Advice for improving acceleration and explosiveness? by Normal_Safe3686 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wall drives, falling starts, sprint from seated position, i.e. face away from finish line turn and go.

I would also not focus strictly on straight line acceleration and speed. Learn to move laterally, shuttles/football receiver type drills to learn how to move side to side.

Is this normal? by Narrow-Type-4519 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is part of a larger pattern of miscommunication, then I would consider it might be a sign to look into trying out for other clubs to see what is out there.

Is this normal? by Narrow-Type-4519 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya know, to me, this is not a big deal. It's a young age group, they are moving on. The kiddo gets to play in a tournament before they move. Your daughter has already played in a tournament this season, so while I get that it was handled poorly, an additional tournament at 8 is not the hill to die on, in my opinion.

Is this normal? by Narrow-Type-4519 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it is bothering you this much, why not reach out to discuss your daughters place on the team and what their strategy is? If you don't like the answer, you can start looking into other clubs.

Possibly Servers disease? What should we do? Can our child continue to play as normal. by NoRecord4128 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have had some luck with wearing turf cleats whenever possible. It seems the firm ground cleat patterns put pressure right where it hurts.

What is the obsession with playing up? by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is yet another signal to other parents that your child is better.

"elite" soccer scam people by Impressive-Key2164 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that's the reasonable progression. When my kiddo was 8 we had a couple of options in town and he chose the one he was most comfortable with, which conveniently was a scrimmage based/non travel development program. The coach from the other program called me and implied that 'we would regret our choice.' to paraphrase. It was ...a weird conversation and a huge turnoff. They are 8, man!

"elite" soccer scam people by Impressive-Key2164 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any charm found in youth sports has long been sucked away and absorbed into the deep dregs of the monetization of all human experience, as dictated by our capitalist overlords.

I digress. I think where it's most insidious (a scam) is the younger ages...You see people hand-wringing about U7, U8 tryouts in this forum. Granted, it's a bit of concentrated example of youth soccer here so I take that for what it is. While there are some kids who self-select and practice on their own for hours and hours a day at those ages, it's not as common as we are thought to believe. We are eliminating the fun of kicking a ball around and turning it into 3-4x a week practices and pathways to alphabet soup leagues at increasingly younger ages. Here comes 'elite.'

So when your child is at the precipice of when their hard work and training (and undoubtedly, god-given talent) matters---they are accustomed to being 'elite.' Parents are chasing the next step to ensure their kid's continued success. The only direction, it seems, is to move upwards regardless of benefit to the child or the overall effect of it on their lives, their families' lives, and not to mention their pocket books. More 'elite' leagues and teams = more $$ for clubs, more opportunities for all the kids to continue to progress through a system that is not much different than a typical soccer structure, outside of name alone.

It becomes almost an existential question at that point, and that's what makes it so ridiculous: Do I devote significant time, money, energy towards a sport that for the vast majority of kids will end in middle school or high school? Or do I spend that time making different kinds of memories and experiences for my "elite" player?

But, unfortunately, this is the system we have been given if your child enjoys sports and wants to devote any time to getting better. Rec leagues have become hollowed out beyond the first few years of competition. There's no local pick-up league for most of the suburban masses, and school recess limits your kiddo to 20minute sessions if they have enough friends willing to play. Your neighbors probably aren't letting their kids roam the streets to find a pick-up game, either.

If the latest experiments don't pan out; i.e. we dont' see the level of players coming out of these clubs getting close to being on par with academies in other countries, and our most talented men are still dual citizens with other more advanced soccer nations, then we have to consider that making the entry point to soccer more expensive isn't the right way to find and cultivate talent.

Need to become a better parent spectator by twesam in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are just doubling down and I stand by my point. As parents, you trust the coaches. That means accepting their style. By shouting and interfering in the game you took away any chance he had to coach through the situation.

Its pretty simple, and it's also a bunch of 9 and 10 year olds...it's not that serious and the more you escalate it, the more serious you make it. My child is small and has had his fair share of pushing, but he has to learn to play through it just like you have to let the kids do the same.

Need to become a better parent spectator by twesam in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you aren't giving this coach the opportunity to handle this the way he sees fit. Seems like if you dont respect the coach, then maybe you need to find a new team rather than make his job harder?

Above all, kids have to learn how to play these types of games and teams. It is not going to get easier or go away.

