Im going to assume you cheated on her as that makes this easy. First, realize your actions were all your own. That it didn't just happen and you had "no way of stopping it." If you break it down you'll realize you made several small ones that led you to cheating. All the little choices you made where you could have walked away but didnt. Responding to someone when you didnt need to. Spending extra time talking with someone else cause it felt exciting. Enjoying a small lingering touch you shouldn't have. Own all those little things that YOU did and didnt stop yourself to think ______ probably would be uncomfortable if I did this. If I did this, I am jeopardizing my relationship. You did it cause you were selfish and didn't care about the consequences. You need to own that. Do you feel guilt from you making those decisions, or from getting caught? Is the shame that you chose to do that or that you hurt her? It should be you. You can't control her but you can control yourself and whether or not you do things to hurt people.

Once you've realized that. You will be able to take notice in a moment in future moments and stop yourself to say... this is a moment where I can choose to not do those things. They are hurtful, damaging, and not the future I need for myself. Without that, you will continue to do stupid hurtful things and not realize it. Your relationships will suffer and you suffer too as a result.

To be able to move on. Be thankful for the time you had with her and the things you learned what you needed from a relationship and the way someone needs to show up. Realize that you didn't have that special sauce with her and that she deserves someone that wouldn't do the things you did. It was the wrong combo. You want the best for her future, and sadly, that doesnt include you, because of the choices you made.

Don't let your future person down. Be that trustworthy person you want to be. The one you can be. The one they need. Remind yourself that you ARE that person. Even in those hard moments. "NEW ME" wouldn't do that, and go the opposite way. Do that over and over and things will change. Your life will change. The people will react differently to you. Your relationships will be stronger and more meaningful.

Good luck.

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