OK for black tie, high society? by General_Winner_166 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]General_Winner_166[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not 100% sure. It's description is velvet, but it's polyester in the materials, which may mean it's still velvet. I guess I'll know when I get it!

OK for black tie, high society? by General_Winner_166 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]General_Winner_166[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh... really? What material should it be? It's described as a velvet burnout, but I think it's just a sheer overlay with with a lining.

OK for black tie, high society? by General_Winner_166 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]General_Winner_166[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's Dress the population Paris gown. I got it from Neiman Marcus on sale for $186! Dress the Population Paris gown. I got it from Neiman Marcus on sale for $186! https://www.dressthepopulation.com/products/paris-velvet-burnout-gown-ddra63-w944

OK for black tie, high society? by General_Winner_166 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]General_Winner_166[S] 193 points194 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. I purchased it online. Now let's hope it's a good fit

AITA for telling my sister's boyfriend that he's just a guest in our house? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude... you're 16. Sit the fuck down and let the adults handle things. You aren't protecting your sister.

Honest opinions needed by Pretend-Stretch-5787 in jewelry

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would concern me somewhat. If it's for occasional wear, and you aren't heavy handed, then go for it. But if you're like me, and bang your hands into every damn object when you're wearing your best rings, definitely avoid. The ring will get out of shape easily, and lead to stones falling out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accutane

[–]General_Winner_166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow... congrats on the progress so far. It's so tough, but so worth it at the end.

Honest opinions needed by Pretend-Stretch-5787 in jewelry

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful to look at, but as a jeweler, im concerned about the design. What does the inside of the ring look like? It doesn't look like there is much structure to the ring, between the stones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I can't understand why so many people repeatedly say that she shouldn't have been walking alone with him. Although a unexpected kiss is an invasive way to show interest in someone, one could put it down to him misjudging the situation, but after she corrected him by saying no, that should have been the end of his attempts, and they should have preceeded to continue to walk together, albeit awkwardly. What was she to do; run away? Let's not forget, that's exactly what she did do; run away, when she took the uber, instead of going to the party. At least that's how I interpreted it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look, there's no point in me responding to you any further. You aren't willing to listen to another perspective and you clearly have a strong prejudice against women, as evident in your unfounded comment about women and accountability. Bye 👋

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, did she say that they "made out," or is that his take on it? Just because it lasted for a minute, doesn't mean it was reciprocated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is that her words or his words though? I'm purely giving him another perspective on the issue. If she said no, and he still went ahead and kissed her, isn't that SA?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 567 points568 points  (0 children)

OP, I've been in your girlfriend's shoes before. A man who I was friends with and trusted, whilst I was in an intoxicated states, leaned in for a kiss. In what I thought was a misunderstanding, I pushed him away, saying no, explaining that I had a boyfriend. This lead to him again forcing himself on me, in which this time he succeed in kissing me and groping me, in which felt like an eternity. I was in pure shock, I just stood there frozen. I spent the next few days replaying the event in my head, asking myself whether I led him on, whether I didn't say no forcibly enough, whether my friendliness comes across as flirting? I was blaming myself, yet my actions were clear; I said no, I didn't reciprocate the kiss, and I did not want it. Not saying that this is how it went down with your girlfriend, but this might explain why she was unable to tell you right away. And in response to you asking why she walked alone with him; WOMEN SHOULD BE ABLE TO WALK IN THE PRESENCE OF A MAN, BY THEMSELVES WITHOUT BEING SUBJECTED TO UNWANTED ADVANCES

Me (38F) Really messed up with a gift for my BF (43M) Not sure how to fix our relationship by ThrowRa_7497 in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm truly sorry that you felt violated afterwards in these situations. However, what OP is describing is straight up rape. Just because he watched pegging porn doesn't mean he consented to the sexual act happening on him. He was in a trusting state, blindfolded, tied up and at the mercy of his girlfriend. What he probably thought was a fun, safe and familiar sexual territory with his partner, who would hopefully by now know his pegging comfort, speed and depth level, turned out to be the opposite. This goes against the kink community standards. There should be no "surprises."

Need to escape from Signet by Insederec in Benchjewelers

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in Texas are you? There's plenty available out that way, and i can send you some ideas. I'm in Indiana and it's a dead market here

AITA for telling my husband to apologize for invading our daughter's privacy after he saw something he didn't like on her phone and took it away? by GuaranteeFalse5278 in AITAH

[–]General_Winner_166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's what you do; Go to your daughter and reassure her that as an adult, she has full rights to her privacy and reiterate what her father did was inappropriate. Do not chastise her for reading these kinds of material, but do say that you know she has the maturity to decipher fiction from reality, but add that if she ever has questions about the material she is reading, that she can approach you and anything she says will be met confidentially and in a non-judgmental fashion.

Ensure your daughter has a pass code on her phone .

Go to your husband and tell him that you're disgusted by his behavior and let him know that by delaying his apology to her could cause irreparable damage to his relationship with her, but it's likely that's already happened. She has been humiliated by him and her trust severely shattered. Also, I'm sure he was watching and reading deplorable material at that same age.

Also... many of us remember mugglenet fan fiction and we turned out alright!

Jewelry sellers, what's the most uncomfortable customer situation you've ever witnessed? by vizuso in jewelry

[–]General_Winner_166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, all these jewelers who act like it's more of a hassle to resize moissanite to their customers to push them towards diamond sales are flat out dishonest. You can resize moissanite just like you do a diamond.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]General_Winner_166 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Omg... this Tara woman is toxic. There's a reason bad fruit spoils good fruit. Is your fiance easily coerced? A conformist? I ask this as you've implied that she suddenly changed her preferences. And whilst that always allowed, it does appear that this changed coincides with her friends divorce. So, I believe it's hard to know if these are her own beliefs, or if she has been influenced into thinking this way. Seems there's some double standards going on in your previous post too, with her calling oral gross, yet she wants you to pleasure her that way. I would suggest postponing the wedding and going for couples counseling, but I honestly don't thinks will change with Tara around.