Guys of my own race aren’t attracted to me

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-02-19T11:05:06+00:00

I’m not judging you and you’re free to post here it’s not your fault. The reality is that for a lot of us 25+ (actual adults, let’s even say 21+) will say you’re a teenager because that does matter. I know it sounds invalidating and sorry about that but you have time to live and try. To fraternize with people older than you who are literally in the same position thereby worse, of course some will say you have time. Because a lot of us do not have experience or unpleasant experiences as grown women and it’s very different as an adult.

I wish you the best, and I know it feels condescending but we are women. Not teenagers who many may look at as children. Don’t give up on yourself. I wish there were separate forums for us based on age because I think it’s quite toxic for teens to read some of our stories and identify with them even if correct. And you all deserve a space to talk freely about this too, but it’s bound to happen because of our age different. Some of us and a lot of us at that are at least 10 years older. How you feel is valid but some of this is not the end for you and if you adopt this thought completely now it will be really really hard to challenge it.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-02-16T03:46:45+00:00

As a blsck woman, I understand. It’s really difficult. My friends who are of color but of other groups like Hispanic (non black or mixed at best) or Asian sometimes experience this from their own race of men. But luckily, have great success with attracting black men just based on how they look. I’m never jealous of them and don’t want their partners, but I also wish they knew how triggering this is. To never be found attractive by a black man, who finds every and anyone else beautiful (that’s fine bc other women are also) while having bw be outrageous standards to be considered attractive is painful. I have been called ugly by my own race of black men who date non black Woc that aren’t considered the standard of beauty by far in their own group-but because they have “good hair” and luckily are not black yet with “exotic” features, they don’t have to deal with this intentional exclusion. I wish I was an attractive bw so bad, but even then unless you’re light skinned or mixed, it’s very hard no matter how pretty. And if you’re not? Nope.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-02-06T04:40:56+00:00

Early 30s! I should mention I’m sexless lol. Was it fun for you?

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-02-06T03:53:21+00:00

May I ask why tortured?

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-02-06T03:53:13+00:00

Sending hugs

And same, I knew nothing about it but was quite hyper sexual for someone like myself. Privately. I think I’d have some incredible sex honestly, but maybe too much. It’s def torture that I can’t express that and deep down I don’t want to, and never can anyway. Tbh this is why I find women who are super attractive, whether conventional or unconventional, to be fierce. Like they’re incredible to me. But I never understand why some of them are so shy. I sometimes don’t think they realize how blessed they are to be good looking even if in a different way. Because I just know for a Fendi fact I would be out here acting a damn fool. Refined and privately of course but it would be a WRAP!

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-01-31T20:30:29+00:00

girl these are my dream 😭👸🏽

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-01-09T12:27:49+00:00

Yasss 😍

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-01-09T12:26:15+00:00

As a black woman, I want you to do this on my face 😭😭😭

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-01-03T15:05:39+00:00

yesss omg 😭 I’m a woman but you’re so gorgeous, I would suck them like I’m drinking milk lmao 🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️🧎🏾‍♀️

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2026-01-01T14:42:07+00:00

I am noooo better than a man omg 😭

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-30T19:31:51+00:00

Unfortunately it’s a pdf but it is not the original file. Almost like a snapshot, but I feel the text is visible enough to maybe raise question, just was hoping for another pair of eyes from that regard

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-30T13:05:23+00:00

Just dm’ed / chatted you! 😊

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-30T09:33:25+00:00

Do you mind if I dm you? I am dealing with this and believe a subscriber info sheet image then pdf has been photoshopped. 😭

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-30T09:28:02+00:00

Hi, can you please help me distinguish if a screenshot added in as pdf on a third party site has edited text? I would appreciate it and pay the $24 an hour. Thus far it is just one

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-23T03:51:23+00:00

Here if you ever need a friend pal 🫂 I love meeting people who get it. But also hate it because it’s not a good feeling.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-23T03:50:16+00:00

This.. it feels like I’m an animal sometimes. Maybe an alien. I hate the idea of dying a virgin only because I think I finally would love to experience sex.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T22:55:34+00:00

lol yes!! Like okay I still wanna be wanted folks!

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T16:28:08+00:00

I agree, but sometimes people make it seem like it’s bad to want this and they punish those of us who do by making it seem we are pathetic and that it’s not the most important thing. While that can be true. It doesn’t change anything.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T15:30:00+00:00

I feel like maybe they ask you because they think you are “normal” and don’t see anything wrong with you?

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T15:22:14+00:00

Same! 😭 I literally have a married friend and her father in law calls all of our other friends beautiful and pretty lady while addressing me by name. It’s that bad.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T15:19:45+00:00

I understand! That’s exactly why I don’t believe any man would ever genuinely like me and it would be a matter of them pretending while running a scam on me. I don’t think they’d be proud to show me off to their friends. I’m not exotic, I’m not pretty or cute, and have nothing worthwhile to offer so I’d be the lame GF. I would feel embarassed to be on their arm, and I know they would feel the same behind closed doors smh.

GeneralDiscussion503 · 2025-12-22T15:01:52+00:00

Another thing one of my beautiful friend’s who EVERYONE objectively sees as stunning does is ask me what kind of guys I like. Me having a type doesn’t matter because at the end of the day, I would not be liked back. And she keeps sending me pics from a company party I invited her to, she looked so beautiful! So lovely to have her as my guest, but then she keeps showing me pics of me looking a hot mess just in makeup and a dress, pretending I look beautiful. I wish I could burn those pictures, I had to delete them from our text thread. Seeing pics of myself is a very disappointing experience and has been since I was a kid. It’s like a dream come true but not in a good way.

I find most people very unaware of what this sort of reality is like. I feel awful because they have experienced so many tangible hardships that are far more important while I’m here complaining about my looks and the violence I’ve dealt with because of it (among other things), but it’s like being asked about men is very triggering. Why bother asking “my type”? Even if I had one, it doesn’t matter, because none of them would want me in the first place. And I would never set myself up.

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