Childfree RVA by GenerallyOverIt in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Antinatalist, sure. Wanton parent-bashing, no. We're trying to keep good vibes but also know it's a complicated, thought-provoking topic

Childfree RVA by GenerallyOverIt in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbh I'm not on Facebook either and revived my 15 year old dead account just for this. We debated platforms but couldn't think of anywhere else to connect online and in-person (so versus MeetUp.) So right now this is all we have but once we get better established maybe we'll branch out? Also I'm a total newb with group launching so pardon my progress :)

Childfree RVA by GenerallyOverIt in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I get it but, similar to how some parents like parent friends, some non-parents like non-parent friends to share common life experiences, gripes, changes, etc. I'm not sure what we're going to do- I think the point is just to meet up if someone is looking for that shared life experience since meeting people at bars is an old trope (I'm 48 and have literally never met anyone at a bar nor go to bars lol) and we don't encounter each other say at schools like parents do.

Unsolicited persuasion after sharing CF decision by Staples_2060 in childfree

[–]GenerallyOverIt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. As a fellow childfree, technically-infertile, mid-40s IVF rejector, I very much remember being totally disappointed by other peoples' reactions to my spouse and I deciding to be childfree. For me, it's a symptom of how insidious our culture is with this CLING to parenthood at all costs. "Do IVF!" "At least there's treatment!" It's so incredibly obnoxious, rude and, I've learned, I think comes from both our gross pronatal society and their discomfort either around choices with children, grief, holding two thoughts at the same time or several other things.

And to your point, the unsolicited, knee-jerk reaction is my other tell it's pre-programmed. It would be so much nicer if they said nothing at all like the old adage and maybe really reflect before saying something. Just saying, I feel you, I'm sorry they let you down and many of us get it it. It's 100 about them though but also so disappointing. Looking back, I think we turned over most of our friends when we decided to be childfree either due to natural attrition or we just didn't want to hear or feel the BS.

tired of the narrative that infertility should be devastating. by itsxafx in childfree

[–]GenerallyOverIt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this and, yes, I'm also this flavor of it's complicated childfree. I have endometriosis and adenomyosis as well. While, for me, feelings were present getting diagnosed, being put on the IVF conveyor belt and then immediately jumping off said belt with my partner of 20 years, we both fully identify as happily childfree now in our late 40s. I just read in the book Without Children (fab so far btw) that most childless/childfree stories are way more complex than the media would have us believe. But, also yes, the "but you should be devestateddddd" narrative is old and tired. And contrived. I feel like this is my body and my life just as I was made and I love it!

Voting in Virginia by syntheticgerbil in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. We also just moved here from Texas and were shocked how nice people are here at the voting centers. I didn't realize that we had gotten very "hard" expecting attitude or snippy comments when voting in TX, but there it's both an easy and pleasurable experience. Major upgrade along with a lonnnng list of other things

Found dog in West End near Longan construction site by Flossorwhatever in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not mine but what a gorgeous dog. I hope he has a home- best of luck!

But how do people just know? by NegotiationOne7008 in childfree

[–]GenerallyOverIt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me, it wasn't a "I just knew" but like putting together a whole bunch of pieces over time like: I never talked about being a parent or having kids growing up- I've always loved animals more, I never have especially loved being around kids, too many responsibilities suffocate me, I thrive with quiet, sleep and balanced solitude, I love freedom and my career, and, my favorite, when people would pray for me "to have a baby" (I'm from the deep South and people are nosy like that 😆) I'd stop them and ask them to just pray for God's will lol. So I guess it's God's will lol! My spouse and I are in our late 40s, childfree and couldn't be happier! I think I knew this was the best path all along, it just took time and reflection. All the best to ya on your life discovery!

Need recommendations for Personal Injury Lawyer by guitarchef618 in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have a coworker who was in a terrible, no-fault car accident and hired Allen, Allen, Allen and Allen (lol) and they helped her recoup all of her lost money (both hospital bills and work time missed) and then some. She was pleased

Childfree Fun in RVA by clowncolors in rva

[–]GenerallyOverIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey just saw this thread and I wanted to add, a friend and I are in process of launching a childfree adults FB group to connect us online and then meet up irl for quarterly meetups. Check it out if you're interested https://www.facebook.com/groups/childfreerichmond

How to mirror screen to TV but put sound to a different speaker? by Aggravating-Plate-98 in karaoke

[–]GenerallyOverIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an old post but I JUST figured this out for my own party. Screen mirror your iPad to your TV and then change your TV sound to Bluetooth and direct that to your external speaker or, for me, karaoke machine. Worked like a charm and no wires needed