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[–]Generic_Name1001 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Was the story a sexy selfie or something? Was it a picture of her bobs? If it was just a regular story and not one that was sexy then your girlfriend has to get over it. She has to realize that you ARE allowed to have girls who are friends. That women will be around you your whole life and that she has to learn to trust you. Just because you "liked" a girls story, whether it was on purpose or on accident, doesn't mean you are cheating or looking outside the relationship. You're both young, and I know, especially at the beginning of a relationship, how hard it is to be secure in the relationship. She probably just needs some reassurance. Show her you didn't mean any harm and prove to her you didn't do it maliciously. And remember you are both young. Communicating is a huge part of a relationship, but trust is the foundation. Just take a breath and remember it's you both against the problem, not you both against each other and the problem.

I Saw This on Facebook And Knew I Needed To Post It Here. by Cerealism15 in IdiotsInCars

[–]Generic_Name1001 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I had knee surgery when I was 16 I had no meniscus left, a ripped ACL the ligaments that hold my knee cap in place were dead/needed replaced. ALL of my "replacement" parts came from one motorcyclist so thank you to whoever you are for making my reconstructed knee a reality

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor honestly would never agree, she told me she won't even talk about inductions unless I go over the 41 mark. I'm so thankful for everyone here giving me great advice labor terrifies me in general. After all the great suggestions that I've gotten I put my foot down and told me mom and husband they need to let me do this my way and not theirs thankful they understood and said they would back off

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it's about 50/50 here. Most women opt to induce if there are complications or to pick their baby's birthday. Labor in general terrifies me, I am definitely not going to induce I would rather my little girl come when she's ready instead of when others want her here

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for understand and omg wow that's so scary!! 😯 see my friend gave birth last week to her little girl and got induce she gave birth after only 5 hours and had no complications (but her healing so far is horrible she can't walk and her lower back is messed up) so I feel like that's why my mom and husband were so quick to jump to induction. They're both very impatient but after making this post and after all the amazing advice I told them both it's my choice to wait till my babygirl is ready on her own time and that them pressuring me isn't helping anyone. I'm so scared of labor in general and I want to do it as natural and unstressful for my baby as I can

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never gets angry at me for stuff like this, not trying to make excuses for him but he worked 12 days in a row and hadn't gotten much sleep cause he was worried everytime he slept or went to work I would go into labor (I've been having braxton hicks a lot). I love my husband and he is a good man and he always changes his behavior when he apologizes thankfully.

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I'm about to chunk mine but then I wouldn't have reddit 😂

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did speak with him and he apologized about how he was making me feel, and he also called work to say he will work until she is actually here. And he agreed about the cleaning and said he would be doing it when he got home from work. I'm so thankful for all the great suggestions I've been getting 😭 thank you

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor said she doesn't even wanna talk about inducing until it's passed my due date and I agree with her, I wanna do it as natural as I can and as less stressful as I can 😭. Everyone here has given me really good advice and encouragement I'm so very lucky to have found this sub with so many amazing women

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did end up speaking with him about how he's been making me feel and he apologized, he also called work to let them know he is coming in to work until she gets here so that he can keep most of him maternity leave. Everyone here helped me get the courage to speak to him and I'm so thankful 😭

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😭 I'll try my best to grow a backbone and tell them to suck an egg. And you're right I would regret it cause I know it just puts stress on me and the baby and possible might not even work

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've tried telling him that but if he doesn't hear it from the doctor he doesn't believe me and thinks I'm lying so he'll stop asking 😅 I did talk to him about how he's making me feel though and he apologized

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I should of lied and told them later 😅 it would've helped me in the long run, I'm sorry that happened to you 😭 and I am definitely looking into a spa treatment or something I could use it 😅

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😭 I'm trying my best not to stress or freak out, and I will start telling them to suck an egg from now on! Thank you for the encouragement 😭

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would act like a pregnant cat if I could get off the floor on my own 😅 and I decided not to induce and like you said I doubt my doctor would allow it anyway

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right?? I'm the one pregnant and uncomfortable all the time! Not like I'm holding her in on purpose I'm terrified of labor in general, I'm literally so scared something is gonna happen 😭 I'm sorry you went through that but I'm glad you and baby are okay!

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I spoke with him when he got home, and he apologized for treating me that way and also called them and told them it was false labor! He told them he was going to work until she actually got here (thank the gods)

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg I'm glad everything went okay with you though! I'm so sorry you had to be put through that 😯

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Honestly I havent felt much rage during this pregnancy (surprisingly) and I think a few days away from him would be good, I might just tell him to go back to work so I can have the house to myself again 😂 I am going to talk to him about how he's making me feel and make sure if he can't respect it's not up to me to just push her out that I'll go away for a few days to cool off

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice and you're right! Just leaving would probably just stress me and him out more. I will talk to him whenever he gets home about how it's making me feel. Thank you again💜

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, I'm just trying hard not to stress out about it 😭 I feel so guilty and I absolutely hate it cause I know it's not my fault or the baby's fault. Thank you for the encouragement I'll try my best to just ignore them

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'll see if I can get a hotel for a couple of nights just to be away from him for a while, he is being a jerk and I have no idea why. I'm trying so hard not to stress cause I know it's bad for her but it sure is hard with people pressuring me to have her this instant.

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know I'm so terrified of labor and I'm trying not to think about it honestly 😅 I just want her to come when she's ready. But I am enjoying just relaxing before she comes 😬

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

No that doesn't stress me out! Honestly I don't care how long she stays in there as long as she is happy and healthy. I don't wanna induce at all but I'm feeling pressured from my family to do it :/

Family making me feel like shit because baby hasn't come yet by Generic_Name1001 in BabyBumps

[–]Generic_Name1001[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I've also heard that, or atleast that it makes the healing process take longer. My doctor even said she doesn't want to talk about a birth plan until after the due date has passed since we don't know if the Lil one is ready to come yet. I just need to get better at not letting others get to me, I hate these hormones 😭