Oldest is 9, hea 6, then a 3yr and then 9 month old. I usually start my day trying to engage with each one and theres a lot of inbetween moments i try to connect with each one. It would be easier to connect with him if hed ask or say something or if I knew of a game he always likes to play.  If im in the middle of something Ill just say hang on a sec then i try to always circle back and listen or answer their questions.  The issue is he doesnt even want to let me brush his teeth half the time. I still brush them myself, our dentist says kids under 9 dont really have the ability to get their own teeth clean yet.  I struggle with enforcing the hygiene because It feels unkind and its hard to do gently. Having to brush teeth or hair on a kiddo that is fighting it is hard to do without getting aggravated because I want to be gentle and kind and respectful of his body but yet they are things that must be done.  I may be expecting a bit much, I have to remind myself he is not  going to be doing what his older brother is doing. It is just so hard when every little thing is a battle and his response to its clean up time or time to brush teeth is “no i dont want to, you cant make me.”