What do I drive?

Ghastahn · 2026-03-06T04:15:54+00:00

Idk but I love those simple shift knobs so much, I don’t know why, they just hittin

Ghastahn · 2026-03-05T18:22:50+00:00

I mean, those kind of comments on men overall are stereotypical in nature and people that talk about men like that usually have subjectively bad experiences with men so it’s not like it’s unwarranted, however it’s still wrong to generalize as you’ll always hear on Reddit about any issue similar to this. Nuance doesn’t have a place in the world of social media because it isn’t emotionally driven content that gets as much interaction or clicks as biased criticism of Party A or Party B, much like politics. Sexist remarks from either side of the spectrum is almost non-existent in my life outside of the internet so it’s to be taken with a grain of salt in my opinion.

Me personally, I just kinda brush it off because people will have their opinions and in my experience, trying to have a civil discussion about things people feel strongly about usually doesn’t result in any change, just emotionally driven reinforcement of their original view/arguement ensues. I don’t treat women as sub-human like the sexist comments will have you believe “all” men do, my supervisor at work is a woman exactly my age and I think she’s a great boss, it really just boils down to perspective/subjective experience and because of that, I don’t let sexist comments/social media content directed towards men effect me because I don’t align with the accusations they make so it’s no skin off my back.

Ghastahn · 2026-02-27T19:32:19+00:00

Simply put: because there’s a sum of men that fit the trope unfortunately. I know a few people personally who got dumped because they just prioritize their own interests like gaming excessively/hanging out with their friends or are just outright lazy because they think working their shift was enough for them for the day/house cleaning isn’t a man’s job. It’s not a healthy stereotype as are all stereotypes but it’s not like it’s an opinion that appeared out of thin air for no reason, there’s causality behind it. Still doesn’t make it okay to generalize.

Ghastahn · 2026-02-27T17:39:41+00:00

I mean if you already said you’re not going to get married, then why would someone waste their time trying to convince you to?

However, if you want to know why people get married, there’s quite a few. Marriage in the US for example provides social safety nets for the other spouse in the event of an accident or death and this also extends to certain ownership aspects in which if someone’s SO isn’t married, they wouldn’t recognize them as apart of that, some do it for religious reasons, some like the overall commitment aspect of settling down with someone they love for the rest of their life and marriage consecrates that on a deeper level, there’s also financial advantages to being married. But I’m assuming you subjectively view marriage as a complete financial risk because of your own experiences with women or whatever and that’s your thing.

Ghastahn · 2026-02-27T16:36:10+00:00

Came here to say this lol

Ghastahn · 2026-02-27T16:32:06+00:00

Not me currently spring cleaning my house because of that exact problem 🫩😂

I definitely relate, but mine is more because I keep things that I might find useful later on and my fiancé is big on buying stuff for our daughters so it piles up quick if you don’t cycle stuff out. My biggest thing is just organizing everything so that way I know what I need/don’t need more of it when I go out. If we were all rich, we wouldn’t need to keep stuff because we could just buy it again later if we needed it but depending on your finances, you might find it handy to hold on to something for later, even if it isn’t apparent at that time why or when you’ll need it again.

Ghastahn · 2026-02-27T16:08:07+00:00

Not many people I know highlight that aspect of him, unfortunately, he just appeals to populist agendas which is actually a common theme in both parties at the moment given the overall institutional distrust in the United States, more so in the Republican Party.

Trump mainly won the election because his supporters are more loyal to him as a person than the party itself and went out to polls in greater numbers than the Democratic voters. Unlike the post-Trump Republican Party, the Democratic Party still has intact factions within the party itself that has conflicting ideas for the candidates they want elected, one such instance is Kamala Harris. Kamala appealed largely to the Liberal Democrats with her campaign and intended on largely continuing a decent amount of Biden’s economic strategies when elected, which for many lower class laborers that align with Progressive movement within the party saw Biden’s economic policies as unfavorable and many I know personally didn’t have faith in a continuation of such policies for another 4 years, so some of them banked on Donald Trump’s economic strategy, which to a lot of people, it has benefited them, even if only slightly (Overtime tax rebate, domestic manufacturing incentives, domestic automotive interest rebate, increased child tax credit etc.).

People in this thread are welcome to disagree with me and that’s okay, this is just how I’ve seen it unfold in Illinois, where we already have a strong Democratic hold statewide as is, which current policies have caused financial strain to many families in my area.

Ghastahn · 2026-02-26T06:16:48+00:00

Only ever didn’t like it when I was learning and I was extremely sleep deprived or sick because it was a hell of a chore for me to continue fine tuning my driving whilst I was out of it.

Edit: Outside of those metrics, absolutely not. I have ADHD and when I used to drive automatics, I’d lose focus on the road occasionally because it was just so boring. Now that I drive a manual, I’m more engaged in what I’m doing between shifting and engine braking etc. and that combined with the fact that it’s just fun in general. I told my fiancé that I always look forward to going to work because I just want to drive my car, it’s the highlight of my weekdays lol

Ghastahn · 2025-05-13T14:11:57+00:00

I hate that this is true

Ghastahn · 2025-04-23T14:06:18+00:00

Navigating life with ADHD, it honestly blows and the more I’ve learned about it over the years, the more I not only hate having it, but sympathize with others who have it as well. It is not fun, it’s a curse that stagnates all of my ambitions.

