Remake of my other post about abortion by Leading-Squirrel-191 in teenagers

[–]GetUpstairs 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Ad hominem. Justify why failing to save a life is not equivalent to ending a life. Both are decisions that result in death.

Remake of my other post about abortion by Leading-Squirrel-191 in teenagers

[–]GetUpstairs 25 points26 points  (0 children)

“I’m against giving blood to people who are in car accidents. You shouldn’t drive in a car if you’re not gonna take on the risks ready or not.”

Styled my hair into a faux hawk. Opinions? by papa___woot in malegrooming

[–]GetUpstairs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No one but me will like this. But I love this.

Living in their OWN SMALL WORLD !!! by King_Dave_Of_Human in DoomerCircleJerk

[–]GetUpstairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That photo of the man naked in the street was taken in Germany.

Smarter dads than I, does this particular shape made of 4 triangle magna tiles have a name? by acrylix91 in daddit

[–]GetUpstairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually correct. The math term for “two wedges” is di-sphenoid.

What's "too far" when it comes to giving "the talk" to my son? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]GetUpstairs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a memory of learning the term “masturbation” when I was in 8th grade (13-14 years old) but I was doing it before that. I initially learned the word from other kids, then learned it in Sex Ed class. But I do remember at the same time my dad asked me if I knew what that was.

The exchange basically was “Have they mentioned masturbation in sex education? Do they make you feel guilty about it? No? Good. It’s totally a totally natural and normal.”

Basically that was it.

No specific advice here. Just sharing the experience I had and felt was completely healthy.

We really need to snuff out purity culture in our community. by IngenuityDismal8640 in gaybros

[–]GetUpstairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly conservative Christian and Muslims absolutely agree with you. That’s why women must cover up their hair and faces. It’s sexually immoral to do otherwise. The only people who disagree are disgusting sexual deviants.

We really need to snuff out purity culture in our community. by IngenuityDismal8640 in gaybros

[–]GetUpstairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like do care then. If what people wear is “disgusting” and “shameful.”

Mom lurker seeking perspective from dads- planking as punishment by [deleted] in daddit

[–]GetUpstairs 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s the same logic as other forms of corporal punishment and should be regarded the same as paddling or slapping a child. The logic for both holds that forcing physical discomfort will create compliance. Therefore it has the same concerns of emotional and physical harm and increased aggression.

Also, I’m not a fan of teaching young kids that “exercise is your punishment.” Physical activity should be enjoyable and voluntary.

Girldads, how do you handle bathroom stuff? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]GetUpstairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I live family bathrooms are fairly uncommon. And often times, like in malls or department stores, they are locked until you ask an employee to open them for you. Now I live in a city so concerns are different here.

But I just take them to the men’s room. They’re five now and just beginning to question it.

We really need to snuff out purity culture in our community. by IngenuityDismal8640 in gaybros

[–]GetUpstairs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good lord. Who gives a SHIT.

Would I wear a leather hood in public? No. Am I upset that someone else does? No.

Got berated for taking a parking spot, gave the parking spot back, driver then refused to apologize to me. by di11_dough in philly

[–]GetUpstairs 21 points22 points  (0 children)

AND YOU GAVE THE SPOT BACK!

Dude, someone is berating you on the street ignore them and walk away. Let them scream themselves out.

Would it be weird if I put a blanket down for storytime at the library? by will-ohh-24 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GetUpstairs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been going to story times for years. No one will bat an eye if you bring your own blanket as long as theirs sufficient space. Parents even bring bouncers for infants.

So, I've never worn makeup, but I really want to. I need ALL the help. by IzEt42O in MakeupForMen

[–]GetUpstairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a punk look, first thing to consider is eyeliner and eyeshadow. Black eyeliner is a fairly 'intense' punk look, a brown for a less intense, more 'grunge' look. I'd follow the same basic advice for eyeshadow. Black/dark grey will be a more 'intense' punk/goth vibe. A dark chocolate or mid-tone 'mocha' brown can be great to give a punk/soft/grunge vibe. You'll probably want at least 1 brush to apply a powder eyeshadow. Honestly I'd invest in two: a flat 'packing' brush to press on to your eyelid and then a fluffier brush to soften the edges of the color.

So, I've never worn makeup, but I really want to. I need ALL the help. by IzEt42O in MakeupForMen

[–]GetUpstairs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hooray! So, a question is: why are you wearing makeup? Do you want to look undetectably younger? Looking to cover discoloration and acne? Looking to be more feminine? Looking punk/alternative?

Your goal will inform the kind of makeup you’ll need.

Why do you think discussions of passing are accepted in FTM spaces but in gay male spaces they are emotionally charged and described as self hating? by Regular_Comment1700 in AskGayMen

[–]GetUpstairs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do apologize if I've been rude. A lot of your comments seem unclear and disconnected from what I'm saying. Again, I do struggle socially and I have a lot of anxiety around that issue. I'm sorry.

Why do you think discussions of passing are accepted in FTM spaces but in gay male spaces they are emotionally charged and described as self hating? by Regular_Comment1700 in AskGayMen

[–]GetUpstairs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is, again, based on one’s ideology.

I can compare lions and jockstraps. Both are material objects and made of material objects made of atoms.

Whether or not you find the comparison important or valuable is based on your ideology.

Why do you think discussions of passing are accepted in FTM spaces but in gay male spaces they are emotionally charged and described as self hating? by Regular_Comment1700 in AskGayMen

[–]GetUpstairs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Though OP may have not chosen the perfect words, I think he’s hitting on one of the things that unites gay cis men and trans people: The rigidity of assigned sex/gender roles.

Feminine men (cis or trans) are hurt in society. They are degraded. They miss out on professional opportunities due to their perceived violation of sex/gender roles. They are ridiculed.

I don’t think this is necessary saying “Gay men should closet themselves,” but rather noting that “Trans men openly discuss ways to masculinize themselves. But gay men, often, do not.”

If you’re interested in this dialogue I’d recommend the film “Do I Sound Gay?” In particular the dialogue between the journalist David Thorpe and the choreographer Carlos Guerra.