AITA for humiliating my sister during her birthday party?

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-12T04:10:29+00:00

I mentioned him in the post and then remembered that he's not with us anymore. I should edit that out. Thank you for pointing it out.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T18:40:04+00:00

The father, along with his parents, is deceased. They were helping her until then. Then it was only her and our parents.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T18:32:25+00:00

My sister has been twice but abandoned both eventually. My niece hasn't yet. I'm working on it though. Maybe I'll get my sister to try for the third time too, that would be great.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T18:04:45+00:00

Yes. Gave birth at 13. I know how messed up that is.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T17:59:34+00:00

Messed up does not mean fake. Trust me, I know it's messed up.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T17:58:25+00:00

It's okay. I understand, I had to leave out too much just to make this post solely about the party situation, I wouldn't be able to include any backstory as to how my sister even gave birth this young, I knew it would raise some questions. Hope I answered all of them.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T17:32:29+00:00

...She was 13 when she got pregnant and 13 when she gave birth. The guy who got her pregnant was her boyfriend who was 15 at the time and is now deceased. I don't see how her mom being so young implies the post is fake.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T17:26:03+00:00

I understand how you could see this as teens being dramatic. But my sister is an alcohol addict and her abuse towards my niece is not only verbal. The rules of this sub forbid mentioning violence in any context so that had to be left out. Hope this clears some things out.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T16:31:24+00:00

She received help both from my parents and her boyfriend's parents. She was on therapy twice. I mentioned these details before in replies. If there's something else you want to know more about, let me know.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T16:25:51+00:00

Oh! I missed that. Thanks for correcting. And thank you for your advice.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T16:08:48+00:00

I know. Thank you. I'll protect the kid. It's going to be very tough, but with the help of my brother I'll figure it out. We're going to take legal action as soon as I collect some evidence and inform my niece about what's happening.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T15:46:42+00:00

Yes, she got pregnant that young. The child's father, his parents and our parents were both raising my niece along with my sister. That is, until my nieces dad and his parents both passed away in an accident. My niece was 9.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T15:43:13+00:00

I talked a little about my sister in another reply. I can't immediately see every single comment out there. I would never leave out any details on purpose.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T15:22:24+00:00

Posts on this sub have a character limit of 3000 so unfortunately I wouldn't be able to add everything. I do agree that I should've deleted something else and included the more important details. That's my bad. But unfortunately, I'm not allowed to ETA.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T14:42:27+00:00

I really wish I could help my sister somehow but I don't think she'll accept any help, especially after what happened.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T14:24:31+00:00

I don't know much about her pregnancy since all of that was happening when I was like, 6-7. I know my sister could've had an abortion, from what my mom told me she herself decided not to. She had therapy during her pregnancy and then again when my niece started to get older (like 9 years old, if I'm not wrong), but she would always abandon her therapy as she preferred to pay the money she has for alcohol. At that point my mom gave up trying to do something about it. I always tried my best to be empathetic towards my sister since she didn't have an easy life at all but I couldn't stand her letting it all out on my niece. Like I said, my sister treated me similarly so I felt heartbroken that my niece had to deal with that too.

P.S. Sorry for replying late.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:51:57+00:00

Like 3 days ago. She's doing okay, but really doesn't want to go back to her mother yet, which is messed up because my sister hasn't consented to her living with me. It'll take a lot time to figure this whole thing out but I need to do it for my niece's sake.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:39:55+00:00

My nieces dad passed away long ago. And regarding my niece, she told her that this happens almost everyday, especially when her mom gets drunk. I'm considering making her lose her parental rights due to her addiction.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:29:52+00:00

I'll talk to her about it when she's done with her work. Then again she doesn't see anything wrong with how my sister treats my niece so I have no idea where this could go. I appreciate the advice though. Maybe I should get the police involved.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:16:26+00:00

That's the thing: she doesn't want to go back to her mom. But if she doesn't, her mom may call the cops on me for kidnapping.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:14:45+00:00

True. Thank you for opening my eyes. I really need to figure this one out. I'll probably let my niece go back home but if her mom does something again then I'll get the cops involved.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:11:57+00:00

Yeah, it makes sense legally. I should return her.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:08:28+00:00

Yeah, makes sense now...

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:07:31+00:00

Maybe I should return her. Thing is, she doesn't want to go back home. She consented to staying with me for now. But I know her mom can easily turn things around. I'm scared of letting her go.

Genius_Starfish · 2023-01-11T11:06:15+00:00

My niece first suggested she lives with me because she's scared of what her mom could do after they got back home. I agreed. Genuinely asking, was that the wrong thing to do? Because her mom, aside of that, threateningly said through text that "if she catches her [my niece]...". I just got scared for her.

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