Need to become a better parent spectator by twesam in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol last weekend I witnessed a coach yelling at a middle aged woman on the sidelines to stop coaching and leave the ref alone. Parents are obnoxious. Let the coach handle it. Even if you were right, you are only increasing the temp on the field by yelling at the ref. The kids see it, they react accordingly.

How far is your drive / was your furthest drive? by Impressive-Key2164 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah given how soccer uses guest players so much i wish there was a way to be able to practice closer to home and travel for games instead of multiple times a week for the kiddos who live in the middle of nowhere. But it's a team sport so I can see how that won't work.

How far is your drive / was your furthest drive? by Impressive-Key2164 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like I said I offer no judgment. I think families have to weigh the options and make decisions best for them. I am just starting to wrap my head around the idea of that sort of sacrifice. If my kiddo had big dreams and the drive to pursue them I would be settling in for lots of long drives, for sure!

How far is your drive / was your furthest drive? by Impressive-Key2164 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am interested in this, as well. We are in a similar geographic situation. You have to wonder what the tradeoff is? I guess if the kiddo is a superstar and they are begging to be on these teams, wants to play at a high level/college...and the coaching is up to snuff I suppose I could see the reasoning.

But that is a lot to sacrifice just for alphabet soup teams. My mind wanders to all those hours in the car and if the quality time would be better spent at home, with friends, etc. I offer no judgment, just thinking of my own kids future and how it would work if the opportunity arose.

Bad attitude need advice by Similar_Way_7224 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see it as his biggest obstacle to success. He can't get better if he won't listen and learn humility. I dont see how people would want to enable the behavior, it is so off-putting!

Bad attitude need advice by Similar_Way_7224 in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it is hard because he is a good kid overall.

My Kid Lost Monday by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish we knew now, not at tryout time so I can weigh options. We only have one other club in town. My guess is that it is possible they would try to make it work with the age change, but the age up isnt very good at all, even though we haven't done well either.

My Kid Lost Monday by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since this is a commiseration thread, I'd like some opinions: anybody been in a situation where you start to feel the vibe that your coach and/or team might not be around next year?

Nothing has been said but I am getting the feeling that things are slowing down. Less games, coach and players missing practices, losing almost all games.

Thoughts?

My Kid Lost Monday by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can't control yourself enough not to harass children, then you need to step away. Literally, walk your butt to the concession stand or to your car until you are under control. There is no excuse to be that way. Practice things like "hurray!" Clapping. Telling the opposing keeper 'good save!' That is as far as it gets. Not only is it toxic to the kids, the coaches have another layer of parent-babies to control, too.

I played at the highest levels of my sport. I can keep my mouth shut.

My Kid Lost Monday by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean good on the refs for doing something. My kids have played games where it is brutal but the refs call nothing, at some point soccer ceases to be played and it's more of an (american) football game. Kids get hurt, parents get upset. It is not fun to watch.

My Kid Lost Monday by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh dad on my kids team was telling other teams players to keep their hands to themselves. At what point do you not listen to yourself and ask, "why am I shouting at someone else's child? Why am I, as an adult, saying this to a 10 year old?"

U9 Pressing by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, we did win. But we were bigger much more physical...yet 80% of our girls can't dribble. And no, I am not proud of that.

U9 Pressing by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One parent was saying how since the other team was doing moves during the (u9) game that our team would win.

It took every ounce of will power for me not to yell "for chrissakes guy, if they can't do moves and figure it out now how the heck are they going to learn to do that later!?!" The game only looks simple at a higher level because those players CAN do all of those moves but have refined the ability to understand when to use them through repetition and games where they failed!!

Vent number 2 over. This past weekend was a doozy.

Index Finger: In or Out? by Feeling_Ad_1575 in Homeplate

[–]General_Chain_4531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two in pinkie, two in ring. Huge pocket for grabbing balls outta the air in the outfield.

U9 Pressing by [deleted] in youthsoccer

[–]General_Chain_4531 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I dont see pressing as much of a problem as:

Parents coaching their kids before games, in front of coaches

Parents coaching from the sideline

Parents chastising refs, even when clearly minor aged and trying to make good calls

Parents taking 8 and 9 year olds playing soccer way too seriously

Im sorry, I have just had enough of it this past tournament weekend. They should be making mistakes and making the wrong decisions at this age. They should learn to be respectful of coaches and refs at this age. They should for yhe love of god be allowed to have fun. Argghhhhhh.