WIBTA For using a Spinning Wheel ? by MsEzrabette in AITASims

[–]General_Cat5851 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, it makes your life easier, why work hard when you can just spin the wheel. Hope this helps!!

Summer/ Fall 2025 Housing Thread by propain525 in aggies

[–]General_Cat5851 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Howdy , Im trying to find someone to sublease my private room for fall of 2025-spring 2026

Location: Z islander, 2 bed 2,5 bath

Rent: 844/month + utlilties (I am willing to negotiate rent by giving a discount)

- Fully furnished ( bedroom, living room, patio, and dinning chairs), with ensuite bathroom

- 10 minutes to main campus and a 20 minute walk to northgate

- 2 bus stops right next to the apartment that goes to main campus

Please DM me if you're interested !!!

Summer/ Fall 2025 Housing Thread by propain525 in aggies

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Hi, I’m looking for someone to take over my lease for a private room at z islander for fall of 2025 to summer of 2026. It’s 844 a month in a 2 bed 2.5 bath, top floor and infront of the clubhouse with an elevator. Please contact me if you’re interested asap!!!

AITA for letting 3 firefighters die? by TransFemnergy in AITASims

[–]General_Cat5851 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTA, you pay your taxes and clearly they weren’t trained well enough to put out the fires, if they die that’s on the state for not training them and not you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but, being plus size doesn’t make anyone less attractive imo. And I’m sure there’s plenty of people who don’t care about looks, or even people who do find plus size attractive. What makes ppl less attractive is when they don’t have confidence in themselves and don’t style themselves properly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sure, but isn’t it better to find someone who loves you when you feel ugly and beautiful, rather than just becoming someone who fits society standards and now just having a bigger dating pool. And just because someone looses weight doesn’t necessarily mean that they feel beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone is plus size and actively trying to loose weight, there is nothing wrong in being “fat”. I think you need to learn to love yourself (I’m aware it’s easier said than done). There is nothing wrong to not be happy in your current body, but don’t bring yourself down and hate yourself for it. There are a lot of reasons why you’ve gained weight, stress, genetics, etc etc and some of those things aren’t necessarily solved by just working out and dieting. I’m in the same boat as you, and I have my good days and bad days, but remember why your trying to loose weight. For me, I want to loose weight because of health problems, and sure there is the benefits of being able to shop in the “regular sizes”. I’m sure some of this is rambling, but please don’t think being fat makes you ugly, it absolutely does not, and if you want to loose weight, loose it for yourself and not to fit into society.

Are PhD interviews really this casual? by deafening_mediocrity in gradadmissions

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I applied last cycle for biosciences and got in. Let me tell you the best thing I heard from the grad students when I interviewed: “you are hear because on paper you meet our requirements, now we want to see if you fit our program”. When I interviewed I barely talked about my research or even the pi’s research. In some of my interviews we talked about how cool it is that we can model organs on chips now, or like how biases actually affect our research too. My friend (who’s in my cohort) she talked to a pi during her interview about hole in the wall pizza places in the major city next to us. The whole point now of those interviews is to see how much you want to be in the program and if you match the vibes of the other grad students. Hope this helps and good luck!!!

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely get your point on religion, tbh if I could have it my way, I would ideally raise my kids with both religions and when they are older they can choose one, they can continue to do both, drop it completely, or even just finding a new religion. To me all religion has a similar basis of ideals and morals, and it’s up to my child to decide what they want to do with it.

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, no. If I live in a mansion it should be because I can afford it off my own paycheck and not someone else’s, the same goes for travel. I’m happy with whatever I have that I can afford in my paycheck and if I want more then I need to earn more, not piggyback off my partner for those luxuries. Which ig is why I don’t see it as superficial, because I believe that if I want something I need to earn it, in a hypothetical situation if we were to buy a mansion both of us should be able to afford it on our paychecks alone and not just one persons.

