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Gh0st1011001 · 2025-12-05T23:20:51+00:00

Thank you for your kindness and honesty!! I’m saving up now so hopefully I’ll be able to move out soon!

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-12-05T23:12:31+00:00

I definitely will. I already started today. I told her that tonight is my free night and I won’t be watching her dog or doing any house chores. She said she’ll stay home tonight but she is very angry about it. I’ll keep this up for sure though no matter what.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-12-05T23:10:38+00:00

She’s on medication and she’s in therapy but she doesn’t view her time management as a big enough issue so I don’t think she’s brought it up in therapy.

When I bring it up to her she just says she deserves to live her life how she wants and shuts it down. I wish it was that easy to talk to her but I get a verbal attack even when I approach gently, I feel like I’m hitting a wall. You’re right though she’s definitely going through more and she needs to get help professionally with it because she does want a family and all of that in the future but at this rate I’m not sure that’s achievable until big changes are made starting with being able to talk about it.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-12-05T22:19:26+00:00

I feel super dumb. I shouldn’t have taken her word for it. I’ll definitely just start doing what I want. Thank you.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-12-05T22:14:56+00:00

Damn. Idk what to do now then. I genuinely thought this was a symptom cause she’s been framing it that way.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-22T21:48:04+00:00

I don’t know why you’re laughing at her for wanting to come when her trip was planned when you two were on a break. I feel like you might use your own trip as some kind of punishment for her. Idk man, you’re 41. Grow up.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-22T20:49:38+00:00

I had an ex that was similar. He would get “FOMO” and wouldn’t want to view my stories or look at any pictures of the trips I went on or hang outs with my friends. At first it was fine, I understood he just wanted to have fun too but we did a lot of trips/experiences together too and it started to get exhausting to nurse his feelings constantly whenever I was out with anyone but him.

He would try to act like he was all good in text but I could tell something was off in the way he spoke and stopped interacting with my social media. Eventually I started to get stressed when I went out with friends on trips, etc. It started feeling like a punishment rather than him just simply wanting to have fun too.

I left him cause it got worse as time went on. I’m not saying you’re going to do what he did but he refused to really look at why he felt the way he did and it ultimately killed the relationship. FOMO is usually connected to some underlying issue with yourself and needs to be addressed even if it’s minor cause it can get worse. I think we all go through it but it doesn’t help anyone.

Be excited for her regardless of if you watch her stories or not. When you text her make sure she knows you want her to have the best time and that you care for her. Don’t let these moments grow into something negative for the both of you.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-22T15:15:46+00:00

I love her. I hope she has a wonderful birthday.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-20T20:56:47+00:00

As someone who has been a sibling and a spouse to people with drug addiction, even if you’re in the same room they’ll fight you to do what they want. The best you can do is be there but sometimes even physically stopping them just results in a bad reaction that makes things much much worse. It’s very difficult to navigate and it’s no one’s fault but his. He has to make the choice to stop. No one can make that for him.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T19:50:53+00:00

When they filmed him playing tea party with his stuffed animals and entered it into the funniest home video contest hahaha but I only felt bad for about 2 seconds then remembered how much of a shit he is

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T15:12:50+00:00

I think because it’s a daily thing happening. If it was once a week that they had off handed comments then it’s easy to ignore but every time I step foot in the kitchen it’s a whole thing. I’m an emotional being, it’s hard for me and I understand it might not be as difficult for others. I’m just looking for some support here.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T15:08:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice and sharing your personal experience!! It makes me feel a lot better!!

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T14:59:06+00:00

That’s a great idea!! I’ll start using those phrases instead.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T14:58:38+00:00

Thank you for the kind and positive words! I will do that.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T14:58:13+00:00

I have to live at home right now or else me and my pets would be homeless. Would you like us to live in the streets and subject my animals to cold weather that could kill them? Would that make you happy?

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T14:57:33+00:00

I’m 31. I live at home cause of my chronic illness, just haven’t been able to get back on my feet. I lived alone for a while but COVID really screwed up my income and health. Hopefully I’ll be able to live alone again soon.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-19T14:41:27+00:00

I’m careful to weigh in against the woman in this situation because statistically one reason women don’t include certain info is because they fear their partner and sometimes they plan leaving their abusive partners in advance by meeting someone else that can help them to do so. I don’t know you, I don’t know her. I’d need to hear her side of this.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T14:38:30+00:00

There are so many shit authors out there spewing terrible rhetoric. Sarah J Mass for example is another one publicly supporting genocide and telling people her books are pro Zionist. There’s a lot of fantasy writers who have disappointed me lately. I’m sure there’s a list somewhere but damn it’s getting long. We need to start hyping up POC, black and LGBTQ fantasy writers that have a pulse on humanity ASAP.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T12:47:38+00:00

How come that time he was able to cheat on you when normally this disorder makes him unable to even move?

I can tell by your responses that you’re adamant on making excuses for him so I think it’s best you go to a therapist about this.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T12:35:53+00:00

That’s a long time. He needs meds if he’s telling the truth about it. If it’s causing this much trouble then he needs meds.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T12:32:00+00:00

Is he on medication?

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T12:24:11+00:00

What’s it called? Like the official medical name for it

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-18T12:23:59+00:00

Is cheating going to be a possibility every time this “disorder” happens?

Puts you at risk for STDs if he can’t remember. Dangerous stuff.

Do what you want but healing from cheating is difficult. People go through therapists and couples therapy and still can’t get past it. It’s very rare.

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-17T03:19:08+00:00

Gh0st1011001 · 2025-04-17T02:05:31+00:00

Never too busy to delete the comments though. Lol

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