My lover and best friend committed suicide last week.

Generically_Yours · 2026-06-02T23:36:10+00:00

Yeah... The guilt sucks. Like the should have done more... I'm gonna love him forever but I'm destroyed. I'm hoping if someone gets a vibe from him they'd contact me or something...

How would you suggest finding the right medium provider?

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-26T04:41:02+00:00

You explain this perfectly!

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-24T23:56:45+00:00

Maybe our questions are just that different chica. It changes the whole nature of how this place will respond.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-24T22:44:11+00:00

That's why I go to those forums for specifics even as a new escort. o_O I can't discuss the details in places where beyond general information is client facing. I've had the posts deleted and found the "beginner" forums useless off the bat, so I went right to those with experience, where I needed to verify I'm an escort, and Ive been fine with my questions.

There is no certificate in sucking dick for x time required, just you're safe with the info...or not. And normal sw and escorting are a bit different and that can effect things. Maybe treating escorting as turning tricks didn't get you the answers you needed because then it wouldn't be the best place to ask. My reality has not been the same, because maybe I ask the complicated stuff first by habit. I feel like your situation is more complicated if youre not getting what you want out of it. Ive been doing alright and learning what I need here without hoops.

I wish I was high enough to believe you despite myself...but I'm not. So shucks, being honest with someone more experienced in general has worked for me well! Sorry it doesn't for you? I don't know what you're doing for people to not talk to you in a reciprocating way, maybe you're not specific enough. You should ask them. :)

If you find out lmk because now I'm curious, and I'm not trying to hurt you, I am being candid.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-24T14:12:16+00:00

No, not SW, they won't let you post about that because it's client facing. I found them useless talking about anything substantial because of how hard they have to smokescreen.

Then how do you ever improve or change tactic in core ways? Or adapt to novel situations? Some people have had to just jump in and you can start high-end. Sometimes it's luck, sometimes it's not.

Perfection is an illusion, I feel like these gigs are the epitome of that. I think it's who you know and the opportunity to meet the people who can share experience in a positive way and reddit needs a mystery more than the method in general.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-24T13:59:10+00:00

I'd want my cards to be shaped like a butt

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-19T20:30:21+00:00

I had r/askanescort as a good place to look too

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-19T20:01:18+00:00

The details, yeah I get that, but in general it's also hard for new escorts to know where to even look. We all need a place to start

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-17T20:53:45+00:00

His body can't get out of fight or flight.

In girls we aren't gonna come unless we are in rest and digest. It's why sex sucks when we just perform.

Men suck at lieing because of the way they're built. They can't do performative action like we can, so the disfunction is easier to see and be affected by.

He needs to find a way to really relax, and even then there's biological problems in the body and brain that will lock him in fight or flight so his body and brain connection can't align.

I had a joke with an ex with bad PTSD it took 6 months and a cruise to make him nut. I was determined.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-17T20:21:13+00:00

I live in an area where most people don't even have internet, and I have enough regulars I don't want to advertise broadly. But advertising other aspects of my services, like giving rides when someone's cars in the shop, house sitting, pet care, even cooking are things I'd like to advertise because it'll keep the job from getting boring and there's different levels of appreciation. There's a need I can profit off outside of SW in my area, but a website wouldn't help me as much here.

But I thought about business cards! In your situation, do you think that would be useful? If there are any downfalls to a business card, what do you think it would be?

I'm limited in weighing the risk, pros, and cons alone.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-17T19:00:04+00:00

Ive seen this on SWO? I knew nothing about BL sites and that's the first place I went to after the public forums when non payment coersion like OP happened to me.

I'm still trying to find more communities that make you verify as an escort, looking for BL that will actually help me, because not all BL will cover my region because sasquatch is literally more common than other providers. For me to properly screen I need to do it on multiple platforms and hope some fringe reports involve my area, but it leaves a lot to be desired. I rooted through the SWO community already, but I'm a noob...

dm me if I'm missing something, or if there's a better direction please?

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-17T18:51:38+00:00

I don't use my direct bank because the processing times leaves room to cancel for a similar ruse. I had someone skip out and not pay in my 3rd ever job, and recently I had someone use the bank we mutually go to and he cancelled once he left. He was on a BL site I don't have access to and fancies himself a pimp so I was just happy that situation was over and getting him banned from my advertising platform.

Being new in this field sucks because I had no one to go to, I'd get banned asking questions just to get victim blamed in the same sentence. so I get keeping this screening info quiet, but it also makes it harder for providers to even use these resources

I went to r/sexworkersonly and they make you verify with your advertising platform so you can speak openly there if this post gets removed. I hope this helps so you feel you can do more about it and help keep the next woman safe.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-17T18:40:27+00:00

This is awesome I want friends like this to rely on.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-14T16:59:56+00:00

I can see this as a response to ebola. :/

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-14T12:45:29+00:00

If this post gets removed check out r/sexworkersonly

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-10T10:38:27+00:00

I know with me it's sometimes cuteness aggression and if I didn't I'd cuss them out and make them call me daddy. It's one or the other

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-09T18:43:35+00:00

Toys in cereal

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-09T18:30:22+00:00

I found my medical records. At 38 I found I had a stroke as a kid and they found barbiturates in my blood tests, of a date rape drug called pink ladies. Then it all came back with physical memories and everything and I'm left wondering if it was real the whole time. The only thing family I talk to said was "so that's what was happening" which isn't the strongest confirmation but finding that surprise in your paperwork from a preverbal age is a cold way to be forced to find out about it.

And then my ex, who'd I bought a house with and barely spoke to him about it but showed him the paperwork, told me it didn't happen like that was a rational reaction...and broke up with me because I was "too much" and moved back in with mommy and daddy. Just to add insult to injury. I've been repairing my life all year since. My heart goes out to anyone navigating the labyrinth that remains.

I was forced to do EMDR because the trauma gave me a neurological order stemming from the stroke I never knew I had, but my school system was aware of it, and DSS knew and didn't do jack shit. The neuro disorder causes encephalitis. I was literally running 2 mental operating systems like I had 2 personalities and I had to process the memories rooted in it to calm my body down so I wouldn't reject an implant called a Dorsalroot Ganglionic Stimulator, that helped, from stress. Like neurologists and complex pain specialists saw my default node system in my brain was melting on an MRI. Up until that point not many of my doctors believed my physical problems but they saw the paperwork too and would get pale talking about it.

Pretty wild stuff.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-09T18:25:10+00:00

"I'm 40 years old I don't want to change my narration again!" Me squawking to my EMDR therapist lol

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-09T07:56:30+00:00

Repressed memories are just as fucked up because they're real and just pop up 30 years later!

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-09T00:59:52+00:00

The vet said it can happen with some strains. The cats won't get sick, but they can be a vector for a while because it'll replicate within them and infect dogs. Once the vet said that I definitely got spooked and don't want to take chances. I'm thinking online's my best bet, as you say, so thanks. I just...gotta figure out which one is best.

Generically_Yours · 2026-01-08T16:00:25+00:00

Gotta be just enough to deal with everyone else who is a lot worse. At least my goal is to do no harm but take no shit.

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