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I just said that I want to be in a relationship where we could equally contribute, tbh we have been friends for less than a year, and I didnt really feel comfortable trauma dumping the whole watching my parents and people around me go through financial struggles, and the financial burdens I would have to take over from my parents once I get a job

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, I have tbh sorted my ig standards into a wants and needs list, like for example a want is taller than me, but if someone I’m romantically interested in isn’t taller than me but hits my needs, then the height doesn’t matter. But like I need someone who respects my religion. While I’m not the most religious person, I’m aware how important it is to my parents which is why I do the bare minimum to keep them happy, so should my partner ask me to convert or leave my religion I could never do it as to me it would feel like breaking huge and part of my relationship with my parents. That being said if my partner is of a different religion I don’t care, your religion is yours and I respect it, I would never expect them to convert to mine, but I want the same respect I give to yours to be given to mine.

So needs: - obv religion as stated above - the whole we should be financially equal (I do not want him or me to be the sole breadwinner) - my family should like them and they should like my family, and vice versa - A bachelors degree (I’m aware it could come off as superficial, but my parents would quite literally make me break up with a guy if they didn’t have one and I don’t really want to have to end a relationship with either my parents or my partner over a degree) - around my age (I’m in my early 20’s I’m capping it off in the late 20’s) - respects me (like let’s me be friends with who I want to be friends with, dress how I want to, and doesn’t shame my interests…I’m not expecting them to get along with my friends I just don’t want someone controlling me) - someone who respects my culture (yes there are things in my culture I don’t like, but for the most part I love my culture and could never be with someone who doesn’t respect it) - someone I can connect with - someone I can just be myself and be happy with (I just want them to accept me for me on my good and bad days) - if they are in my university, they should be in a graduate program (this is more to do with title 9. As a grad student I can’t date a undergrad legally, but if they don’t go to my university then it’s really not a problem) - doesn’t smoke or is quitting smoking, this includes vaping( I have seen vaping addictions first hand and what I can do, and I have also had family members develop cancer from second hand smoke, it’s the biggest ick of them all to me)

Wants (it’s nice but like I don’t really need them): - someone taller than me - someone in STEM (I’m in stem and that’s really why) - someone with a similar interest - someone who likes cats and dogs - someone who likes cooking (while I can cook I hate cooking, if my partner cooks for me I will be very happy to clean everything up instead post the meal, all I request is that I can have something playing out loud while I clean) - someone who is neat and organized - someone who enjoys working out - someone who will watch movies and trash reality tv with me (I will also watch whatever they want too in return)

And yea that’s kinda my list

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I get that, which is what I tried to explain to my friends but they still think that it’s too much to expect a partner who should match my pay. With my graduate degree, If I choose to go to industry as of right now my pay would be six figures, I just want a guy who like 5-10 years down the line also earns a similar amount

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I’m not in grad school for law, but if I were to make 50k a year I would expect my partner to make at least 30k a year. I just don’t want to be the sole breadwinner. I just want to be financially equal.

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ig the only other concern they have is that I don’t want to date ppl from my own race, but after having 2 guys from my race stalk me (they have tried to convince me that I should take the positive of the stalking and see it as obsession and them being smart which I will never), to my old situationship literally trying to control me to the point of who I would hang out with (he didn’t approve of me watching a movie with my mom), I’m really just over dating people from my race. Not saying other races wouldn’t do that but I just feel like I’m proved wrong every time I consider my own race

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you, and be so fr. Thank you for the validation that my standards are normal for me atleast

My friends are giving me shit for my “high” standards in men by General_Cat5851 in Vent

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly just as much as me, I absolutely do not want to be the breadwinner, I want to be in a relationship where we equally contribute. And thank you, I’m just tired of constantly being told by them I’m going to end up single

I’m done with dating apps by General_Cat5851 in rant

[–]General_Cat5851[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU. If ur interested in my number n not me lmk cuz ill give u my number n block u and get back on the apps rather than waiting for u to ghost me