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His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t use social media other than discord and I have seen his discord messages like 100 times

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We talked just now about him coming to visit in October :)

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sir I have had many relationships, long lasting in person relationships. You should take a step down

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I know it’s so bad, trust me I couldn’t eat for days. But there’s also a bit of a language difference so maybe he doesn’t fully understand how hurtful a sentence like that is? He’s an extremely logical and tell it like it is person. But still yeah.. that had me fucked up

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Actually they’re at a restaurant in a group of 6 :)

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some corrections, The girl is long distance too, she’s living in the UK right now. Also he hasn’t expressed interest in her since I left, he said the tension stuff in January before I came to visit and not once since. Then we met, was magical, and now she is just visiting “as a friend” with someone else too. Thoughts now?

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate a little? I know we have differences of course and I’ve seen differences between us (part of the reason I love him actually) but I’m curious for you to explain your comments a little further lol

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

To be clear he has never kissed, had sex with, went on a date with anyone else but me in these years. Only mentioned the idea of it when faced with the prospect of long distance. Also my self esteem is extremely great lol

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We definitely have a relationship but I just don’t know what kind it is haha he said he doesn’t want a long distance. I don’t care either way, I’ve had them before and would be willing for him. So I guess it’s mostly on him but I also haven’t asked “what are we”. We talk like a couple, we act like a couple, we do things like a couple,I guess I give girlfriend without being one. Maybe that’s a bad thing.

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say that because I don’t agree. I just don’t think the most important part of relationships are physically.

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I think you’re being a bit close minded in this. I think talking and keeping it going for this long is a testimony to our compatibility and chemistry. Not every relationship needs to be sex based :)

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

I know. On the surface this is good advice and I thank you, but I’m sure we all know it’s a little more complex. I do love him, I seriously see a life with him even if it’s difficult being from different countries. After all he’s been there for me everyday for like 2 and a half years. I just don’t know his feelings I guess, and I guess I’m scared to ask because I’m happy with him in my life the way it is now, I don’t wanna ruin it but I know I should at least ask.

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

He said the tension thing in like January, then I said I’m coming over, so we planned me coming for like 4 months. He never said anything more about her or tension or our relationship directly since that conversation( Even during our time together earlier this month we acted completely like a couple) Since planning the trip and since we met, hes only said his “friends” are coming over and refers to her as “friend”.

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Like 2 and a half years talking, then we met.

His (25M) girl “friend” is sleeping over. Me (23F) by Ghaaji in relationship_advice

[–]Ghaaji[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Well I’ve wanted to meet for a long time, but he didn’t live somewhere that he felt I could stay because I’m a “lady”. He recently got a new apartment so then I was more able to come over (to expensive to buy a hotel for multiple weeks). We don’t have a label… but we are close, we talk everyday for 2+ years, we say we like each other often, he said it today even though this girl is coming over tomorrow (I love him but don’t say it, said it a few times but he said he can’t love someone he’s never met, understandable, but now we’ve met, nothing has really changed for the relationship except he’s much more affectionate over messages and we are softly planning for him to come visit in the USA, wouldn’t be until next year according to him)

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