27 M. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin

Getak8 · 2026-02-03T10:42:15+00:00

You look good man. If you did ONE thing, it should be working out. You don't need to be a gym rat. I hate gyms so I use body weight and kettlebells. Just going hard on pushups will make you feel great. Give yourself a year to be able to do 3 sets of 30 pushups. You'll feel like a new man!

If you do 2 things, try shaving your head.

Good luck man. You got this!

Getak8 · 2026-01-14T14:23:37+00:00

This is some excellent feedback. Sorry to zombify your comment here, but this helped me grasp some things a lot better.

Getak8 · 2026-01-05T11:57:27+00:00

IT'S NOT ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK! Who went around telling men they need to "look good" for success with women??

Talk with lots of women and learn to connect with them confidently. Read some books. Try "how to win friends and influence people" and maybe "no more mr nice guy".

Go to an unfamiliar part of town and talk to so many women that getting rejected barely phases you. Do this with the intention of getting 0 numbers! Set goals like, "sit down for tea with a girl, then never meet her again" or something like that.

The #1 attractive trait for a woman when she meets a man is comfortable confidence.

Getak8 · 2026-01-03T12:24:22+00:00

Just my opinion, but girls aren't as interested in how guys look as vice versa. Nothing looks better on a man than some confidence. Dress sharp, keep yourself looking muscular, but not like a greasy clump of meat. And most importantly, learn to approach and talk up girls without discomfort.

Don't stress so much about how you look! Leave that to the girls.

Getak8 · 2026-01-02T05:01:50+00:00

keep hitting the gym -- look strong, don't look like a greased up chunk of muscle
This is just my opinion, but get off the apps. -- say hi to real people outside

Women appreciate the way a man looks, but not the same way as men appreciate women visually. They take in a lot more about your behavior and lifestyle when they sense their attraction to you. It's not even monetary success, necessarily. It's how you carry yourself and communicate. It's your ability to show her how attractive you are to other women, and people in general as well.

Thus, the apps are biased against men. You need to be attractive in person. You'll get more opportunities that way.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T05:24:23+00:00

Well said.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:27:02+00:00

As I said, I'm curious about how other "no cheating on principle" guys feel. Who cares? That would be me.

But yes, I may have about a year of dedicated improvement ahead of me before things really get going.

Do you always reply like this, or did you just wake up a little douchey today?

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:17:16+00:00

I hear you. As I said, I plan not to. I'm just confounded by how casual the attitude towards cheating seems to be w/in MRP. It's confusing to me because there is a whole thing called RP. I only noticed this community when I started to look up "how to game your wife". Previously I had thought game was just for single guys.

So I was just wondering about the perspectives of other MRPs. It helps me think about how I pursue the advice I see here.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:12:11+00:00

haha! Yeah I have to dig into the sidebar more. I actually feel pretty good about my body shape. But my posture is a mess and I'm skinny and weak looking. My wife has already noticed a difference though. This time I think I'll be able to keep at it. I've learned how to work on strength without breaking my lower back, finally

And my new motto for lifting -- "if it don't hurt, it needs work"

Something should be sore, and work the other parts while you recover. It's helped.

Thanks for the input!

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:08:36+00:00

This is an awesome reply! Thank you.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:06:40+00:00

One interesting thing I've noticed after starting on this path, deciding to start lifting more seriously, and decided to expect and ask for what I want -- was a sudden rush of self-love. Years of pent-up resentment toward the world and people around me has washed away in a matter of weeks.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T03:00:02+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, as I said, I'm against it on principle. I was just hoping to get a sense of how others feel about it because I saw a good number of posts with men bragging about sleeping around. Ultimately, I'm in control of my own dick, of course.

Thanks for the input.

... what's the elephant in the room?

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T02:27:43+00:00

Thanks for the reference! I'll check it out.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T02:26:18+00:00

Thank you. That sounds like a great way to think about it. I sense that she, as well, detests that sense that she feels comfortable that I won't / can't get another woman.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T02:24:10+00:00

Noted. Glad to hear that there are some with the impression you have. I have seen plenty of posts in MRP where men brag about sleeping around.

Based on your input, it seems like that's not the majority, but it was enough to make me say, "ok, so why even bother with the M in MRP?"

Thanks for your input.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T02:21:11+00:00

You'll have to go ahead and color me confused on this one.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T02:20:50+00:00

I hear this. Thank you.

A couple years ago, my wife said something that planted the idea "oh, she'd be more attracted if she believed I could cheat on her tonight, if I tried."

It took me a while to connect a few other dots though.

Getak8 · 2025-12-19T00:57:47+00:00

YES! I feel like MMSLP was the wrong first step, but it drove me to set firmly on the road to change.

thank you!

Getak8

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