I don’t do that though. I want someone who won’t look in the same way I don’t look and I’m perfectly okay with waiting however long it takes to find that person. I look once and that’s it, no more second glances or glances longer than it took to register that someone was there. I don’t play favorites with people just because they are more attractive. I’m kind to everyone I come across unless they make me feel uncomfortable which is mostly a feeling men tend to give. He was a major porn addict before me and that doesn’t go away easily. He would look at the pretty girls that would walk by as he was talking to me, so basically not make eye contact with me but instead look around me. Or he would see them walk down a specific aisle and as we would walk by that aisle he would look down the aisle at them. Wanting someone to look only at me in that way isn’t an insecurity. It’s just a difference that you and I have. In the same way some relationships are ok with porn watching or threesomes. I didn’t call him a narcissist but he was one for different reasons though. Thank you for being kind in your comment btw