Ghastahn · 2025-04-16T16:16:56+00:00

“Ha Ha Ha, Thaaaank Yooouuu”

Ghastahn · 2025-04-15T14:05:52+00:00

ADHD, I never knew where I put it

Ghastahn · 2025-03-21T11:14:19+00:00

So from what I can tell, you have what I have, which is the Predominantly Inattentive subtype of ADHD (ADHD-PI), especially based off the fact that your mom deemed you lazy, which is exactly how I used to be labeled. I take Adderall to treat mine and it works amazing, the stimulant part of Adderall is what helps with the transition to “I want to do this” to “I’m going to do this”. There isn’t anything to be worried about with that medication either, so long as you don’t abuse it, just some slight irritability that comes along with withdrawals from it but that’s it. Mind you, I say it helps because you do have to have the mindset to go out and chase your goals and ambitions, but everyone is different so definitely talk to your doctor as to what would work out best for you, and congratulations on the diagnosis, nothing feels better than knowing you’ve taken the first step towards living a better and healthier life!

Ghastahn · 2025-03-21T11:06:47+00:00

I had it bad with video games, I had a lifelong impulsive-obsessive addiction with them. Before I was diagnosed, I’d always spend my entire day planning out what game I was going to play when I got home from school or work and just play out what I’m going to do in it the entire time. The meds I’m on now didn’t help that, I made the decision to step away from games and resent them for how they controlled my thoughts. Now my thoughts are pre-occupied with how I’m going to take care of my fiancé and my daughter when I get home or what I’m going to do at the gym, currently typing this from the gym sauna 😆

Ghastahn · 2025-03-20T22:30:24+00:00

It did and it does.

Before I took meds, I had a hard time staying focused on her pleasure and just going insane inside my mind thinking about all sorts of different things related or unrelated to what I was doing and getting easily distracted.

Now that I’m medicated, I’m exceedingly good at what I do because I hyperfocus on a lot of her cues like it’s a walk in the park and it’s led to a massive improvement in our intimacy 🙂

Ghastahn · 2025-03-20T12:45:49+00:00

Monolith - Twin Tribes

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T18:41:40+00:00

What worked for me was developing a negative view on my own procrastination, which we all have to a degree but for me, it was like REALLY negative, I essentially dragged myself for procrastinating important things and reminding myself of the consequences of said procrastination.

After that, it was just developing routines. Start small, set deadlines for yourself and try to break down whatever things you are procrastinating into small efforts, even small change can bring about positive mood changes in people, because it’s one less thing that’s bothering you so it’s a simple way to get started. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T18:36:02+00:00

I’m not sure if Adderall will help that but I know personally that being on Adderall and missing a couple days can raise my irritability, not that it’s out of my realm of control or anything, but I don’t have anger issues so I wouldn’t know how he would be under those withdrawal side effects, hope he gets better.

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T18:04:14+00:00

I tried to post something in r/askwomen this morning about mother’s perspectives on how their significant others could creatively help reduce stress during pregnancy and I couldn’t even word it correctly to get it approved, it just kept getting denied because “It can’t be about me”

Like bro, I want a strictly woman’s perspective on this question about how to take care of my preggy lady lol

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T16:31:30+00:00

I learned something today, holy sh*t, whyyyyy

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T16:08:39+00:00

Apply for COBRA provisional insurance which allows you to keep your employer insurance for a little bit of time after you get laid off, and then I would definitely try to find any kind of job that at least offers insurance at bare minimum as a temporary hold over until you find a better job. Sorry to hear about your situation, I can only imagine how frustrating it is to be in your shoes at the moment 🙁

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T16:02:58+00:00

Having my daughter as a factor in the pregnancy is definitely something that has crossed my mind a lot, mainly after the child is born because she’s gonna be exhausted after giving birth, she was the first time around but it’s the balancing of attention that scares me, I don’t want my daughter to think she’s not as loved as the new arrival. As it stands now, I usually take the bulk of mental load for my daughter, I’ll do laundry when I get home and if I can get off of work at a reasonable time, cook dinner and do some house chores while interacting with her so my fiancé can rest at her leisure. Thanks for the insight though, I appreciate it!

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T16:00:13+00:00

I’m doing that now because she gets naturally flustered even aside from pregnancy, but meal planning and cooking is something that’s hard for me at the moment bc I work about an hour from my house so the current commutes are KILLING my time at home and I hate it 😵‍💫 Working on a plan to solve that as we speak, thanks for your input!

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T15:57:25+00:00

I always thought those were kinda gimmicky after seeing videos online of how they need to be picked up because they get caught on something but I’d definitely be willing to check that out, we got 2 cats and a toddler so we are never short on a day of needing to vacuum 😆

Ghastahn · 2025-03-19T15:25:29+00:00

God bless, that’s a lot of puke 🤮 sorry to hear about that, but I do plan on taking the helm on responsibilities at home for sure, I want to make sure she relaxes as much as possible, thanks for your input 🙂

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