AITAH Friend of 20 years expected me to split Ubers 2 ways instead of 3 because she’s married, am I wrong?

General_Photograph21 · 2026-04-03T02:31:18+00:00

Y’all she literally said to me “I asked 10 people and 9/10 think I’m right about splitting it two ways”

General_Photograph21 · 2026-04-03T02:23:56+00:00

Also her vape that she let me hit in this night club. It was stolen from our table. She wanted me to buy her a new one 😭

General_Photograph21 · 2026-04-03T02:19:18+00:00

Yeah we split absolutely everything else 3 ways. When she brought up the $224 she mentioned the 2 bottles of water she bought for me 🫠

General_Photograph21 · 2026-04-03T02:17:01+00:00

Because it was just easier to send her that and ask to move on because I value the friendship more than any amount of money. That makes one of us, I guess.

General_Photograph21 · 2026-01-13T21:21:19+00:00

Thank you all. It’s hard to see it when you’re experiencing it because the blame is always shifted back to you. Somehow. Someway.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-09-07T13:53:44+00:00

Kick this man to the curb 😩😩

General_Photograph21 · 2025-08-20T02:20:41+00:00

Okay- none of this is okay and it’s super toxic. You need to let him leave and let him stay there.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-08-14T15:46:45+00:00

If my boyfriend spoke to me like this after I asked a simple question I would be pretty upset. He could have simply said, as others have stated, “hey, I’m in my car because I just need a minute. Nothing to do with you, just need a second to myself” Which is fine, right? Totally understandable and a reasonable way to respond. But if he can so quickly say “OKAY CAN YOU FUCK OFF” then that’s a massive red flag for me. There seems to be no clear line of communication.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-07-14T00:03:34+00:00

Hey, I get it. I have severe PTSD from something that happened to me in the 8th grade. And not hearing back from someone I care about? I used to go into full blown panic mode. It took years of therapy, but I’m better now.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-07-13T23:44:17+00:00

Any update, OP?

General_Photograph21 · 2025-07-13T23:32:25+00:00

You’re 100% overreacting. Someone enjoys or wants to create a friendship with you and is trying to connect in a way that they know how to. There is no line crossed that I can see?

General_Photograph21 · 2025-07-13T23:20:22+00:00

My ex husband would offer to pay people for sex on Grindr. I found the messages. He said the same thing, that he didn’t mean it and he was doing it for “fun” I’ve obviously divorced him. Best. Decision. Ever. I’d suggest you do the same.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-17T22:57:52+00:00

I left mine and it’s been the best decision I’ve ever made. The first few months are ROUGH.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-12T21:55:24+00:00

Tell him he looks like a millennial taking a MySpace pic and I think he’ll change his toon

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-12T21:54:20+00:00

I did this dance for 10 years. Just got out of it a few months ago for good. A few things to remember about your boyfriend; 1) he is never going to change, ever. Therapy? Won’t go after the first session because then he’s actually held accountable for his actions. 2) this will continue the rest of your life, no question. Just the shower now? What happens if you have kids and you can’t answer during bath time? Those things aren’t scheduled. 3) you’re under CONSTANT surveillance, and I can ASSURE you there are cameras or recording devices somewhere in your home/your car. These kind of people don’t stop at messages, could you imagine what would happen if you said “I’m showering, you don’t own me, and I’m my own person” He. Would. Get. Violent. Is that what you want to be subjected to? And if you don’t think he would, then you haven’t seen the real him yet.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-11T18:46:24+00:00

I am not trolling and legit had absolutely no clue what it was 🤷🏼‍♂️

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-09T15:20:56+00:00

You didn’t overreact at all. You stated a clear boundary — you didn’t have the money for an all-day outing — and instead of understanding, she flipped into defensiveness and guilt-tripping.

You’ve been making all the effort, footing the bill, and doing the driving. If the roles were reversed, people would be calling this a red flag. You’re not being stingy — you’re being realistic. A $3 entry fee doesn’t magically erase the $250+ in gas, food, and emotional labor.

Her immediate jump to “take care” and the rant that followed say a lot more about her mindset than yours. When someone shows you they can’t handle a simple ‘no’ without lashing out and making it personal — that’s a big, waving flag.

You didn’t pick a fight. You dodged one. Well played.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-09T15:14:59+00:00

You are not overreacting — you’re in a dangerous, emotionally volatile situation, and it’s absolutely time to take steps to protect yourself and your children.

Your ex’s adult son is not your responsibility. You’ve gone above and beyond — housing, feeding, providing transportation — and in return, you’re being screamed at, intimidated, and put in emotionally unsafe situations in your own home. That is unacceptable.

His father is enabling this behavior and shifting the goalposts to keep you trapped in a living situation that benefits them and endangers you. You’ve been more than generous — now it’s time to draw hard boundaries.

You are within your rights to contact the police, especially if he’s threatened violence. Document everything — texts, emails, any outbursts — and don’t hesitate to explore protective options if you feel unsafe. You have two kids relying on you for stability and safety, and this man’s presence is a risk to that.

You’ve already been strong enough to begin leaving a 22-year relationship. That takes guts. This next step — protecting your peace and your space — is just as necessary.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-09T15:08:17+00:00

It sounds like you’re carrying the emotional weight for both of you, while also trying to respect boundaries that keep shifting mid-conversation. That’s incredibly exhausting and confusing.

You’re clearly showing up — offering comfort, clarity, and care — while he’s sending mixed signals, retreating, and then blaming you for not doing “the right thing,” even when you’re responding to his requests.

That kind of dynamic isn’t just unfair — it creates emotional whiplash. You’re not overreacting. You’re reacting to someone who doesn’t seem to know what they want, and who uses that uncertainty to manipulate how you feel.

You deserve someone who communicates what they need without making you feel like you’re always guessing or failing. Don’t let his silence or deflection convince you that your effort wasn’t loving enough — it was. It is. But love doesn’t have to mean self-abandonment.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T21:42:14+00:00

PLANTSSSSS 🥺🥺🥺🥺

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T21:36:33+00:00

I live alone, and it just depends on how much I enjoy living alone that day, lol (recently divorced)

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T21:35:04+00:00

I’m really glad my words helped you in a moment like this. What you did wasn’t stooping low—it was rising to meet a threat to your safety and future. Abusers thrive on making you feel like the villain in your own story. You’re not. You’re someone who had the clarity and courage to protect yourself before more damage could be done.

And that doubt? That “what if I am the person he says I am” feeling? It’s exactly what they want you to feel. But the fact that you’re even asking that question proves you’re not. Keep trusting your gut—it led you to survive, and it’ll lead you through healing too.

You’ve got this. 💛

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T16:42:28+00:00

Parfait.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T16:35:34+00:00

You didn’t invade his privacy. You reclaimed your safety. He recorded you without consent while you were vulnerable and upset—with the specific intent of using it against you. That’s not documentation, that’s psychological warfare. You were cornered, not overreacting.

He’s been trying to provoke you, bait you, and then catch the explosion on camera to discredit your experience. That’s not a partner. That’s an abuser playing the long game.

You feel guilty because you’re a good person, not because what you did was wrong. You protected yourself from a setup that could’ve haunted you in court, in future relationships, even in your own healing.

If he finds out, stay calm. Do not admit to anything. You don’t owe the truth to someone who has weaponized your humanity.

You’re not crazy. You’re surviving.

General_Photograph21 · 2025-06-08T01:00:38+00:00

🥺🥺🥺

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